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At 9:17pm on July 28, 2011, regina said…: Rev Durden. I was touched by the message you wrote to me. It has been some time since I wrote that, i am at a place in my life now where I feel numb, cheated and sore at the fact that my boyfriend isnt here with me. It has been 1 year since he passed away. i miss him. what can I do to start feeling again? I use to have so much compassion , but now I here things happening to others, I just say oh well, and think look at me, what ive been through, am i being selfish? ALso I do not feel demons around me anymore. As much as I miss him, he had demons following him, or in him. Can a person see demons in other people? Ive seen demons in other people also. Is that normal? WHy do I see them. I never was baptised. I do believe in God and I do not wish anything bad on people ever.

At 6:44pm on July 27, 2011, valerie moore said…: dear rev. durden,

my body and soul are grief ridden. i was at a point last september, that i was desperately thinking of ending my life. i had the opportunity to accept God into my life, heart and soul. i made the decision to do just that. i am alive now because of HIM. times continue to be difficult, however but i know God is there.. right there with me. i continually thank Him for giving me the 25 beautiful years i had with dusty. dusty lived a full life, he LIVED..

thanks for your posting. valerie

At 9:34am on July 6, 2011, valerie moore said…: dear rev. durden. its been awhile since we have spoken. since we last spoke, i have been born again. if i had not turned my life over to God, i dont believe i could have survived without my dusty. i have no support. i have no friends, and my family has disowned me because i used drugs 5 years ago. i have been clean now for 3 years. there seems to be no forgiveness. i joined my church about 3 months ago, i am hungry for the Lord, wanting Him more and more, the Lord has put it in my heart to help begin a ministry at my church to help families that have either drug abuse or alcohol abuse. we believe that the Lord with draw families in from all over. this has revealed my purpose to live. dusty will be gone 2 years as of this august 28/. i miss him terribly and have some real bad days. however, on those bad days i get on my knees and pray to our Lord. what a difference my life had been. thank you for all your kindness, hope and blessings. valerie

At 5:05pm on June 27, 2011, Wendy M. said…: Thank you for sending me such hope although I do not come here as much as I should. You have faced alot of loss. My father also had a severe stroke and is still alive alothough in a wheelchair and can hardly speak. He had it 11 years ago. I thought he was going to be the one to die, not my mom who took care of him all those years. She forgot about her and now I'm doin the same. Not caring for me. I'm in a mess. Prescription abuse. WHY? I always seem to hurt myself like I am a punishment from God, if there is a God....WHY? You are very kind anyways!! Wendy

At 5:05pm on June 27, 2011, Wendy M. said…: Thank you for sending me such hope although I do not come here as much as I should. You have faced alot of loss. My father also had a severe stroke and is still alive alothough in a wheelchair and can hardly speak. He had it 11 years ago. I thought he was going to be the one to die, not my mom who took care of him all those years. She forgot about her and now I'm doin the same. Not caring for me. I'm in a mess. Prescription abuse. WHY? I always seem to hurt myself like I am a punishment from God, if there is a God....WHY? You are very kind anyways!! Wendy

At 1:50am on February 17, 2011, Cathy Pearly said…: Thank you so much for thinking of me! I do know that I was blessed to have had Jacob in my life for nearly 21 years, and I am thankful that I had someone to share my life with for 27+ years. I know there are people even now worse off than I am in this world. I have my health, and my home and my dogs, and I had a family. I try to be thankful for what I have now, even if I do feel lonely. I am coming up on 4 years since I lost my precious Jacob, and it will be the first anniversary without my husband. He planned a memorial cruise for the past 3 years. Not just a local cruise either....he had so many online friends, and there were many groups riding all over the world in our son's memory. I guess I will have to carry it on...don't know if I am strong enough for that, but I know I will survive...that is for sure. You will always miss your daughter, but I know that you are thankful for the time you had her, and you will survive as well. Sending you a big hug for comfort when you miss her.

At 3:49pm on February 16, 2011, valerie moore said…: dear rev. durden,

i joined a great church, i started going last october, however, i had to quit during christmas, i couldnt hear christmas music. i went back immediately and feel so bless to have found this church. i am going to join it and starting to begin some bible studies. it is the church of nazarene. its a small congregation, but so loving and caring.i know this was a wonderful gift from God... i am doing better, however some days are real bad. hope you are doing well. hugs and prayers, valerie

At 5:22pm on January 12, 2011, valerie moore said…: dear rev. durden, i have missed writing to you. the grief of losing my precious dusty has taken over my life. i feel as if i move on, he would get mad at me that i should stay with him. we needed each other, i was there during his drug battle, when nobody was, i did everything possible to boost him up and let him know he was better than the drugs and he could make a difference in this world.. my words, my love ,my everything couldnt change his drug addiction. drug addiction is an illness. he did not deserve this, he just could not beat the demons. they ate him alive. they took him away from me. i need him. i do feel he is finally at peace, but now i am left with my life in shambles. thanks for your always kind words... hugs, valerie

At 8:37am on January 11, 2011, regina said…: is there such a thing as the grimm reaper. My boyfriend passed away 6 months ago. he was 55. he died of overdose of perscrip. pills. we were always arguing. i would fight off demons as i saw them.. i saw him 3 weeks before he died. i looked at him upclose and saw the grimm reaper in his face. i saw the skeloton. He died 3 weeks later. when it happened i felt a sense of relief. No more anxiety. or feeling like im running from something. Although i miss him terribly, i do not miss his demonic ways. do i make any sense to you. please respond.

At 1:41pm on January 8, 2011, Cathy Pearly said…: Thank you for writing on my wall. You have very comforting words to share, and I appreciate them. I had been overwhelmed the last few weeks. Although this was the 4th Christmas without my son, it was the first without my husband of nearly 27 years. It was quiet and lonely, and I am very thankful it is over. I neglected everyone on this site that I think I can help, or at least share my experience with, or just read, understand and send hugs and smiles to. But I am back, and this journey of grief I have been on will not be complete until I have given back by sharing with others the journey I am on.

At 7:01pm on January 7, 2011, Lynn said…: Thank you Rev. Durden,

Your wisdom, and kind words always make me feel more at peace. While I miss Dawn and all her phone calls and caous, I know she is at peace, and released from the troubled life she was leading and could not seem to get it together, We still don't understand why things happen the way they do but I do know God is in control always and knows what the future would've been for Dawn.

At 11:35am on January 2, 2011, valerie moore said…: dear rev. durden, thank you for thinking of me and my precious dusty. if i thought the first year was hard, the 2nd year has hit me the hardest. perhaps, the first year i was in pure shock and now its wearing off into reality and things have become for clear. VERY CLEAR. i still cry every day and i miss him horribly.. my therpist asked me to move his urn from my bedside into the closet and i havent seen her since. i was very offended by her comment. put dusty in a closet? never... i cant still see him so clearly, i can smell his smell, hear his laugh, remember when he was so thin from the drugs and i just cried and cried... and yet before he passed, he had gained all his weight back and then some.... i am still very frail pastor, i just move from day to day.. much love to you, your friend in Christ, valerie

At 11:35am on January 2, 2011, valerie moore said…: dear rev. durden, thank you for thinking of me and my precious dusty. if i thought the first year was hard, the 2nd year has hit me the hardest. perhaps, the first year i was in pure shock and now its wearing off into reality and things have become for clear. VERY CLEAR. i still cry every day and i miss him horribly.. my therpist asked me to move his urn from my bedside into the closet and i havent seen her since. i was very offended by her comment. put dusty in a closet? never... i cant still see him so clearly, i can smell his smell, hear his laugh, remember when he was so thin from the drugs and i just cried and cried... and yet before he passed, he had gained all his weight back and then some.... i am still very frail pastor, i just move from day to day.. much love to you, your friend in Christ, valerie

At 1:44am on January 2, 2011, Mary Christine Lancaster said…: Reverend Durden:

How precious are the feet of them that spread the good news. I so appreciate your response. I still hurt over the loss of my son but really cling to the Lord yet at times family wants me to wear a different hat. It has hurt me more then my precious loss. In all my losses in 2 years my sons passing didn't really set in until this last year. I knew he went to heaven with Jesus but it wasn't real till everyone else continued with life and I was left hurting. Tonight as I wrote what God had put on my heart...I knew it would help to acknowledge we all are not alone. God is there and I draw on His power to get me through each day. I do praise Him for my son in His presence but I miss him so much. And both of my pastor's told me: "God knows, He too saw His Son suffer and die." So I am comforted in that way. I also understand: Mary "a sword would pierce her soul." I am on this journey of healing...I can laugh when I think of some of his antics and yet I cry to get that I love you mom or that most wonderful hug and kiss on my forehead. Thank you so much for responding. We all hurt as you say, we have all lost, I want God to use me to help others deal with loss of a child realistically. Time will heal...our hearts...our tears...our song...God Bless You Reverend Durden

At 5:01am on January 1, 2011, neicy said…: Have a Blessed New Year Rev

At 7:52pm on December 31, 2010, Melissa Asher said…: THANK YOU REV. DURDEM,

for being my friend, your words inspire me as you suffer as I do. I want to wish you a happy new years and we have to live on for children, we have to live two lives now,, we have to celbrate their lifes,, GOD BLESS melissa

At 8:10am on December 31, 2010, Carrie L said…: Rev Durden thanks for your input yes we are here to make the best of our lives and need to. I am in very much the same place I was months ago if not perhaps worse. I will think of the positive some and try to find some peace in my thoughts. Carrie L

At 5:02pm on December 30, 2010, Terri Kuta said…: Thank you for your words of faith and healing, as you said we all grieve for our child, and most of the time all i want is to have my life ended so i can go and be with my son, but i have 3 other children who is hurting also and a husband who is grieving so badly, am I mad at god yes I am do I still trust him, yes with my whole heart, why do our young have to die i wish i knew but my heavenly father knows and for now i have to trust him that it was the right decision all i pray for is some kind of peace for all of us, people say it just gets harder as time goes on mine has only been 6 weeks and i don't know how much harder any of us can take.

At 6:03pm on December 27, 2010, Melissa Asher said…: Thank you Rev. Duran,

My heart goes out to you, thank you for writing me, it is very hard, I know you know Kisha is with our savior but the pain does not weaken, you are human also, but as we know we will see them again. I told my oldest daughter as she cried Christmas, that this is Jesus Birthday do not cry for he died for sins, so Samantha could go to the glory land and we all will be together one day, I also told her baby I had her so you would have a play mate when you were small, GOD did not have to bless us with such a wonderful person as your sister and she stop crying, I lit candles and put pictures of Samantha my dad, my mom, my father in law and mother in law and a sature of Jesus in the middle of them, I then thank GOD for letting Mary give birth to his son, and i thank him for giving him up for us, and to give me the strengh to give Samantha organs wow I am talking to a REV you have save so many souls, and Samantha kindey went into a Pastor, and a father of three,, it is so amazing she was a blood doner. I do believe in GOD and the power of payer,, but it hard at times, but when it gets tough I give it back to GOD. BLESS YOU, Melissa

At 1:26pm on December 22, 2010, Pastor Barbara McGuckin said…: Hello Rev. Duran,

I simply want you to know that you are loved with the love of the Lord Jesus Christ, Yeshua! I cannot pretend I truely understand all you have had placed before you through this time in your life but do know the Power behind Prayer! I will continue to lift you up in my daily prayers. Know that all things are possible with Christ that He will not give you too much in which you cannot bare. Some times it feels as though we cannot take anything more but . . . the Lord carries us through it ALL. Your Ministry is important & you are appreciated here on Legacy.com. Many have been uplifted through your words of comfort! Please continue the good work as you are called.

Pastor McGuckin