Hi Steve, how do I add as friend some one from this wonderful group ? Every time I try to do this I get a message A unexpected error occured Thank you for starting this group, it means alot to me and lots of others as well. God Bless
Do you know of any good books to read in dealing with all this crying grief?
I did go see a grief counsellor recently and all she told me was "it takes time".. that was it.
(I wont be going back to her ! )
Just to let you know if you don't see me here in the next couple of days it is because Monday marks the 1st anniversary of my beloved Kris' passing. I will be having an open house for friends and family so I need to be attentive for those who might come over.
Hi Steve, I just want to thank you for this group. I just don't think I would have gotten to the place I'm at today if not for this site.I am now at a point now that I don't cry everyday and even tho at first was feeling guilty about it now I'm glad, what a living he-- this greiving process is, so thank you so much. Virginia
I lost my dear Byron 12 weeks ago, (on March 16/2010.)> I think I am doing pretty okay. We were togehter for 12 years. He was not perfect but was perfect for me. I have days where I amnot overwhelmed by the sadness, but there is not one minute when he is not on my mind. During tthese weeks I have secured my drivers license, and am currently in the midst of launching my own business.
I have no intention of trying to use this site as means of promoting my business. I only mention it to demonstratehow importatnt it is to remain engated in life and to keep growing. I know that we msut all grieve the way we need to. I promised him that I would get my drivers license, and that I would do all the things I did nto have time to do, as I was his primary caregiver. He however was my wonderful driver, He loved driving, and I know understnd that I did not try for my licnese because I wanted him to have something that only he could do.My husband had ESRD( on dialysis) which is end stage renal disease. He was a good good man, and aan excellent human being overall. The pain oflosing him, is at times palpable. I haven't been on line for over a month, but today I had a bad episode.i came across one of his shirts in laundry, I guess I accidentally threw it intoi the wash. Well, just seeing the shirt sent me into a tailspin. I miss him so very much...I know this sounds completely irrational, but a few noght ago, Ihad a strong urge to go the cemetary and get him outta there. i knew this was a a crazy idea, but it was real one. Of cpoutrse, I came to my senses. But it was raining that day, and I felt he might be cold or lonely. I know it sounds nuts, but I felt it just the same. I am doing rpretty well though, last night I slept through the whole night, its been a very long time since that happend. Also las t week I played some of our favorite CD'S ///something that was impossible s few weeks ago. We loved to sing along with all the artists. I miss my husband and my friend..I am open to finding love again, but not any time soon. He has a tough act to follow. Byron was special, just sweet and kind and loveable.
My husband died almost 3 years ago, and I don't think I will ever be able to accept it. He died suddenly without ever being ill. I came home to find him. We had no chance to say good bye. I miss him every moment of every day. He was the love of my life and my very best friend.
...My significant other died on May 23, 2010 after fighting ovarian cancer for five and a half years. We were friends before we got together but we only got a year as partners. She died in my arms , fighting her death until the last. I hope desperately that despite her delerium, she knew a measure of peace at the end and that she is in a better place now.
For me, I feel as if someone took a chainsaw and carved out my heart. My mother died three months prior, also in hospice care and so now I feel completely alone. Liza was the love of my life and I don't know how to survive this loss.
My husband, Guy, passed away on 10/17/09. He was sick for 10 months with stage 4 lung cancer. We were married for 7 years. He was the best thing that ever happened to me and my children. He was a wonderful husband and stepfather. He passed away at home, just as he wanted, and I was with him when he died. I talked to him constantly and let him know how much we loved him but that it was alright to let go and be with God. He knew we loved him and we know he loved us. Being with him when he passed helped me deal with his death. I miss him more and more as each day passes and I will always miss him. He was an angel here on earth and I know he is angel in Heaven and one day I will get to see him again. The only thing I can do now is keep his memory alive and to do things in his memory. I
On March 1st, 2010, 2:20 AM, I feel as if my whole world ended when God callled my Beloved husband John home to be with him. On the morning that John died I came home (from the hospital ), I screamed & lashed out at God for taking my reason for living away from me. John was my whole world, & I miss him more than I thought possible to miss any one or anything. We have been together 20 years, Married 17 yrs, & because of my beloved John, I feel that I'm a much better person today. We did every thing together, & went every place together. I have some Amazing Memories of our life together, & I no that he is watching out for me 24/7, but I would give anything & everything to hear my husbands voice & to see his face again. Some times I feel like that I don't want to go on living myself, but I also no that I will see and be with my Beloved John again when God calls me home. People tell me all the time that in time that the pain will go away, but I wonder when. I hear my husband calling out to me alot, & I find myself answering him. I hurt and miss my husband so very much.
My honey, Vernon, died in January. There was a memorial for him on April (his birthday). Is is possible that I have just started the mourning process? My friends tell me that I did not start mourning until then. Am I loosing it? I feel like I am not really here. Kind of numb. Is there a web site of bereavement groups?
Hello my name is Jennifer,my husband passed away on March14,2010.I didn't even get to say goodbye.He had been sick for awhile.I knew he was that sick,but I didn't want to face life.I'm facing life now, and it hurts.We were married for over 16 yrs.I do know one thing,and that brings comfort to me is I know he loved me,I can say we had a good life together. I hope one day I want hurt as much.I just try to stay busy.If your hurt is like mine its not easy.I wish you well. Jennifer from Georgia.
Hello everyone, it seems we are all looking for comfort that doesn't come. I lost my husband very suddenly Aug 5, 2009. I didn't get a chance to say goodbye and I miss my soulmate and best friend. Yes, we all can cry and its okay I'm told that tears are a gift from God. I cry everyday yet and I go to visit the cemetary every day. People tell me not to, but I have to do it for us. This is a good site, we are here for each other. We all need help, I know I do!! All I want is to go to be with Brad again.
I'm praying for all of us on here, I went out to the graveyard today. Bad idea to do alone when you are not feeling good. But then I forgot how to feel anymore except sad, lonely, lost. After 45v years of marriage I am about as lost as I can get, nothing will ever mean or be anything again. God somehow blessed us all with just the right mates in life but doesn't it seem like only yesterday we were all saying I DO?? now we are saying Help me Lord, I'm so lost without my soulmate! Take care my friend, I wish you well.
CAROLYN ....I LOST MY HUSBAND FEB OF 09 AND TOO WE WERE MARRIED 48 YEARS...I WANT TO JUST TALK TO HIM ONCE MORE AND PICTURES JUST MAKE ME MORE BLUE AND LONGING FOR HIM....EMAIL ME PLEASE Josie90@webtv.net
It will be two yrs. on May 14 that I lost my world. My husband was killed in a car wreck on the way home from work. Everyone says "time heals" but I wonder sometimes. I am getting help, but I tend to have days when I think about him all the time. He was such a good man, father and grandfather. He was a caregiver and I miss that the most. Like a lot of these people I play tricks on myself thinking he will come home and it has all been a bad dream. Reality is so hard. I still can't bring myself to go through his cloths. I sleep in some of his T-shirts just to feel close to him. When does he pain ever end???? He was my soul mate and best friend and I miss him so much. Even when I go on vacations or out to eat with friends I still have that void of not sharing everything with him and asking his advice on things. How do people get through this????? Any comments will be appreciated. Sometimes I feel as if I have no life. Seems like when we were together was when I really lived. Jan
This has been the hardest time in my life. Trying to decide whether to go on or just give up. Very hard when you finally realize this is it. No more phone messages, no more kisses good night. No more doing things together. I was with my husband, Kerry, at the end, I held his hand, I said Good Bye, I told him I would be all right, that everything would be ok, but I lied. It is not OK! When does this madness stop.