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At 2:58pm on July 11, 2010, Hurting said…
Fernandohulya, you are like my best friend right now. We have never met and I don't even know if we will. You are able to understand my pain and what I am going through. Now I got to say one thing to you, don't ever feel ashamed because you didn't do anything wrong. You did the best you could in that situation and you are still doing that. Keep listening to your heart it will tell you when it is time to do something more. Right now take care of yourself and your children. Fernando is watching over all of you, he can't physically help you anymore but ultimately his strength would be in you. Take care.
At 8:21am on July 9, 2010, Hurting said…
I am thinking of you today. Hope it gets easier. We are all going back home to walk his path. I want to show my children, life of their dad. We are going to visit his relatives and friends. His old haunts where he used to get together with his friends. So we are just going to try to be a part of his life from his childhood. I think we all need that. What are your plans?
At 1:11am on July 9, 2010, Hurting said…
I am good one to give you advice. Try to do something that normally all of you would have done together. I have to do it with my kids all the time. Thinking of you.
At 10:56pm on July 8, 2010, Hurting said…
Fernandohulya Hi! Your children are the only thing that are going to pull you in this world, while your husband's memories want you to follow him. These days the weather here is so good but I don't know why I am still in dumps. I am missing him so much, I am trying to be very strong for my children because seeing me depressed makes them sad too.
At 9:23am on July 7, 2010, Hurting said…
Fernandohulya are you and the children okay. I haven't seen you posting anything for the last few days. I am kinda worried about you. Take care.
At 8:55pm on July 6, 2010, Hurting said…
How are you?
At 12:48am on June 30, 2010, judy said…
What is the online chat on Wed. With all the different time zones repersented is this possible? My spelling is getting worse by the day.
At 6:54pm on June 28, 2010, Hurting said…
Fernandohulya, you forgot we have one thing in common. That intense, intolerable, tearing apart pain. My husband went just two days before Christmas. Just previous evening we had all gone shopping because my 15 year old wanted to buy us gifts with his own money. He wrapped it himself and didn't even give me a clue. His dad never got to open it, all the gifts are still wrapped in my basement. Ever since it has happened my 24 year old looked up online everything he could find. There must be some kind of stats that most of the partners die 6 months between one another. So for 6 mos they all watched me like hawk. If I didn't eat they wouldn't eat; if I would cry they would all come and give me a group hug. One of them would always sleep with me at night. I had to think from my children's perspective they have already lost one parent now they only have one left. Anyways enough about me. Summer is Fernando's favorite time, do something with the children that he did. If he did bar-b-que and you can't get them from Harvey's or whatever and then talk about him. Your children are hurting too and on top of that they must be worried about you. Today nobody else is going to understand your pain unless they went through the same thing. I wish family and friends were more understanding and helpful! I have got permanent site for my husband on the following link:
http://www.legacy.com/guestbook/can/guestbook.aspx?n=hari-saraswat&pid=138116345

You could do something like that. I really like your idea of volunteering. Something good should come out this pain otherwise why did we get it?
At 6:12pm on June 25, 2010, Hurting said…
Fernandohulya, I am here for you. I don't how to do this online chat thing on this site. How is it going for your kids today? Believe it or not, but today you are not alone, he will come to check on you guys to make sure that you are doing okay. I know that you are strong enough to handle everything which would be less worry for him. Like I feel that both my husband and I are hurting. I can show it, express it. He can't. Take care.
At 9:04pm on June 24, 2010, Hurting said…
Thanks Fernandohulya, for your caring. You won't be alone tomorrow so don't be sad. Your Fernando is with you. In the morning when you are hurting and don't won't to get up, he is the one that gives you strength to take care of your kids. I hurt because I can't see my husband with naked eye, can't feel him physically, can't talk to him in person or on phone. Given choice I know he would never have left me and the kids willingly. He had silent heart attack probably God's way of making sure that he didn't put a fight while going. When I read the news about Tsunamis, earthquakes etc. I think because of all those people who have to go like this. Thinking of you.
At 7:11pm on June 18, 2010, Hurting said…
I think things are getting tougher now. First few months were numb, disbelief & hope that probably everything is a dream. Now I hurt for myself, for him and for my children too.
At 3:30pm on June 18, 2010, Fernandohulya said…
Roses grow in Heaven
Lord please pick a bunch for me.
Place them in my father's arms,
And tell him they're from me.
Tell him I love him and miss him
And when her turns to smile,
Place a kiss upon his cheek
And hold him for a while.
Because remembering him is easy,
I do it everyday,
But there's an ache within my heart
Because I'm missing him today.
At 12:58pm on June 17, 2010, Basia said…
Terry and I were also married in October 1994 :(
At 12:20pm on June 11, 2010, Fernandohulya said…
A star up in the sky will never know
How lovely is the light that shines below
It’s always there, it never fades
Without its magic light
How would we find our way?.
And you don’t know how beautiful you are
If your eyes could see the love that’s in your heart
Then you would know, what everybody sees
That beautiful is all that you could be.
What did I feel or think was true
I can’t remember before loving you
You’ve shown me all that love can be
As beautiful as you are
It still amazes me.
That you don’t know how beautiful you are
If you your eyes could see the love that's in your heart
Then you would know, what everybody sees
That beautiful is all that you could be.
At 5:40pm on June 10, 2010, Hurting said…
Thanks, feeling is mutual. How are your kids doing?
At 10:24pm on June 5, 2010, Hurting said…
How r u doing? I know it is a very stupid question. Just letting you know I care.
At 9:34pm on May 27, 2010, Hurting said…
I hope things are okay with you today. Just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you. Take care

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