Hi Robert. Thanks so much for your comment and your condolences about Gracie and I send mine for Jasmin. The pain that we go through is very hard no matter what the age but we look into the eyes of our children with their pictures that are left behind and we just know that they want us to be strong for those left behind; the parents,the siblings, family and friends. Thank you so much Robert for your encouragement of my counseling work. I can say that we are all in an exclusive club that none of us ever wanted to join but are now in it for life and there is a process with our grief and each and every one of us must find our own way. Whether going for counseling or reading a book or going to a support group or seeing a priest ; we all must find our own way. And to process our grief we have to give ourselves time and that time lasts a lifetime. Robert , I offer you my sincere friendship and help with some of the specific things we do in our support group to help you in any way. Remember , when I help you I can feel my daughter smiling and Jasmin too . You have my Prayers, Garry.
Hi Roberto, so sorry for your loss, my heart goes out to you and all others feeling the acute pain of the loss of a child. My sweet son, Geoff, was also struck by a car on the highway and killed at age 23, in October of 2008. Some twenty months later I find that I am not the same person I used to be... life has lost it's lustre and I sometimes feel this has not really happened to me. My work and other child has been my saving grace as it keeps me focused on other things. His birthday (August 20) is the worst day for me, as that is the joyous day he came into my life. I just sat and cried all day long last year. Wondering what it will be like this year... Anyway, all we can do is take it "one day at a time" and try to stay focused on what is still good in our lives. I just started seeing a counsellor so I can talk to an impartial "third party" (and not burden my friends with my problems), so we'll see how that goes! Hang in there, seek out whatever you need to get by, and also know that you are not alone in your grief.
I lost my son Justin at age 27 last July 12. It will be 9 months tomorrow morning. I was interested in your reading from John Edward and am happy for you. Your daughter Jasmin came through for you beautifully. My Justin was very social and a great sense of humor. I think he would come through, or would certainly try if given the opportunity. I hope to have the chance of a reading.
Hi Susan, she is 12. We know about choosing where to live at 15. I think she is fighting to see us in her own way. She always knew her Dad but, from weekend visitations only. She never lived with him before. Your right lawyers cost a fortune and gurantee nothing. *As a kid you may imagine she is also manipulating us all to get her way and spend more time here. My point is that her best interests are not the priority where she lives and always were here. The dad is only pushing her away sort of, with all this. Thanks for the mention it's just so painfull to have to deal with this sometimes seems unbearable but, I realize this is only the beggining and she will be with us in due time. Thank You so much.
Just read your comment about grandparents having rights. Well in California we don't have much, it is all in the hands of the surviving spouse. How old is your grand daughter as she can make her own decision on where she wants to live and with whom around the age of 15,but has to have an attorney to process her request. If you had been her guardian when you were raising her it would have made it a little easier but I am sure this event never came to mind during the time she was with you. Hopefully the father will stop using her as it is the only power he has now. But if she doesn't really know him I would think she will fight to see you, if she is old enough.
Attorney's are very expensive and sometimes after all the money is spent nothing is decided anyway. Sorry your are having this extra stress in your lives right now.
Hang in there and hopefully in the summer you will get to have her more with you and your wife.
Susan & Dolores thanks for your comments and good advice. It's a step back for sure now I find myself doing the "could'a, Should'a, would'a" thing to myself again. Not good I know. In my heart I feel like she is fine and with that hope alone gives me some strenght. My prayers are with you both, Dolores 3 children lost is more than I can even begin to understand. God Bless You !
Read your posting today....our family just had to go through the same thing. final autopsy report.....all sad again....steps forward and a bunch back. Hopefully that is the last set back....my thoughts are with you and your family. You are not alone....there are others out there just like you. Hang in there, be with your loved ones and your friends.
Jasmin would want that !!!!
HI ROBERTO, I HAVE LOST THREE CHILDREN, NANCY
DIED THE DAY BEFORE THANKSGIVING AND IT IS VERY DIFFICULT AS WE WENT THROUGH THE NEXT DAY WITHOUT HER AND ROBERT (HUSBAND) MY HEART HURTS AND HAVING TO GO THROUGH WHAT YOU ARE IS NOT EASY. NOW I LOOK AROUND MY HOME AND IN EVERY ROOM THERE IS SOMETHING SHE GAVE ME. HER DAUGHTER TARA (ONLY CHILD) IS EXPECTING A BABY IN JUNE AND IT VERY DIFFICULT WITHOUT HER MOM. I JUST TAKE A MINUTE AT A TIME AND EVERYONE THINKS I'[M SO STRONG.........I AM NOT. 3 OTHER CHILDREN ARE COUNTING ON ME. WELL, THEY ARE GROWN AND MY SON TOM INSISTED ON SAYING GRACE ON THANKSGIVING, I DON'T KNOW WHAT HE SAID AS HE WAS CRYING SO HARD. WISH I COULD SAY A CERTAIN DATE AND YOU WILL BE OVER IT....IT DOES NOT WORK THAT WAY. I WILL PRAY FOR YOU.
GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR WIFE. IT IS NOT NORMAL TO BURY A CHILD.
im glad you have been feeling better, i go march 31 to john edward here in jersey. i have been 'ok" i try and stay positive but i just miss him, i know he is in a better place i just miss his voice and yelling at him ha ha. always thinking of you two as well, is ivonne any better ? keep in touch
Looking for an organization to join to help kids, grieving parents or the less fortunate. Jasmin loves kids and so do I so I feel that my involvement will bring us more together. If anyone has a suggestion or knows of anything I can get into to help out in whatever way I can other people, please let me know.
just wondering how evybody is doing ? You are in my thoughts and prayers everyday. We are all fighting a vert hard battle. I have been way better after our experience, I guess just knowing she is around had made me feel better more relaxed and less bad days. Just trying to keep all the Good things present always. How was your week ?
roberto i thought i had lost you and your wife. my favorite aunt is on a respirator @ gsmc. i have @ the hopitatal for several days. so sorry i haven't gotten back. i have to leave again, but i will get back to you later today...thanks.. ruby ellard.
what a wonderful experience. thank you so for sharing it. i had goose bumps.i do not know who je is. how old is your daughter. she looks to be about laurie's age. I ' am on my way out the door . i must share my stories too. my e-mail is firstname.lastname@example.org. please you and your wife contact me. tell her that i am getting a divorce after 37 years becausei have lived in an abusive relationship. laurie told me before she died to leave. i stayed because of her death. after 7 more years of this abuse, God decided it was time to leave and he walked with me...i could not have done without Him. so i will e-mail you after work. may aunt is being transferred to gsmc today. she had a serios stroke. please keep her in your prayers, i wll keep you and your wife in mine. so glad i was able to share your story... they are always with us!!!! ruby
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Roberto, Jenny, richards mom, Jonnell and others that replied to your postings. what beautiful children. I to am so sorry to hear of the losses of our loved ones. When I joined this site there were only a few 100 or so on the loss of a child area. I now see 340. Last weekend a 19 yr old in our area, nrth east PA, committed suicide, by hanging herself. I didnt know her or the family, but the mother worked with my future d-inlaw. We are all still dealing with the loss of my daughter and I see one of your's was a tragedy also dealing with alcohol. I dont understand how we cope whether it was from a sickness or accidents or murders, we all miss our children, no matter what the ages. I just ordered a few books from amazon, mostly about the after life and all that. I will someday go to a psychic or card reader. I love john edwards, sylvia brown and george anderson. I also just watched a small video on youtube of readings by others. My daughters best friend went to a Ricky Wood in Philly area and my Amy, died at 21, came thru her reading and she emailed me the outcome. it was amazing she said. The only thing she brought up about her falling out of the window, was it was an accident and she was clumsy and no one pushed her. I cant get over that. I just want to know why she was so drunk. I have said it before. sorry, it drives me nuts. (I cant find my post of some of the details) One day I have accepted it and the next Im a basket case.
the last few days I have been going thru my filing cabinets and it is so hard to shred some of the papers that were hers. Bank accounts, medical records that will no longer matter, dental records, college records for her dental school, etc. Her first gyno exam, her contact lens exam, irs tax papers. Her surgery for a molar removal, and for what is called, sweaty palms. I am saving some, but I feel like I am throwing away her life without her permission. I dont work, and it does keep me busy. I come back here now and then and I also ck on her's and my facebook accounts. I see all her friends going on with life and it just digs in again over and over, what the H E dbl LL happened. I still to this day, 17mnths or so later, ask why. then I see little babies and small toddlers and in between ages pass on to this better place. I know I will accept it as time goes on.
And then to top it off, I love watching medium, and any show that is about the afterlife or ghosts and stuff.
The other night I watched DEAD AT 17, on lifetime and missed the end. I finally got it on demand and saw the end. The mother just didnt believe her son committed suicide and finds out what happened. I wont spoil it if anyone decides to view it. not sure it was a true story, but it just lets me know, that a mother never gives up. I know I wont.
I am so glad to hear the stories of john edwards encounters. I had his cd's from QVC, etc and had to send them back, they had cracks in them.
But I did watch the ones I could. I love his shows.
well, again, I rambled.hugs to all and prayers.