I have missed you, i have a new facebook I forgot your last name,,, my name is melissa asher if you like to invite me.. I had two small strokes,, but I am ok.. better then ok,, I have been excrising and everthing has come back,,my right eye lost a little sight,, it cool i have laskic and it is life time warranty so I can fix it.. how have things been.. many hugs my friend,, sorry I had to make a new facebook.. but the games crash my computer,, you are the only one i am letting on that plays games,,,but my other computer complete crash it was cheaper to by another.. again night hugs,,
I have read all 3 books and keep them close. I have another for you....Embraced by the Light by Betty Keadie(spelling) and it was MOST helpful. Peace to you and rest in Jusus'arms when you cannot go another step.
Hi Brenda,I have not heard from you in a long time but I do remember your loving Bronda and my prayers are that your heart is still strong and all of the pain you've suffered will ease and the mind that you have continue to praise the result that God did give you a miracle baby only to be taken by an unmarked road,but the road back to the Lord was not un marked as God has held on to you and her for this time and throughout,may your love never stop glowing and growing as you still find the blazes of brightness of Bronda's time in your presence and the continued presence in your heart.May the love of God overshadow you this holiday season and may you stand with what ever God blesses you with,all our love the Durden Family!!!!!
Dear Brend I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter she is beautiful, my heart goes out to you. Trying to get by every day is killing me, it seems like forever, I do no what you are going thru, alot of people dont understand. One day i no i will see her again but i really dont no if i can wait that long. I no have other children that need me, but this is the hardest thing anyone has to go thru. My heart is with you I will say a prayer for you write me any time. hugs to you Donna
I will do that, it just says brenda but I will try to find you, I found this site about heros i have to get the name again, i was going to try to get some help for us, because we are so behind on the bills but when i got on there, I read the prayer section, a lot of people dying and kids having cancer and all they want is a card or a prayer, some people did food, I don't have any money but
and i am disabled but I sat here and mad cards for alot of people one for a 2 year old that is what he likes most is cards, so i made him one and I am going to get the kids on my street to sighn it, I know Samantha is watching over this cute little baby, Brenda your daughter is beautiful, Samantha would be 21 and a cop by now, but I try not to dwell on to much i do have bad days, and it has been three years the pain is the same but I try to look at in differnt ways, well i have to go I will look you up Melissa
Brenda, I think you are right about the picture on FB, Let it be of both of them, that is showing she loved her and it is about them, not just your daughter. People have no idea how you want to keep certain things just for yourself. I still havent moved my sons suitcase that he came home with from Thanksgiving last year. He always put it in my office and that is where it is. Not sure if I will ever be able to move it. Please try not to let anyone's actions make you feel a certain way, don't let them tell you how your day is going to go. Keep honoring your daughter with all the good things that you knew about her. Try to stay away from your sister in law for sure. I am so sorry for you loss keep me posted on how you are doing ok. Stay strong!!
Hi Brenda oh my what a bad place we are in loosing our children. I am so sorry. i want to cry wondered if you still came here to this site. i am sad tonight kind of browsing though some blogs. sad missing my son and finding comfort in other people as sad as me. sounds stupid. real stupid. i am sorry.... sorry we are on this site but not knowing what to do. where are you we are in ky. carrie l
Brenda, thank you so much for going to Chase's website and signing his guest book. That meant so much to me and you brightened my day! I too am so sorry about your beautiful daughter Bronda, her smile is like a shining star lighting up the sky! Cherish all the wonderful memories that you have together. May God continue to give you strength to get through each and every day until we reunite with our precious children in Heaven for eternity! God bless you! Annette Walters
thats the most beautiful poem i ever read that exactly descibes how i feel over the loss of my son ben, thankyou ever so much for sharing that, and am also sorry for your loss. we're all in this together, thank god we have a place where we all understand one another and feel the same pain. godbless, and time does heal a broken heart, but the memories are ours forever, and no one can take that from us.
Pamela, I pray to God that your son didn't suffer. I can only imagine the pain it is for you not knowing. I know I sometimes set and think why did it happen at all? I like you would have gave my life for my daughter Bronda.
Reading some of the other postings helps me so much as I know I'm not walking down this road alone.
I will keep you in my prayers. God bless you and keep you safe.
Brenda, sorry to hear of the tragedy that took your daughter and the knowing that she didn't suffer is comforting. The worst part for me ,when my only son, child, was murdered, it was apparent that he fought hard for his life, but they won and got him down and shot him twice in the back of the head. i don't know if it was an instant death or if he laid there suffering! they didn't find his body till 5 days later at his apt. how many times I said i wish i was there at the time cause i would have fought for his life and would of gladly taken his place. I believe we would all die for our children to live! well, that wasn't the case, so, i have to live? the rest of my life with not knowing the truth of how much he suffered! how do you go on with such a vision in your head? i don't have an answer, but maybe someone does. God Bless to all who suffer from their loss.
It is a sad thing to have brought us together, but knowing that I am not alone helps me tremendously. I have been reading the articles under the "learn" tab on this website and have found them to be very helpful. I have not known how to express my emotions except through anger and my husband has been the blundt of it. He is one of those men who just don't know how to handle any kind of problem - no matter what it is. In the past 6 years we have been together I have been the one to take care of everything - and I mean everything. I don't know if things between he & I will ever "work out" but for now he must engage himself to find some kind of inner strength to take care of the household and me. I have no one else and sadly to say I wish it was someone else who didn't have to "learn" right now. I wish to God that there were someone here that had the natural ability to comfort me. Even now he calls and says: "What is wrong? There is something in your voice that is not right." WELL DAH!!!! LIFE SUCKS AND I JUST DON'T HAVE THE HUMOR THAT I USED TO!!!! I still am wanting to just leave but right now I don't want to make any hasty decisions about anything. Just learning to grieve and live is difficult enough.
I wish I had better notes to write, but right now I don't have any kindness or joy to give others. I am hoping that through this "grieving process" that it will change.
I just found a site on the internet called Bereaved Parents of the USA. It is very helpful. The address is www.bereavedparentsusa.org.
There is also a very helpful website that explains ALL about the grief, the process, what to expect, - just everything that you may need to help. It is
http://www.athealth.com/consumer/disorders/parentalgrief.html. I found it while googling grief and loss of a child. I hope that this may help you too.
My heart breaks for you as tears fall from the pain and anguish you feel, as I so. My only son died on Dec. 8, 2009 from head injuries from an auto accident on Dec. 8, 2009. I have yet to stop crying hysterically. I know the emotions you hads and probbly still have the very second you were told something happened to your child. My son called me at 12:19 pm saying "We have to stop and drop off a redbox movie and I will be home in a while. I love you." At 12:42 pm, the police called from my son's cell phone telling me he was in a bad accident and was being transported to the local hospital. He asked if there was someone with me who could drive me ans I tried three times to tell him I was alone and had no family here in this area. I was in my car when he called back ans sais they were sending an officer to pick me up. Within 10 minuted the officer was there. When I got into his car he immediately turned on the sirens & lights and drove 100 mph racing through red lights and stop signs to get me to the hospital. My son-in-law is a police officer and met me at the hospital, as did my boss from work whom I called. My hysteria was uncontrollable because inside I knew it was bad. The ER doctor tried to prepare me by telling me what had happened and my son has been revived two times already. They were trying desperately to prepare him for a life-flight to Primary Children'a hospital in Salt Lake City. They tolds me not to go because he was not expected to live through the flight. When I went back to see my son I fainted because of the horrendous injuries. I flew to the hospital, and on the morning of Dec. 8, I heard my son's voice telling me "Momma - it's time. Momma - it's time." He was telling me it was timw to let him go because there was nothing more anyone could do and he lay there dying. it was the hardest and most awful decision I have ever, ever in my life had to make. Even if I had chose to keep the machines going to give him medicines to allow his bodsy to stay alive, his head injuries were so sever that the only thing keeping him alive were the medicines being given to him. I listened as I heard his heart stop. my life ended that very second. As I try to write this I am crying uncontrollably adn reliving every second of the pain and anguish. I wish that no one would ever have to experience the loss of a child. It is more than unfair and it truly does make me wonder about God and has shaken my faith in him. I pray that if Gods wishes to listen to our prayers, that he would give you an over-abundsance of comfort to help you with the grief that only you as a mother can understans. My heart is with you. -Laura
It might be,but the right time will come & there will be no hinderances,so keep your head up. your words are true to the point as any who knows Kisha knows if God allows her to talk then she has not stopped yet, she had the purest heart still a virgin when she left & we know for this reason she was able to love & speak love as she wrote poems all about love if she knew you had a problem she was going to pray for you & she meant it when she said she was going to pray as I have her prayer journal she has my name by so many psalms.Iwas talking to her mother yesterday & we were going over some of her traits,you se Kisha had a brain tumor when she was 5 yrs.old & they removed it & for 18 yrs she had no problems only she was short but you never knew it for she never met a challenge she would not tackle.She loved her daddy above anything in this world & all who knew her knew that one thing about her & that love keeps me sane.I cry everytime I talk about her because I miss her so much,people who mistreat their children don't know what harm they do to the kids & themselves.Her profile is on Legacy.com if you like to see her:Tikisha Durden (d.o.b. 1982-d.o.d.2006) place of birth U.S.A. put this in & it will open .If you don't have Bronda on there you might want to put on after you see the profiles take a look & see it will bless your heart.Be Blessed
Hi Brenda,never mind the same thing being said at least you can say it,I pray your husband's peace as you both strive too carry on with a heavy heart but there is strength in numbers and the Bible says that two are better than one because if they fall one will lift the other one up but woe to him who is alone when he falls for he has no one to help him up.(Eccl.4:9,10).You all have each other & that's more than a lot of people have so continue on & happy birthday.When my daughter left a part of me left & for the first two years I forgot how old she was because I was stuck at 23 yrs.old & I'm still stuck at times but I go on in the power of the spirit of God, the pain never goes away but the love overwhelms me as I know how much she loves me, no on has mentioned her name this christmas but it does not matter anymore I live heart-to-heart if no one else does.So let your heart be your guide & love always prevail God bless you & your husband in all you do & may the love of God cover you.