thank you jonnell, im really sorry i have not gotten back to you but i have my mother with breast cancer , that has had me running around and will for a while , she still after cutting her breast has to get a little surgery on thursday and starts chemo next thursday, but i really apreciate that you write and i can quicly read, i will get back to you thank you ivonne
Hi Jonnell, I would Love to come over to Jersey Shore with My Daughter to visit with You and Your Daughter. I feel the same way about you as far as the Connection goes. What Unfortunate Circumstances but as you said definetly a Connection here too. I guess we have So Much in Common as far as Both of us Lost our First Born which were our Only Son's just a few Days apart and have one Daughter. Both of our Children have a gap in age with your Son and Daughter 10 years apart and mine are 12 years apart in age and although they had the gap in age both our our sets of Children still somehow met in the Middle and Played like Happy Children Should. There is more but we will talk. I am going to wait to call you until after your Family leaves on Thursday. It must be Very hard for you right now so I am sending you My phone number through Facebook in case you need to call me for Any Reason feel free 24/7. Hugs
Hi Jonnell, Here I am at 4:00 in the morning Missing My Son Sooooo Much...... I have been talking with the Da's Office, the Center for Community Resources and pretty much whoever will listen. I just was on Facebook and the Joyce Vickless Profile is Gone!! Thank God.... It's not much but I at least see that there is some progress being made. That photo that she was displaying was only there to taungt me and "someone" finally made her shut down her whole Facebook. I have No Clue what is going on with the Investagation - I only know that they Are Conducting one. My Main Concern right now is Getting Joyce Vickless off of the Streets. Her Record includes Running a Red Light, a Stop Sign, Assult on Danny's Dad, (2) Dui's and Indangering the welfare of her own Children while DUI and now My Son is Gone because of her and his Dads Negigence. I am Soooo Afraid that if she is "Allowed" to continue then someone else IS going to End up Dead. Let's just say that she gets Drunk on Easter which she most likly will and she will be driving from her Families home to her home Drunk Again - Kids in the Car of Course and say she decides to go ahead and run a red light or stop sign that day??? I am just sick worring because I know first hand what kind of Damage she can do to not just me and My Daugther other kids. His GF from a couple of years ago on her MySpace yeaterday she posted. I'm Sorry Danny. I'll Miss You. She also wrote "Why the F am I still Alive? My Heart is breaking for her too. She has a son that May or May Not be My Sons child. I went to see her but didn't want to push the issue but when I brought it up she changed the subject and pulled out a cigarette and started smoking so I just went with the flow to another subject. She seems to be now feeling guilty. I will be here for her No Matter what. My Daugther wanted to start her own page so I let her. Look in Loss of a Sibling under "Danny's Sister". I hope that your doing ok. I think one day I would really like to talk to you on the phone but that's up to you. Big Hugs for You!! Cindy
Hi Jonnell, It appears that we have some things in common. My Son was killed on his 21 Birthday August 30th, 2009. He also has a Sister 12 years younger. There was the age gap but they got along Great. They used to call each other "Chicken Wing" One would say to the other "I heard about you on the morning News - You were hatched from an egg. Lol. They were just so funny together. My daughter Christina still does some of the cute things that he taught her like she'll win a game or something and say (she's only 9) she says "What, What - Burn...." While she makes these gangsa hand signels (not like real gangsters) Lol. Your story just reminded me so much of how they had a special bond no Matter what the age differance. My Daughter is now an only child without even a step or half brother or sister. She misses her big brother so Much. I was older when I had her so now I fear that she will only be in her 40's and most likely will lose both parent somewhere before she hits 50. Her Dad and I would have to live to 87 for her to be 50 that makes me Soooo Sad :-( I am not just feeling the loss for her now. I feel for her loss later too. Take Care and Know that I am thinking of you. (((((((HUG-JONNELL))))))
Jonnell, I know my words will probably never save or help anyone. But, I Am listening and your not just venting. Your strength is acknowledged. Your love is unmeasured. Stay strong..and thank you for sharing.
Your little story that was posted today made me cry. It is my faith in my God that gets me through each day, and the knowledge that my son is...in a better place. What else do we have but God's love and the promise of being reunited with him and our children.
Yes, I have terrible moments as we all do where the tears just come, and It is hard to push forward..but I believe that is when God carries me through.
Thank you for sharing,
hi jonnell, please dont think i am ignoring you but when i read what you wrote me about how you lost phillip i had to get out of the web site just to cry for the lost of your son and after that it all has been too over whelming for me im sure robert has told you but i will get back to you as soon as i can, i know you loved your phillip as i loved and love jasmin, also dont like to use past tense.
Ivonne also walked out of the funeral in an atack of nerves. I had to bring her home leave her with the elders and go back to face 200+ family and friends alone. Your Dad did the right thing in my estimation and you should feel Lucky to have him. I also had to make all the arrangements by my self because was just in a major state of shock it was not easy but, I felt it needed to be done and I was not about to let anybody else take of my Jasmin for me. I had to dig very deep for intestinal fortitude to do it all but, I got it done sure enough. I identify with your Dad and respect highly that he did for you what you were not in the right frame of mind to do yourself, again like Jasmin you are blessed to have a very caring Father.
i do believe God works in mysterious way's. I really think that not much happens by mere chance. Like us meeting on Legacy.I met you , if i can remember, just the first time or two i opened up trying to find a parent wno's son had been murdered... for a lady that works with me who' son was murdered 2 years ago by the "hood".i found you the same night i found her for my friend. Can't tell me God is not working.... It is so late, getting a divorce after 37 years, unable to sleep a lot. will write or e-mail soon... ruby
Here you can see me with her. I had a real bad night , cant thinking of her and today I have been crying for 2 hours. I am at work and client just said he felt something was wrong in my voice. Now I have to go see another client and I am sure they will see it in me as well. Very hard to put my "Happy Face" on even for work. I wanna talk to her so badly !!!!! I dont dream much when I do it never makes any sense but, I agree about the feet thing "Weird" yes.
You know about re-directing I thought I was a master at it too but, thats not the case today at all with me.
Good Luck , Have a Good One !
jonnell, thank you for your e-mail. I went back to work 2 weeks after my daughter's death. boy, that was hard. i worked for a group of O.B. Gyn's. for 20 + years, an office nurse. I will stay in touch through e-mail. i am not sure how to navigate through legacy. love and blessing's ruby
hi,yes we have 3 other children besides jasmin, theres the oldest girl 32 than a boy 29 and the other boy 26, jasmin had just turn 30 in augst which was the last day i saw her was on her birthday.i even think about that, the first time i saw her in the last was on her b-day.thank you for talking to us specially my husband that i know i have kept him so busy taking care of me that i dont give him enough time for himself to grieve, he also doesnt always know how to ask for help. when you have time i would like for you to also tell me about your son. thanks again.