I'm sending good thoughts and prayers your way for whatever it is you are dealing with. Please know we are all here whenever you are ready to share what you are going through or just need support.
First, I hope things are well for you. You haven't posted since Jan. 10 Re: you loss.
I appreciate this group so much & I credit the lovely people I have met here with maintaining my sanity.
* However, as of tonight, Carl Mathis has sent at least 2 posts advertising his book on steps to recovery. He does not appear to be a widower himself and I was wondering if there was anyway to block solicitations?
Figured this was the time to do a brief holiday teaching, I hope you all won't mind. First and most importantly, do not let anyone force you by guilt or any other means,to celebrate the upcoming holidays in any way that makes you feel uncomfortable. What is right for you is right for you, you owe no one any explanations if you choose to be festive, quiet, or not to do anything at all.
Second, holidays can tend to be a time of sadness for those of us who have lost loved ones. Not only did I lose my wife, but I lost both of my parents around New Years, My Dad on 12/30/90 and my Mom on 1/4/93. I choose to go a little bit harder because New Year's Eve was a fun family time and if I do that, the pain is not as rough.
Just do what YOU feel comfortable doing. Always remember, this group is here for you 24/7/365. There is no time off and I'm sure somebody will be reading if anything shows up here. Please take care of yourselves and be as at peace as you can during this time of year.
Steve, I want to thank so much for this websit. It has helped me through many of my dark, lonely days, and still does. It will be 3 months of Ron's passing on the 28th of December. I am thinking of you and wishing peace in your life, and hoping that the issue you spoke of has been resolved. I hope the the Christmas holiday and the New Year brings some happiness and most of all Good Health.
Thank you again for this website, it has certainly brought some peace to me.
I AM TRYING TO FIND SOMEONE TO TALK WITH ME. I JUST LOST MY HUSBAND TO LUNG CANCER ON NOVEMBER,6, 2010. I AM SO GLAD TO HAVE MY DAUGHTER WITH ME. I LOST MY SON IN DECEMBER OF 2008. I AM TIRED OF CRYING, BUT I AM TRYING TO MAKE NEW MEMORIES. WE GOT A NEW GREAT DAUGHTER ON NOVEMBER 5, 2010. SHE IS MY LITTLE ANGEL. EVEN WHEN I AM IN A GROUP OF PEOPLE--I FEEL SO ALONE. I GREW UP IN A CHRISTIAN HOME, SO I KNOW GOD IS WATCHING OVER ME/US. BUT THE CRYING DOESN'T STOP.GOING TO GET COUNSELING AND MEDS CHANGED--HOPING THAT WILL HELP. KEEP ME IN YOUR PRAYERS
I"m so glad to have found the person who started this group! It's helped me a great deal since losing my husband (also named Steve) this past Sept. 5. More than once, a message has come from someone here at just the right moment and helped me feel less alone. So, thank you so much!
Thank you Steve for creating this support group and vent forum. It has helped me greatly. It is comforting to know that somewhere out there there is someone who can relate fairly closely to what you are going through. It's nice to vent and it's eye opening to read how others are coping (or not) with their loss. We can really learn from each other.
It's good to see your posts here tonight. I often wonder how you are doing because we don't hear from you much these days. I'm glad things are looking positive for you. It is good that you have found someone who is very accepting and understands your need to keep Kris present in your life. I'm happy for you.
Best wishes as you move forward.
Im so sorry for your loss. I just lost my 2nd husband in oct. to Pancreatic Cancer. I lost my first husband
to a heart attack in 97...Im 52 and very angry. this is my first time joining something like this. I hope to be able to find eace..I just feel like a Jinx..Iv'e been madly in love...twice, and they both died....
What A great tribute to her steve. A celabration of her life ! I will be praying for your peace Oh thank you for this site I have met some good people here. They have givin me some peace in my time of grief.
To all of my friends..after losing Brad on Aug 5, 2009 very suddenly I know I will never get over it nor will I ever forget our wonderful life, he was my best friend, soulmate and the only person who ever knew what I was thinking or going to say before I even said anything. We were the same person. A part of me died that day along with him. As everyone tells me, those feelings will never go away, not even the lonliness. But after going to my grief support group I know I have to try and live "our" live myself. He will always be with me, and the tears won't stop but I can feel him now telling me to smile once in awhile and if I do have even a few minutes each day where I join the human race again, I know he is smiling. He was my rock and still is. I have to give this group and therapy a chance for him so when I see him in heaven someday and we are together holding hands together, he can tell me he was so very proud of me, that I was a "fighter". Its good to cry and scream and have bad days but remember your loved one loved you so much in your days together and wanted you to be okay, and they want that for you now also. I'm not saying I'm happy, far from it, and I do breakdown and want to leave this life, but until its my time to join Brad, I'm going to do my best to make him happy now. He always felt bad when I was sad and after all of the happiness he gave me, I have to do whatever I can to return that happiness to him. I know he is still helping me. I owe that much to my one and only love. I pray that all of you can do your best for your loved one. It's not easy and it wont be in the days to come, but I hope you all can find some peace. I'm here for all of you, I believe that is my job here on earth given to me by Brad & God.
As Randolph always says, hugs are good so I'm sending all of you a hug whenever you need one!
Steve, First I want to express my sincere sympathy to you on the loss of your beautiful wife. I also want to thank you so very much for creating this group because it has been such a help to me and to so many others. It gives us an opportunity to express our feelings and read posts of others who are going through the very same feelings. Thanks again.