My dear Lorretta,

There is no need for thanks. I am on several groups, but Mom of an Angel is my favorite. We share everything like sisters, not only the children we have lost, but our daily lives as well. It is much lighter than some others and extremely supportive. I love these women like my family. Hope to see you there, my friend.

Debbie

Hi Loretta I am sorry for your loss. loss is the worst thing i have ever felt. and my family uses good grief as a word whoever came up with that one was not good. love and peace to all of us. what does bipolar have to do with these young people dying? I suppose I have been bipolar. and my son. but always blew it off. carrie L

DEAR LORRETTA,
THANK YOU FOR WRITING ME. I JUST KNOW SHE IS WITH HER DAD AND MY MOM. NANCY'S BROTHER PATRICK DIED IN 2001 AND HE AND NANCY WERE VERY CLOSE. SO MANY OF US ARE GRIEVING AND IT IS SO HARD WHEN YOU LIVE ALONE. IT HELPS TO HAVE SOMEONE TO WRITE TO. THANK YOU AGAIN.
GOD BLESS ALL OF US.
DOLORES

I think someone had told me about your daughter before I got on this website and I just can not remember who. I know it's there in my head. I am so sorry for the pain you feel as a father. I'm sure it is ever bit as bad as a mother. I know I will see Rebecca again, in that there is no doubt. I to talk to my daughter every night. I had a dream early on the morning of Feb 12th and she was right there and my mother was with her. I was so happy and didin't want to leave. Then I heard three hard knocks on my front door which brought me out of dream really fast and I woke up and went to the front door and no one was there. At night I try really hard to get back to that place to see her again because she looked so happy and smiled and she just hugged me, but I can not create it again. I would give anthing for it to happen again. At least I know she is ok.

Lorretta, Thank you for seeing the pain, fathers also have. It is truly unbearable. So sorry for your loss. I know Rebecca and Morgan are always with us. I talk to her all the time. I'm not sure where I go from here. just try to survive I guess. Just know anytime you want to write down your feelings here, I will listen. along with many others who are in this dark time. I will keep you and Rebecca in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care, Larry

You are most welcome Lorretta. You can contact me anytime you feel like it. Love and hugs to you. . . .
Debbie, Mom to ^i^Joey

Dear Lorretta,
I am so sorry for the loss of your precious daughter. I am Debbie and I lost my son Joey to suicide on June 20, 2008 when he was 26 years old. I am sorry you are in so much pain right now, but your loss is still new and you will feel like this for a while. I too miss my son more than you can imagine. I miss his beautiful smile, his laughter, his joking around, I miss everything he was. I have joined another grief group called Angelmoms and have found tremendous support with the wonderful mothers on that site. If you or anyone else is interested in joining, the address for the site is Angelmoms2@yahoogroups.com. I promise you will find the support you so need right now. This site here on Legacy is wonderful too, but Angelmoms is a little different because it is only moms. I am praying for strength and better days ahead for you. . .
Love and hugs,
Debbie, Mom to ^i^Joey

DEAR LORRETTA, MY DAUGHTER NANCY DIED THE DAY BEFORE THANKSGIVING AND I DON'T KNOW HOW YOU FEEL BUT.....I FEEL EMPTY. SHE WAS MARRIED AND HER DAUGHTER IS PREGNANT AND THAT IS GOING TO HELP HER AFTER LOSING HER MOM. NANCY WAS THE MOST GIVING PERSON.
EVERY ROOM IN MY HOME HAS SOMETHING SHE GAVE ME. THERE ARE TIMES WHEN I FEEL VERY ALONE. I HAVE THREE OTHER GROWN CHILDREN,
9 GRANDCHILDREN AND ONE GREAT-GRANDDAUGHTER. LORRETTA, I FIND I MUST TAKE
ONE MINUTE AT A TIME AND AS A WIDOW IT IS VERY
DIFFICULT TO ALLOW MY GRIEF TO SURFACE. DO WHAT EVER MAKES YOU FEEL.....FEEL....FEEL. NO ONE CAN HAVE YOUR FEELINGS. THIS IS THE 3RD
CHILD I HAVE LOST AND GRIEF IS THE HARDEST JOB I HAVE EVER HAD TO WORK THROUGH. I WILL PRAY FOR YOU LORRETTA
GOD BLESS US!!!!!
DOLORES.

Dear Loretta, I just read your post and my heart went out to you. I feel exactly as you do. I lost my baby girl Melissa at the age of 30 in Nov. 2008. I always called her my baby girl even though she was an adult. I still miss her so much everyday. It is a heart wrenching experience and no one should have to go through it. I was by her side in the hospital the day she became brain dead. I blamed myself for not seeing the signs but the medical staff didn't pick up on it so how could I. I still beat myself up over it at times but not constantly. Intellectually I know I wasn't trained to see the signs but emotionally, I feel I differently. It is all so mixed up. Life doesn't make sense anymore. I am just so sad all the time as I am sure we all are. Whenever you want to talk, I'm here. My warmest regards, Connie Citrola

I understand what your feeling,my son Gregory was killed July 25,09 just 4 months to the day till his 22nd birthday,my heart is as heavey as yours , I think you may find this group a bit more supportive and you will get much more out of it, http://www.dailystrength.org/home Join it and for moms only as a support group add me as well tweediesmom , talk there soon.. Huggzzzzz Lisa tweediesmom