Hi Pamela;  Its been a while since I've seen any words from you and I I am hoping you are well.  We got through the holidays and such and hoping for easier days. I dont get much replies from my comments but thats ok sometimes it just feels better to get the words out, its a release instead of bottling it all up. Please let me know you are ok. Take care of yourself. Hugs from Liz

Hi Pam; Just viewed yr page today. Its 4:45 am and I am sitting here reading all these msgs. As you can see I cant sleep at all. My Ron passed Sept. 28,2010. I hope that your days are a bit easier now, or at least maybe you can breathe. I dont know about you but I am still finding it hard to breathe. This really sucks..... I wanted to be married forever and ever together, and like you its not so. I hope our guys are happy and peaceful and perhaps one day we will be together again.
Thinking of you

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Hi Pam
I havent logged onto this site in a week, sorry....
(you r the only one who writes me)
I got the book at the library....

Tonight I started a new bereavement class that is running
for 8 weeks. I am glad I went because there were people
there who's other half died like 3 yrs ago, and they still cry
like we do....Also, one woman still has her husbands stuff.....my daughter told me a week after my husband died to give them to salvation army !
I was so mad....I just cant do it yet.....Everything is just the way it was when he was here....

Pam I was just wondering how you are doing
You dont email anymore. I hope you are okay,
well, as much as "ok" can be.....
I have been reading a book called I cant stop crying.....
It hits everything we have been feeling right on the nail !
Please let me know how you are.....I do care.

Pam I was just wondering how you are doing
You dont email anymore. I hope you are okay,
well, as much as "ok" can be.....
I have been reading a book called I cant stop crying.....
It hits everything we have been feeling right on the nail !
Please let me know how you are.....I do care.

Pam
I havent heard from you in a couple of weeks..
Hope u r ok...

Pam
I havent heard from you in a couple of weeks..
Hope u r ok...

Hi Pam
How did your weekend go ?
Mine was a mess......just crying, although I did call my
daughter to wish her a happy birthday (I sent her a card
in the mail with a gift certificate)....I asked to see the kids
so I went over. She was okay to me.....we will just see
what happens day to day....
But you at least have those little ones around you.
i have nobody ........so lonely, so thats why I end up crying.
HUGS ((())))

Hi Pam
How did your weekend go ?
Mine was a mess......just crying, although I did call my
daughter to wish her a happy birthday (I sent her a card
in the mail with a gift certificate)....I asked to see the kids
so I went over. She was okay to me.....we will just see
what happens day to day....
But you at least have those little ones around you.
i have nobody ........so lonely, so thats why I end up crying.
HUGS ((())))

I am going to go to the website right now....Ill get back to
you later....thanks !

WoW` what a jerk his sister was.....where does she live--
nearby ?
How old are the kids you take care of..?
My daughters birthday is sunday. I called her yesterday but
she didnt answer. She called me back later & said....i saw
you called....I said ya & she goes, well, im on my way with the
thekids to see the baseball game. Ill CALL U TOMORROW...
never did.....

Gee, what website did you find that flag where you can write
what you want on it ?
That sounds like a really good idea.
I go to the cemetery too, i was going every day, but now i go
maybe 2 x's a week......they put the foundation in for his
monument but that wont be ready for 2-3 months.
Imagine ?

But if I was rich & could give her $$....she'd be gone....I know it.
So she is taking out everything on me.
Like they say, you always hurt the ones you love.....

So, I did what I thought in my heart was best.
Now she says I took that away from her.
She has her own problems. Married, divorced got hooked up on the rebound & got pregnant right away & then moved herself & her 2 kids in with the guy & then had # 3.
She is unhappy but stuck because she has no $$ to move.
She is an RN (if u can believe that) but never seems to hold
down a job....

OMG! How many stages of grief did your dr say there was ??
All i do is cry, too.....they say crying is good, but...
Anyhow, the dr's told us there wasent anything more they could do for my husband, he was brain dead. The kids all went home & were going to come back in the morning. (I wanted to stay all night & spend time alone with him)
I didnt want to give the ok, but the nurses told me stories about how some linger on for a few days.

In my heart I know I did right....its what my husband would have wanted....me & him alone.
Hope the dr gave you something to help your nerves.
Keep in touch.....((((())))))) HUGS !

Know whats weird? I had typed a lot more & it wouldnt let me send....it said to take out profanity. All I had used was the word crap.......WTF ???
So I didnt get to tell you the rest of my problems ...in a nutshell
she is mad at me for taking my husband off life support in the middle of the night when she wasent around.

Hi Pam, Im still alive....
But I feel just like you. I dont do anything around
this house....I have no energy either. You said you were going to the dr. My doctor has me on generic zanac. It has helped some, but on top of my troubles I am getting baloney from my daughter.