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At 2:39pm on January 30, 2013, David, BERNIE's dad said…: Wish I could help Cathy, but I am living on a small Government pension, and maintaining Bernie's two dogs. I do know exactly how you feel! How about phoning a few vets and asking if they would do a 'pro bono'?

I wish you and the dogs the best,

David.

At 6:58pm on June 20, 2012, Alicia Rodriguez said…: Hi Cathy how have you been doing good I.hope stopped by to say hi.and hope.you're good I pray for all.of us here God Bless you Alicia Jesse's Mom

At 8:00pm on May 12, 2012, Theresa Sweaney said…: Dear Cathy, I just wanted to say thanks for such a lovely letter today. You have inspired me with it and increased my hope for happier days. Have a blessed day tomorrow. Theresa

At 6:18pm on December 20, 2011, Susan - Donny's Mom said…: Good to see you back on here CAthy. Yes it has been a long time. For sure the xmas joy has been robbed from all of us and I am sure you along with the rest of us will be glad when all the "hipe" is over....

I finally met up with Tami the originator of this site this year....it was really good to meet with her. Once again we are coming back to the desert in May and I will try and meet up with you. We travel with a group of people so it is hard to grab some time away but possibly a lunch might work. I will try and contact you before we leave.

Hugs and keep staying in touch.

Susan

At 10:33am on August 20, 2011, valerie moore said…: dear cathy, 1 week and 1 day 2 yrs ago i lost dusty. i am hurting so bad. i cant think straight. i start a new job on monday and i just cant stand living without dusty. i hate life. i joined a new church and my pastor told me i was "worshiping dusty" and not God. I am GRIEVING dusty. of course like you, our children were our world. i guess in a way, we did worship them because they were our only children. i dont want to survive anymore, i am so emotionally tired and worn, i have no energy. i just want to let go. i love you my friend, valerie

At 4:59pm on July 27, 2011, valerie moore said…: hi cathy, good to see you back...i too, dont post often. just come here to read others postings. if i can send a positive message , i will. hope all is well with you, i think of you often. hugs, valerie

At 1:16pm on June 22, 2011, valerie moore said…: hi cathy, miss seeing you here at legacy. thinking of you always and so grateful to have you as a friend. love, val

At 7:56am on May 12, 2011, valerie moore said…: dear cathy,

i still am just surviving. 2nd mothers day without dusty. unfortunately i have been unemployed for 6 weeks now. i have no health insurance and i am unable to pay for some of my medications. usually, when other issues bring me down, i begin to grieve more. so that is also going on. i know i just have to keep going or i wont be able to move on or get a job. i just have too much time on my hands, however also searching for a job. i pray my dear friend, that you also are doing well. your friendship means the world to me because you understand where i am. thanks for being there on the phone when i need someone special like you to speak with... love you, val

At 6:38pm on May 2, 2011, Shari Soklow said…

Dear Cathy, Thank you for responding and the gift of your friendship!
I agree with you about suicide being selfish but sometimes a person is suffering so much that all they can think about is relieving the pain!
In my beloved son Howie's case, he was suffering beyond belief with schizophrenia, and could not sleep for years! Life had become unbearable for my child and his abusive father was the last straw!
Please tell me your story about being left behind? I really would like to know and hope we can become friends! My precious son left me behind and yet he took me with him! My heart is beyond broken and no mere words can really suffice or do justice to the sadness I feel! Peace & Love ~God Bless You, Shari

At 7:29pm on April 30, 2011, Susan - Donny's Mom said…: Hi Cathy....glad you contacted me. Sorry about your sweet little dog and for sure she is up there with your son and husband. I truly believe that.

I have been as good as possible....you know how that goes. My husband had HUGE back surgery on March 4th so I have been taking care of him. We weren't allowed to travel so this would have been the week we were to go to Palm Desert. I was looking forward to meeting you. We have to wait now till OCtober to travel. I will for sure look you up.

Also glad you are going in a new direction of life. Really its all we can do to try enjoy what we have left here. Especially with both your son and husband gone and you seem to be full of positive energy and life.

It is amazing to read about all the posts of the new people on here. So much good comfort and good thoughts for everyone to read and think about.

I don't know what I would have done without such a site. Thank goodness for Tami. She had a great idea starting this site.

Hugs to you and we will keep in touch. Good to see you back here.

Susan Donny's Mom Forever

At 3:34pm on April 30, 2011, Melinda Ellen Guinn said…: Sorry Cathy. I'm sure Candace is up thee playing with my dog, Queenie. I had her since I was a child. Queenie passsed when Candace was 3 yrs old.

At 8:49am on April 30, 2011, valerie moore said…: dear cathy.

i am so sorry to hear about your precious sarah. its very difficult losing a pet (daughter) . when i lost my pepper she was 13. half lab, half retriever , i was devistated. i have her ashes. i realized also that she was in heaven playing with her dear puppie friends. she was free from her seizers. again, i am so sorry. i love you,, val

At 7:12am on April 30, 2011, Carrie L said…: Hi Cathy thanks so much for writing. I am not much better. I guess a little to many regrets he deserved so much more from me no divorce no numbnesswhich is what my relationship really abandoned things. I see it all so clearly now. and thought he would be alright. never thought he would die. what a horrible thiing for our young men. they are fearless. and wild and free in so many ways. we should have warned him every year about the danger that took his life. i hate it i really hate it without him. am having a better relationship with my daughter but not a goo one with my spouse moved here and it was supposed to be a good life. but it is ho hum as the last 20 years have been. he is not much fun. but my son would have been. why didn't i spnt all my time with mr fun Morgan... It is not good but it is.. love to you carrie

At 4:39am on April 30, 2011, Jeff Justus said…: Cathy, you are truely an inspiration. i'm also weaning myself from this site. I still read what all are saying but I'm moving on with my stages of grief and look forward to the day that I can see life from a whole new perspective. I will say that at the time of my loss, this site was a real inspiration to me. I'll never forget all of the great people that i've conversed with. Thanks again!

At 4:39am on April 30, 2011, Jeff Justus said…: Cathy, you are truely an inspiration. i'm also weaning myself from this site. I still read what all are saying but I'm moving on with my stages of grief and look forward to the day that I can see life from a whole new perspective. I will say that at the time of my loss, this site was a real inspiration to me. I'll never forget all of the great people that i've conversed with. Thanks again!

At 2:00am on April 30, 2011, Tami said…: Cathy, Im so sorry about Sarah, I am positive that she is with Steve and Jacob she has crossed the rainbow bridge. Love to you and prayers for all.

At 9:57pm on April 29, 2011, Cathy Pearly said…: Sarah went to play with Steve and Jacob this morning. (4/26/11) I can picture them both waiting for her to make sure they were the first thing she saw when she left me. I can clearly imagine the sheer joy and excitement on their faces, their arms outstretched in welcome, and I can hear them both saying "SARAH GIRL!!!!!!" the second they spot each other! I can see Sarah's entire back end moving as she wags her tail in happiness. I can see her running to them like a puppy, no longer in pain, no more arthritis, no aches, and not alone. What a great reunion!

Sarah had a very good life, she was loved more than most people are, she was with us through many changes, she helped both Steve and I find something to smile about after we lost Jake, and she gave me purpose after I lost Steve. I think she hung on as long as she did to make sure that I was gonna be okay. I told her that morning that she was gonna get to play with "Daddy and Jake" and I asked her to give them a big, wet, slobbery kiss on the cheek from me, then I stayed with her until she was gone.

I am sure she knew it was her time because when we went out the front door to my car that morning, I opened the door for her, and she looked at me, looked at the car, then went and poked her nose at the passenger door of Steve's truck. She wanted to ride in the truck, and that is where she rode, sitting up (for a minute anyway) looking out the window like so many other times in her life....mostly to and from the dog park. She loved being at the dog park and playing with the other dogs, and all the attention from her human friends....that is what she lived for! Now she is running around and being her typical "yard mother" self in a never ending dog park!

At 6:33pm on April 15, 2011, Carrie L said…: r..this thing is not working good. haven't been on here a while.. but it is always the same sleep is the best for me the only time i am at peace.. carrie

At 6:32pm on April 15, 2011, Carrie L said…: Hi Cathy just wanted to say hi... youyou

At 10:36pm on April 3, 2011, Shari Soklow said…: Dear Cathy,

I am so sorry to read of the loss of your only Beloved Son, I can appreciate what you are going through as I am also a mother who lost her only son and he was of course not just my only child but all I had left in this world!

I do wish for death as there is no one left for me and I am totally alone in this world! I noticed your comment and do agree when there are other family members one should not want to lay down and die, but how would you feel if like me you had nobody? Shari