Hi Stacey, I wanted to express my condolences to you about the loss of your husband. I'm glad you found a support group to help you through this difficult time. I lost my grandmother, who raised me...just thinking about it, wow it's been 15 years, and I still lose it when I think about her and then losing her, for too long. I learned the Bible's promise that I can see her again on earth mentioned at John 5;28, 29 and Psalms 37:10, 11 gives me hope to see her again in the future and helps me continue on. My hope is that this gives you comfort as well. You and your son are in my prayers. Have a great day!
Stacy this is all part of grieving as you struggle with a new normal! In the first stages of grief I use to worry about myself because I was doing so well but after looking back on it I was NOT doing well at all. You are struggling to make sense of all of this and it is hard because you also have a young child to deal with who does not understand. Take each day as a new beginning, and always look forward not back. It truly is a baby step process and some days we feel as though we have fallen back to the beginning (the grief tango) and that is OK it just makes us stronger. Your tears are healing for your soul so cry when you need to and it truly is about YOU.
I am 17 months into this and I truly hate every day of being here but I am so I need to adjust, keep myself busy and look forward. Just keep the faith and keep looking forward! Sending you big hugs, Jane P.
Stacy I suggest you take some pictures of stuff you may be depending others to dispose of for you. It will give you added documentation if need be and will protect your assets if they should be MIA. Good luck with your move and remember to breath all of this is overwhelming! Hugs, Jane P.
Wow I can't believe that happened. .I'm so very sorry. I had to watch my wife die also. It was so horrible I still can't believe she's gone. Thanks for being there. Remember if u wanna talk day or night, I'm here. I'll give you my number if you ever wanna talk. I know exactly what you're going through.
Stacey, I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my wife a month ago in an atv accident. I miss her so much and still can't pick up the pieces. No words seem to help and I feel so lost right now. I almost gave up the other day. But I didn't cause I knew I have to be there for our children. Please do the same. Good luck.
Stacey...don't even try to understand why things like this happen. You won't get a definitive answer and will only drive yourself crazy trying to figure it out.
I can understand the shock of finding him like that...it's an awful thing and you feel helpless. But you aren't deserving of guilt. There is no way of knowing if your getting home earlier would have saved him...or if this might have happened at a different time.
Still, even without guilt, you are and I both feel the pain of losing someone we loved.
Marje fell down 6 steps and hit her head..I was at her side within seconds.....and I knew then it was bad.....so bad...I was afraid she was already gone. I asked her to squeeze my hand and I got a very weak response.....that was her last response. I know your panic...I just about freaked out..and was barely able to call 911.
They worked on her, where she fell for 20-30 minutes and for a half hour in the ambulance trying to stabilize her. Soon after she got to the the hospital, neurologists were telling me that surgery wasnt an option and that she probably wouldn't make it through the night. She went from being a very active fit runner...to "won't make it through the night" in about two hours.
I don't know if I will ever get the image of her lying at the bottom of the stairs out of my mind....my guess is that you ate in the same boat.
Tonight after you put your baby to bed.....and start to cry....I'll be crying right along with you.
Both of us ...have to get through...one day at a time. Other people depend on us
I truly feel the pain you are going through. My wife died suddenly in a freak accident 4 1/2 weeks ago.
Friends ask what they can do...and I don't know what to tell them.
I go out to eat or over their house....and realize that only half of me is there ...the other half is gone. The time with friends is only a short distraction compared to the hours in the day.
For me, the night is worse..that is when I feel most alone.
In the few days that I have been on this forum, I've learned that the people here understand....but, of course, they have no solution.
You need to be strong for your son. He is more dependent on you than ever.
Dear Stacy I am so sorry for your loss, with so little time having passed I am sure that you will be pretty much numb on your birthday but like Carol said it so well, try to have a good day and be kind yourself. Every night I ask God to comfort us when we mourn, strengten us when we feel that we can't go on and give us His peace so that we may find rest for our weariness. Happy Birthday Stacey. Janice
Stacy you are far too young to be going through all this. I am so sorry, my heart goes out to you. I am lost for words, you had so little time together. All I can do is 'listen', will pray for God to give you strength, you will need it, for yourself and your son. Hope you have people around to help.