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At 10:40am on August 31, 2013, MEG Amelia said…

Hope you are ding well friend! God Bless You!

At 8:41pm on July 24, 2011, Marsha H said…

Dear Fred ...

Thank you so much for asking me to be your friend.  I am so sorry about your beloved wife and know how you feel as my beloved Ernie passed April 27, 2011 of pancreatic/liver cancer.  I know how it feels to go through a long illness with your loved one and feel so useless and not in control.  Have faith in the fact that your sweetheart knew how much you were there for her and she will always love you for your strength; love and loyalty.  She is close to you in spirit so try not to give up because she would not want you too.  I know my Ernie would want me to go on and he made me promise him that before he died.  Nothing makes much sense to me either and it seems one can have lead on our feet just getting through ever second of every day.  My neighbors also have a key to my home and I have to say I am blessed with friends, but at the present moment I find it difficult to have a conversation with them because once being an extroverted person I am still in that pit of grief where nothing seems positive to me at the present time.  I have been having problems not eating at all; losing weight to the point I am seeing my doctor, but have little faith much will help.  I am still trying and seeing a grief counselor which really helps as I have bumped into so many widows especially, but a couple of widowers.  Grieving saps so much strength out of us all, but look around this forum and see how many survivors there are.  I find it difficult not to think of joining my husband (pining away) but then I remember that promise to him so whatever it takes I'm giving it my best shot and I hope you find the strength to do so too.  I just can't concentrate much lately and find it difficult navigating this forum and I don't mean not to reply to people, but don't know how to chat; get my Yahoo account right now so if you would like to keep in touch and just talk please email me at:  Maday1@shaw.ca

 

A big hug

Marcy

At 11:16pm on April 29, 2011, Chicago Beard said…
Hi Fred. I understand. I thought it was closer. Maybe another time as I would like to see the Alamo someday (and not the rental car company,LOL). Hang in there as best you can and feel free to write me anytime.
At 11:16pm on April 29, 2011, Chicago Beard said…
Hi Fred. I understand. I thought it was closer. Maybe another time as I would like to see the Alamo someday (and not the rental car company,LOL). Hang in there as best you can and feel free to write me anytime.
At 11:16pm on April 29, 2011, Chicago Beard said…
Hi Fred. I understand. I thought it was closer. Maybe another time as I would like to see the Alamo someday (and not the rental car company,LOL). Hang in there as best you can and feel free to write me anytime.
At 3:09pm on April 28, 2011, Chicago Beard said…

Hi Fred

In October I will be in Houston for a wedding which I understand is not far deom San Antonio. If you are up to it and willing I would like to get together for coffee and so we can both cry in our and. Let me know.

At 3:09pm on April 28, 2011, Chicago Beard said…

Hi Fred

In October I will be in Houston for a wedding which I understand is not far deom San Antonio. If you are up to it and willing I would like to get together for coffee and so we can both cry in our and. Let me know.

At 3:06pm on April 28, 2011, Chicago Beard said…

Hi Fred

 

I will be in San Antonio in Octoberfor a wedding. If your able and agreeable I would like to meet for coffee and so we can sit there and cry in our and.

At 11:37am on April 27, 2011, Jerry said…
Hi Fred,as far as the Dr's finding it strange your wearing the wedding ring after you wife has passed on, thats just his opinion, doesnt mean he is right. I never wore my ring much during all our years together,mainly due to my job. I would wear it when we went out and I got dressed up in a suit. My wife always commented that my ring looked new and hers was worn.As far as I am concered I think it is the right thing to due for you. I have been thinking of having our rings joined by a jewler and I can wear them on a chain around my neck.
At 11:37am on April 27, 2011, Jerry said…
Hi Fred,as far as the Dr's finding it strange your wearing the wedding ring after you wife has passed on, thats just his opinion, doesnt mean he is right. I never wore my ring much during all our years together,mainly due to my job. I would wear it when we went out and I got dressed up in a suit. My wife always commented that my ring looked new and hers was worn.As far as I am concered I think it is the right thing to due for you. I have been thinking of having our rings joined by a jewler and I can wear them on a chain around my neck.
At 8:42pm on April 26, 2011, Marianne said…
Fred, Know that you are not alone; I hope that is of some comfort.  My husband passed away 9 months ago and I find myself haunted by memories of finding him (heart attack).  I have tried to join a group through hospice here for folks who have lost loved ones suddenly but for some reason, they are not returning calls or emails.  I am feeling the need at this point to talk with others who have experienced a sudden loss.  So frustrating to be blown off by people who deal in grief of all things!  I find I am filled with happy memories but miss my husband just the same. " days I even find that I have "good" days which I really did not believe would be possible.  I am stunned at friends who have asked if I will remarry.  Really???  He's not even gone a year, and frankly, I don't believe I will find a second soulmate and partner.  When my friend asked me if i thought I'd ever remarry I just turned the question on her and she said "No!  He's my best friend!"  Well there you go. I don't understand people sometimes.  My husband and I worked hard to overcome obstacles and challenges and worked very hard at our marriage.  I don't have that in me again!
At 7:43am on April 26, 2011, Jerry said…
Hi Fred, I am going though some hard days since my wife passed away 14 months ago. But I try to get on with my life for my children,and especially the grand kids. I am sure my wife would like me to do my best for them. I am with you about not ever getting remarried. We did talk about this during or lives together, but not at all when we knew she was sick. People ask me already if I am dating ,to me that is not in my plans. I could never love anyone again ,sad to say. Hope you will do a little better,altuough things will never be the same.
At 10:00pm on December 1, 2010, Jerry said…
Hello Fred, please dont think that your life should be over. I am sure your son would not want to hear that. If he offered to help ypu I am sure he means that he wants you around. I am sort of reclusive since my wife pased away. Not much fun going to eat out alone, so I usually get some thing to bring home. I somtime wake up and think Karen is still next to me,it is a good feeling. I wish you luck with getting whats due you from SS and any insurance,I know dealing with them can be stressful. I will have you in my prayers,regards,Jerry.
At 10:00pm on December 1, 2010, Jerry said…
Hello Fred, please dont think that your life should be over. I am sure your son would not want to hear that. If he offered to help ypu I am sure he means that he wants you around. I am sort of reclusive since my wife pased away. Not much fun going to eat out alone, so I usually get some thing to bring home. I somtime wake up and think Karen is still next to me,it is a good feeling. I wish you luck with getting whats due you from SS and any insurance,I know dealing with them can be stressful. I will have you in my prayers,regards,Jerry.
At 7:50pm on December 1, 2010, Jerry said…
Hello Fred, hope you are doing well. Try to hang in there, dont feel you are not going to make it. Do it for your grandchildren. Stay in touch,regards Jerry.
At 10:19pm on October 21, 2010, Jerry said…
Hi Fred, I hope you are feeling a little better yourself.I read the posts on Bereaved Spouses daily,seems we are all going though a rough time. All I know is that each day I have a few bad moments. I have been watching some religious shows on cable. What they say has been making more and more sense latley.The meeage that we will meet again give me some hope.
At 12:01am on October 9, 2010, Jerry said…
I have 3 grandchildren,the middle one, a girl 4 years old was with her grandma the day before she passed. She is always talking about her,and seems to have a special relationship with her even though she is gone. I have many times thought that if only I had went to a hospital like the ones that advertise on TV that things may have turned out diferently. I have been advised not to dweel on that issue as it will only get me sick. I try to focus on the good times as they do out number the bad.
At 11:40pm on October 8, 2010, Jerry said…
I feel the same as you about ever finding someone that I could love as much as Karen,its just not possible. I also began to believe that the pain pills and patches were causing her to just sleep more and more as they increased the dosage. The hospice told me as time went on the body needs more to help with the pain. I would try to cut back, then the nusre told me I was wrong in doing so.
At 11:29pm on October 8, 2010, Jerry said…
Hi Fred,yes that is my wife in the picture. Glad to have you as a friend. I dont think I put much info in my profile, but my wife passed on this January 15. I was next to her when it happened along with my son and daughter in our bed. I sometimes still cant believe it happened.
At 11:01pm on October 8, 2010, Jerry said…
Hi Fred,read your posts tonight. Sorry to hear of your medical problems. As far as wking up and feeling that my wife may have been up before me and in the kithen,it has happened a few time.My wife had been having some medical problems since 2005,but since last Oct was when we got the bad news that the tratments she had endured for the previous year did not good. In Oct 2009 she was refered to hospice and it all went down hill from then on. Going blind and having constant pain,even though she was on heavy medications was a terrible way to live.I firmly believe she is finally at peace. I dont wear my wedding ring,only because I was a mechanic and only wore it on specila occasions. I dont have any thoughts about meeting another women,although a few FRIENDS have asked when will I start going out.This is not something I intend to do.I am furtunate to have found this site ,it has been a great comfort to me in the months since I found it. Regards Jerry.

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