Oh sweetheart, I'm so sorry for you. My mon died when I was 14. She was so wonderful, funny and fair. Strict and proud of us at the same time. It's so hard to be a young girl and grow up without your mom. I still miss her and it's been 26 years. If there is anything I can do for you at all, please please, let me know. Even if you want to yell, or cry or just talk about anything else. Or if you simply need a momma, you can call me or email me. I'd be honored to be there for you. God bless you and help heal your hurts. -Jill
Jullinae, I feel your loss, hurt, emptiness and aloneness. I lost my precious Mother Dec. 08. She went into the hospital with pneumonia. She also had an intestinal blockage. She couldn't get better so we decided to have comfort care at the hospital. Her doctor was wonderful and my brother and sister and myself decided on hospice. We brought her to my home as I intended to take care of her. She got to my home at eleven and she passed away at 2:05. I felt that she was ready to let go because she knew that she was home. I have had a terrible time with her death. We were so close. We shared every thing. But she told me once that when she passed she knew that I would grieve-but not to grieve too long becuase she wanted me to enjoy my life. I am trying to honor that. She will always be a part of me as will your Mom. Think of all of the good times that you two shared and cherish them. Talk about her. Keep her memory alive. She will always live within your heart. My sister and I went to her grave Saturday to plant a yellow rose bush as this was her favorite flower. I miss my mom more than I have ever missed anyone. But I know that she is with God and the rest of our family that went before and that they are waiting for me to join them one day. That helps to keep me going. I truly hope that your heart will begin to heal soon.
Hi Julianne, I sorry to hear of the death of your mom. I can't even imagine the sadness that you must be having. I wanted to write you this letter to offer you some words of encouragement.The pain, the grief, and the feelings of helplessness can seem unbearable. At such times, we need to go to God’s Word for comfort. (2 Corinthians 1:3, 4) The Bible helps us to understand how Jehovah and Jesus feel about death. Jesus, who perfectly reflected his Father, knew the pain of losing someone in death. (John 14:9) When he was in Jerusalem, Jesus used to visit Lazarus and his sisters, Mary and Martha, who lived in the nearby town of Bethany. They became close friends. The Bible says: “Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus.” (John 11:5) Lazarus died.
How did Jesus feel about losing his friend? The account tells us that Jesus joined Lazarus’ relatives and friends as they grieved over this loss. Seeing them, Jesus was deeply moved. He “groaned in the spirit and became troubled.” Then, the account says, “Jesus gave way to tears.” (John 11:33, 35) Did Jesus’ grief mean that he had no hope? Not at all. In fact, Jesus knew that something wonderful was about to happen. (John 11:3, 4) Still, he felt the pain and sorrow that death brings.
In a way, Jesus’ grief is encouraging to us. It teaches us that Jesus and his Father, Jehovah, hate death. The Bible’s resurrection accounts teach us much about the resurrection to come. People who were restored to life right here on earth were reunited with their loved ones. Thus the Bible gives us a clear promise and a solid hope that by means of the resurrection, many will see their loved ones again here on earth but under very different circumstances.—2 Peter 3:13; Revelation 21:1-4. Please take the time to read the scriptures with your Bible.
Julianne -- losing a parent is very hard. My dad died about eight years ago and I still miss him. Although, I still go through rough times, I have learned to cope with his loss. Sometimes, even now, I might see someone who looks like him or really reminds me of him and I feel sad. Talking about him and sharing my memories of him with others has really helped me. I have come to appreciate that sadness, tears and anger are all a part of the grieving process. Sometimes, I get a little mad with myself that I didn't spend more time with him or that I didn't tell him I loved him more. But, I also feel joy when I think about the things we shared together -- laughter, family outings, and parties. Yes, my dad liked to dance and have fun. He loved to play cards and he loved his children and grandchildren. He lived life to the fullest and I know he would want me to do the same thing. So for myself and for my dad, I try to do that. I keep myself strong by reading the Bible. One of the Scriptures that my father and I shared together is found at Revelation 21:4. If you get a chance, read it. It will give you hope for the future. There are others that have given me great comfort as well.
I will be thinking about you and will write again. Take care and when you can, rejoice in the wonderful memories of your mother.
Hi Julianne, I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm new to this site. Please take care... I truly feel yr pain. I lost my Grandmother in Feb 2008 and it was a complete crazy scene. I loved her dearly. to this day I still invision what could of been. I'm 48 now and just happy to say my Grandmother (Nana) almost lasted a half century of my life.... You are young, you will be alright, I promise.
take care and no matter what.... never forget the love that was given to you.
Julianne I lost my mother in 1989 and I can still feel the pain and heartahe. I took my dad death pretty good because we the (10) kids was trying to be there for my mom. When my mom passed away seems like I had only a small piece of heart left. I couldn't return back to work until 1 month after her passing to get my self together to return to work..My mom I was able to talk to her about any and everything. I truely miss my mom and dad.
Julianne, Sorry to hear about your mother. I lost my father a year ago, June 9, 2007. The lost of a parent is overwhelming. A piece of your heart is lost that you can not get back. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
God bless. Melinda