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At 11:45pm on December 24, 2012, Robin Mayer said…

thank u so much

At 10:41am on September 15, 2012, David, BERNIE's dad said…

So good to know we all grieve differently, and at different speeds, but it is good having people who listen. So many family and friends are afraid to help. David.

At 11:15am on September 11, 2011, Gerry Fiden said…

Just want to say a Happy Birthday to beautiful/hansome Jordan. You are in my prayers today.

Anything you are feeling Leslie...is right. Always remember that. There are no rules in this unfortunate game of life those of us here are in. I guess we all sort of make them up as we go along...and we definately all learn from each other. Sometimes you take the lead, sometimes I do. It never ceases to amaze me how connected I feel to you and several other here as we have never met. Just goes to show you how our children, our hearts and most important God brings us together.

You are in my prayer dear friend....and yes I do understand .

God Be With You,

Gerry

p.s. one last thought. Our son's journey's are not over..they have just begun.

At 10:49pm on August 12, 2011, Gerry Fiden said…

Leslie,

Sorry it took so long to respond. Believe me when I say, I may seem good..but I am not good everyday. Did you ever go through a time of denial. There are days I just go about life like this did not happen and my son is still alive. Hard for me to put into words exactly what I mean. When I go to bed at night the reality sets in as the last thing I do before I fall asleep is pray for him.

Don't give me more credit than I deserve.

Right now I am up and down...it is a long story why. Let's just say, life isn't fair.

God and my son watch over me and  Ric knows I love him, that is all that counts. Hard to believe his 2nd Angel Day is less than a month away.

God be with you,

Gerry

At 10:06pm on July 21, 2011, Gerry Fiden said…

Dear Leslie,

I am glad my message got through.

Like you, I was alone when Ric was killed. His dad and I divorced years ago. It is horrible going through losing your child without the support of his father. Strange  and sad,how two people can share a life,create a life and can't support each other during the most horrible experience in their lives.

Like you said..this site, and especially you and several others gave me the support I needed. Otherwise I would have had a breakdown. Of course God was there every step of the way...and I believe he lead me here.

Four years since Jordan left this earth..and here you are still helping others.

I am having a really rough time time this week and appreciate your caring even more than ever.

My son was all about forgiveness and I know that he wants me to forgive the man who killed him,but as I stated in my Victims Impact Statement...I am not there yet.

I need your prayers and am thankful for them.

As Always,

God Be With You,

Gerry

 

At 3:15am on July 21, 2011, Leslie L. Fiorda said…

Dear Gerry...

   I'm thankful for your prayers, God Bless You! It took 22 months for them to give him 10 years? I am sorry. I understand what you mean by "anti clamatic".  I would be shocked, as I guess you are. At least he is behind bars. That is a plus. As far as it getting better...it wouldn't matter if he would've recieved the death penelty; It doesn't fill that hole. It seemed to me; {now 4 years later}, that the hole that was burning inside me just kept getting bigger...deeper. I don't know if you are with your sons father, or married { I cant remember, forgive me}...but I went through this alone. At least until I found this site, and all of you. And God has been here for me, even when I didn't feel like praying.  I know the prayers of my special friends from this site helped/helps me get through. This is so hard Gerry...and you at 22 months...I wouldn't want to be back there. I am trying to say some encouraging words, and there just aren't any. You will be in my prayers and in my thoughts. That man that did this to your son has no idea what he has done. How many lives he has affected. This is so sad...just remember, I am grieving with you.    Love Leslie

At 3:15am on July 21, 2011, Leslie L. Fiorda said…

Dear Gerry...

   I'm thankful for your prayers, God Bless You! It took 22 months for them to give him 10 years? I am sorry. I understand what you mean by "anti clamatic".  I would be shocked, as I guess you are. At least he is behind bars. That is a plus. As far as it getting better...it wouldn't matter if he would've recieved the death penelty; It doesn't fill that hole. It seemed to me; {now 4 years later}, that the hole that was burning inside me just kept getting bigger...deeper. I don't know if you are with your sons father, or married { I cant remember, forgive me}...but I went through this alone. At least until I found this site, and all of you. And God has been here for me, even when I didn't feel like praying.  I know the prayers of my special friends from this site helped/helps me get through. This is so hard Gerry...and you at 22 months...I wouldn't want to be back there. I am trying to say some encouraging words, and there just aren't any. You will be in my prayers and in my thoughts. That man that did this to your son has no idea what he has done. How many lives he has affected. This is so sad...just remember, I am grieving with you.    Love Leslie

At 10:05am on July 13, 2011, Gerry Fiden said…

Hello my Friend,

It has been awhile .

I do have news about Ric's case and wanted to share with you and a few others on this site. You were the ones to keep me all together and gave me the emotional support I need.

A plea deal was accepted by the man who killed my son. He was offered 15 in prison and 10 probation..or 10 in prison and 15 probation. He accepted the later of the two. Not much of a surprise. It was noted that if he crosses the street wrong, while on probation...he will serve term.

I had mixed feelings about this sentence until I heard back yesterday from Judy (she is on Legacy). Her sons "juror trial" was a disaster with one juror holding out for nothing,and called a mistrial. So in that respect we were lucky not to go through this.

Sentencing is July 28th. I am torn about going or not. Don't know if I will be able to face this man. I will write a Victims Statement,but am finding out that some states/judges only allow one. I have always been at a disadvange with the proceedings as I live in NY and this is all happening in FL.

I feel so empty right now..even more so than before. During the past 22 months my main focus was justice for my son and putting this part to rest, now that this is happening it all seems so anti clamatic. Somewhere in my heart I think I believed it would fill some of the hole left there from losing Ric..or take away some of the pain. It has not. If anything it has caused more stress.

Leslie,I hope you are doing well..you were one of the first friends I met here.

I know Jordan and Ric know each other know and are smiling down on their moms.

Please keep in touch.

God be with you,

Gerry 

At 8:21pm on June 7, 2011, Tami said…
Leslie, What handsome sons. I love that you climbed the same rock! You are very brave. You are in my heart and in my prayers.
At 7:28pm on June 7, 2011, JOYCE MASHER, 4 Amy 5158791808 said…

Leslie, thanks for the friends invite. I am again, sorry to hear you have had to join this club no one wants to join. What a wonderful looking son. Its like he is looking back. Hope that doesnt make you upset!!!

I have a few things to do, so I will make this short and post back at another time.

Just know, we all are in this with you.

 

hugs

Joyce and Angel "Amy"

At 2:27pm on April 29, 2011, JoAnn Brozowski said…

Hello Leslie - I saw your post today and came to your page.  I will send prayers your way today.  As I was scrolling down your page I saw the picture of Jordan and my heart stopped.  he just looked so much like my son Tyler, my only child, who I lost on 01/26/10 at the age of 24.  He is beautiful, just like you said.  Tyler was 6 feet tall, with dark hair and eyes that changed from blue to green.  I miss him so much I just don't know how I get through each day.  Yet I get up and do it all again.  Know that I will keep Jordan in my heart today.

JoAnn

At 11:32pm on April 28, 2011, Linda Sacquety said…

Leslie,

Tomorrow is Jordan's Angel Day.  I will keep you in my thoughts and send you strength.  My daughters 2 year angel day will be here in June.  Cant believe its been 2 years and can't imagine feeling any better at four years.  Part of my heart died with Darline and will never grow back, Im sure that is how you feel about your precious son.  I live in Chino Hills, not far from Palm Springs......Take care of yourself and be GOOD to yourself, you deserve it.

At 11:07am on May 16, 2010, Gerry Fiden said…
Leslie,
You are always in my prayers,as is your handsome son. Strange..how we cling to those we have never met..and find little or no comfort from some that are so close. We have a bond,somewhat like the mother/child bond. It can't be broken.
God be with you,
Gerry
At 4:15pm on May 1, 2010, Carrie L said…
leslie I am sorry you lost your son. he was hansome like mine forever 23. I love him. carrie L
At 6:08am on January 28, 2010, David Fireman said…
Leslie:
It's just like soldiers who lose a buddy in war. Many of them come back traumatized and full of guilt that they survived only to be plagued by their memories. Especially those connected to the loss of a friend/ comrade. Guilt is not a bad emotion. It can teach us about mistakes we've made and do things better the next time. But in this case, it doesn't sound like there was a mistake either intentional or unintentional on Bryant's part. While he will no doubt go through a range emotions, being stuck in guilt will not allow him to move forward. Sometimes, telling and re-telling the story is useful to drain away some of its intensity. However, if he can't dissolve the guilt that way, then he might consider seeing a professional. There are some useful techniques to help with this process. Many of them have been designed to help veterans suffering from post traumatic stress disorder.
Warmly,
David
At 9:00am on December 16, 2009, Gerry Fiden said…
I sent you a reply, but don't know where I posted to. Sorry.
I have you in my heart also. Have joined a fantastic grief group, and the people attending all have lost children. We are a comfort to each other. Hope you are finding the comfort you need, to bring some peace to this holiday season.

As always you are in my prayers,
Gerry
At 7:17am on December 15, 2009, Gerry Fiden said…
Getting ready for grief group as I write this.It has been a tough week. How do we make it through the first Christmas. I know my son is in the hands of the Lord, but I miss him so much.
I send my prayers and thoughts of love to you,
Gerry
At 3:14am on December 12, 2009, caring said…
ty it surely is a bummer my heart knows how u feel truely a lot of huggs to u
At 8:47pm on October 29, 2009, rhonda said…
yes i am a christain, my son was 18 when he got hurt on the job, he had 1500 lbs. of trusses hit him in the head ,he was in earlanger trama center for 19 days,me and his father was told he would never live and if he did he would never be the same. well he beat the odds even though his face was 99% wire mesh and metal, he lost 15 teeth, and lost his right eye he survived through all the surgeries, all the depression and all the pain he went on to bless us with two beautiful grandchildren, whom he would never willing leave cause he was all they had cause the mother wonted a life of pills. his younger sister found him in bed and called her daddy when he hung up and he told me they could not wake scott up i already knew in my heart he was gone and i could not bring myslf to go with him , now i live with the guilt that through all that we had been throgh i was always the first one to get to him and was always their for him all but ths one time he needed me most, i should have been thier to hold him in my arms and tell him how much i loved him and he would not have been alone.i can not for the life of me understand why God would bring him through all of that just to call him home. i know he no longer in pain and he is at rest, but i would give anything to hear him say" hey mom spot me 20 and i will love you forever". God how i miss him i honestly dont know if i can do this the pain is to strong.
At 4:20pm on October 27, 2009, JOYCE MASHER, 4 Amy 5158791808 said…
leslie,
what beautiful people. sorry for your loss. did you notice the rock formation behind you both on that area looks like a CROSS?
JOYCE

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