Steve Cain's Comments

Comment Wall (105 comments)

You need to be a member of LegacyConnect to add comments!

Join LegacyConnect

At 5:24pm on April 26, 2010, sharon said…
Thank you so much, I am starting a a group on loss, it'll be my second night. I'm not sure yet but I pray they will help me understand so much I can't seem to get my mind around now to. I really am not good on talking directly to people I find this here, writing and being in contact, very comforting. Thank you and everyone else for being there.
At 11:10am on April 26, 2010, kathy obiedzinski said…
sharon: first and upmost i would like to say i am sorry about your lost. this website is a good onei also went to a doctor but i stopped going because this website helps me more.i lost my husband on 3/1/09 and till this day i cannot handle it. i also know he will never return to me in this life/when i start thinking i do not get out of bed this is depression and i can not help it.i just want to stay in bed and talk to him: maybe i can tell you what i did so i can see my husband. i had his picture put on my cellphone so every day when open it up his picture is the first thing i see. also what i did we have a spare bedroom which he used as a computer room with a bed in it. i made it georges room in that room it have a flag that was given to me because he was in the reserves during the viet nam war i also have picturer of his parents and him in the middle of it. again i made it georges room sometimes when i can not sleep or start to cry i go into that room and feel safe.we are all dying inside but we must try to keep the memories in our heart. remember this is the best website you could go on you will heard from different people to talk to you god bless
At 1:27pm on April 25, 2010, sharon said…
hello, I'm new here today, I just found this site. It has been almost 4 months since I lost my husband. I am not handling anything, I'm scared, lonely, want him back and know that's not going to happen. He was in bad shape and on hospice for one year, I lost him Dec.30th, 2009 I just sometimes wonder why bother to get out of bed? I miss him so much I'm dying inside.
At 2:24pm on April 18, 2010, Steve Cain said…
Hi Virginia,
I actually found your other post with a response when I clicked on your name so you are there.
At 8:57am on April 17, 2010, Virginia said…
Hi Steve i joined and wrote a post but it will not post what should i do I really want to be part of this site
At 7:38am on April 13, 2010, Maria Angus said…
It has been one week. I have not stopped shaking inside since I saw him take his last breath. I feel lost, and besides my two children my life seems meaningless. I saw this site for I was checking to see if they put my husband's pic in the obituary this time. My soul-mate and I were suspose to get married on May 8th. We felt we had another year despite the fact he had cancer. We moved the wedding up to March 27th because his health started failing. How long will this shaking last? I am crying from the inside. I want to be with him. i know I must remain with my kids. I do not know what else to say at this moment. When the time is right I will read what others on the site are saying.
At 12:25pm on April 12, 2010, Connie Berry said…
I lost my husband November the 11,2009 and the pain and anguish that I feel is so over powering. My life changed in a blink of an eye forever. I feel like a lost soul in an ocean with no one or anyplace to go just stranded and lost. I try to pretend that he's not gone and that he's away on business or just visiting relatives or that I'll suddenly awake and find that it's only a horrible nightmare that I've had. I find myself watching the clock and waiting from him to come home from work I know that time heals but it's not getting any better. I miss him so.
At 7:52pm on March 25, 2010, Carolyn Levin said…
I lost my husband May 18, 2009..It has been so painful without him, it would have been our 48th Wedding Anniversary March 17. I visited him at the Cemetary for 2 hours crying and talking to him. I have read books on grief but have not found a grief group that I can join yet,.I cry every day at just the thought of him and the many happy times we shared together..I am trying to stay strong for my children and grandchildren, taking one day at a time..
At 8:56am on March 21, 2010, RoseMary said…
Dear Steve
I lost my husband in July 2002 . It hasn't been the same for me either . I wake-up in the morning thinking that he's still here . I find myself calling for him . Out in the yard . That was his favorite place to have his morning coffee . It's hard on anyone who has lost a spouse . You're friends that you had when
you where married treat you as though you have the plague or some kind of a uncurable disease .
Please don't give up living . I have tried doing volunteer work . That helped only for a little while and then the memories come flowing back .
Your Friend
At 4:07pm on March 20, 2010, Erica said…
I am so lost right now. I have this terrible empty feeling. Joe and I were not married but we were together for 2.5 years. About 7 months ago we moved in together and life was great. He was a father to my three children and now he is gone. I miss him so much. I am lost without him. I am angry, scared, lonely, sad... all kinds of feelings and emotions. Part of me thinks that this is all a big joke and any minute he will be walking thru the door- The reality of it is that it is not a joke and he is never coming home. How I wish I could just have two minutes with him... I am completely lost and do not know what to do.
At 10:41pm on March 15, 2010, Steve Cain said…
Tricia & Brian,
First off, I give you each my deepest sympathy. We are all on a journey none of us planned or wanted to be on. I will begin by telling both of you to make sure you keep the lines of family communication open. When you are hurting, let people know. Also make sure to tell them if you want help or just a shoulder to cry on. People understand usually if you tell them you are not looking for them to "fix" things. Keep those same lines of communication open with your friends. They need to know what you need from them as well. If you have a church that you attend, make sure your pastor is always aware of any needs you have, be they spiritual or physical. With all the controversy lately about "social gospels" your church family can sometimes be your lifeline.
Finally, contact your local hospice about support groups. What has helped me almost more than anything else was knowing I wasn't the only one in my area going through this. By sharing my story as well as hearing other people's stories, I felt less isolated, even when I was alone. Keep coming on here and talking to us. We care and we are here for you.
At 8:52pm on March 15, 2010, Tricia said…
So happy to find this site. Sometimes I feel like I am the only one who has all of these overwhelming feelings. I lost my husband suddenly on June 16, 2009, just 4 weeks shy of our 25th wedding anniversary, and I feel I am getting worse instead of better. I miss everything about him. I cry everyday and thoughts of him consume every minute of every day. Anyone who wants can e-mail me
At 11:36am on March 15, 2010, Brian Clark said…
My darling wife of 21 years suddenly died last December 28. The lonliness is so painful.I am so desparate to talk to someone or to attend a group
If you can help or advise I would appreciate. Call
me at (619) 472-1185 or email:
At 10:03am on February 17, 2010, kathy obiedzinski said…
steve: i agree with you on wht you said about grieving process. you and all members are in my prays when this just happened we had a cell phone. i would go to work and in the car call my husband and when i heard his voice i would say hi hon its me just got to work i will call you later love you.then i had to take his voice off the cell because i could not afford both bills. i miss hearing his voice. i am him everyday to please come to me and let me know he is ok that is all i want to know. i am still waiting for that day to come. i know he will never return to me but maybe i will go to him
At 10:23pm on February 16, 2010, day day said…
grief and it boundries dont make sence at the start denial of course but r u not mad iam isnt that step3
At 10:20pm on February 16, 2010, day day said…
hi glad to see your up like me how r u?
At 7:31am on February 16, 2010, Steve Cain said…
I am so sorry to read about your situation. I know how hard it is to resist the urge to just yell at the people who say that to you. The two things I have read that are going on when someone says that are: they can't cope with their own feelings about the loss and second, they have a hard time accepting your grief and want you to "get over it" so they can go on with their lives. I would suggest to just say "I'm doing the best that I can" and just let it go. Sadly, people don't get it until they are in our situation.
At 6:49am on February 16, 2010, kathy obiedzinski said…
it will be 1 year on march 1,2010 that i lost my best friend which was my husband. i still talk to him every day my husband was not sick he just had a massive heart attack with happened so fast. i am trying to cope by going to a therapist but the hurt is still there and seems that it will not go away i cry everyday and everynight it is so hard to cope with the loss of a loved one people say be strong and things will get better. people should not say that if they were never in other peoples shoes that lost a love one ipeople must give a grieving time for the person that lost a loved one. people tell me i am going thru different stages but i do not think this is it. i miss my beest friend and thank god i have my children
At 3:45pm on February 14, 2010, Steve Cain said…
The past 24 hours have been rough. I was in an accident yesterday and of course, thinking about and missing my Kris today on top of yesterday has been a real teary experience. I wish you all some kind of peace today as you miss the one you love and remember the times you had together.
At 2:51pm on February 14, 2010, jeanette williams said…

Latest Conversations

Christine Rutt is now a member of LegacyConnect
Alyse Kathryn Hipes is now a member of LegacyConnect
Jan 18
Sara Murphy commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
Jan 14
Mary. Jane commented on Steve Cain's group Bereaved Spouses
Jan 14

Community Guidelines

Please be respectful of others. For more information, read our Community Guidelines.

Follow Legacy

© 2022   Created by   Powered by

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service