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At 8:06pm on September 6, 2011, liz pozniak said…: I carried you for 9 months, i watched you explore this new world and saw wonder in your eyes.i let go as you became a man. And i held on tight when you passed me by on your way to a better place. Now i long fpr your touch, i strain to hear your voice. Please watch over us till we jpin you again.
I am sorry for your loss. It has been 2 and a half years since we lost our son.may you be comforted by friends and remeber his laughter, smiles and goofiness that all so s give us....

At 8:06pm on September 6, 2011, liz pozniak said…: I carried you for 9 months, i watched you explore this new world and saw wonder in your eyes.i let go as you became a man. And i held on tight when you passed me by on your way to a better place. Now i long fpr your touch, i strain to hear your voice. Please watch over us till we jpin you again.
I am sorry for your loss. It has been 2 and a half years since we lost our son.may you be comforted by friends and remeber his laughter, smiles and goofiness that all so s give us....

At 10:36pm on June 22, 2011, Nichole Lynn Lester said…: Thank you for the friend request..I'm also glad I found this site . I'm lost,stuck.hurt,confused,ect.. and I dont know what to do,how to start getting past this..A friend told me that nothing will ever be "normal" again,that I have to start a "new normal" and of course that isnt what I want,I want my son back and to be normal again...How do you start? When will it start getting a little easier? Each new day I miss Justin that much more,I dont know how to live w o him? Sorry for your loss,motorcycles are so very dangerous,how would one stand a chance if wrecked,nothing there to protect you and Justin's helmet flew off and his biggest internal injury was bleeding and pressure in his brain...My heart aches for you as well,i'm also opened for any advice to help cope... Thank You

At 6:27pm on June 14, 2011, Alicia Rodriguez said…: Im so sorry for your loss. I lost my beloved son 7/12/09 two years and it dosnt get any easyerill pray for us all.God Bless you.

At 10:16pm on May 8, 2011, Cathy said…: Anita,

Thinking of you this Mother's Day. I know you miss your son so much as I do mine. I'm not sure why we must go through this pain. I hope you made it through today okay. You're in my prayers.

Cathy ~ Charlie's Mom (www.333technologies.com)

At 12:25pm on April 22, 2011, Terri - Autumn's Mom said…: Hi Anita,
I believe you are one of the people that had recommended the book to me. I really appreciate it, so far, the little I've read, has been beneficial. I'm highlighting parts that pertain to me so I can go back later and re-read them.
Thanks again for the recommendation.

At 11:15am on April 20, 2011, shannon churchill said…: Saw the post for the service and watched it.. Such a special boy and reminded me so much of my Tommy. You had so many wonderful reminders of his life in those photo's and I know it is hard to watch but at the same time it brings you joy seeing him. Life was never supposed to end up this way. We were supposed to get to see them have families and have them hold our hand when we left before them. I just wish I could have been with my Tommy when he left this earth as I am sure you feel the same. God Bless you and help you to find peace in your heart. Hugs, Shannon

At 11:15am on April 20, 2011, shannon churchill said…: Saw the post for the service and watched it.. Such a special boy and reminded me so much of my Tommy. You had so many wonderful reminders of his life in those photo's and I know it is hard to watch but at the same time it brings you joy seeing him. Life was never supposed to end up this way. We were supposed to get to see them have families and have them hold our hand when we left before them. I just wish I could have been with my Tommy when he left this earth as I am sure you feel the same. God Bless you and help you to find peace in your heart. Hugs, Shannon

At 10:23pm on April 13, 2011, Cathy said…: Anita, thank you for visiting Charlie's website and thank your for your prayers too. You hang in there and know we're all in this together. It is sad we have to meet this way, but it is good that we have the support and feel comfort that there are people who really understand what we're going through. It's not always easy to attend a support group in person, but I'm finding that this site helps me a lot. It helps me to know I can do something to help others too for I can always pray for them.
Cathy - Charlie's Mom

At 7:46pm on April 13, 2011, Cathy said…: Anita,

I looked at the pictures of your beautiful son and watched the video. He "is" precious and I say that in the present tense because he still lives but not an earthly life like we do. I too lost my son, Charlie, August 20, 2010. It's hard to believe it's almost 7 months now. Some days the pain feels like yesterday and then it seems like it has been forever since I've seen him, which was my birthday (241 days ago). He also was snatched away from us in an accident. He was skateboarding with his dog - that's how he exercised the dog almost every day. No one saw the accident - all we know is he fell and had a terrible head injury. He was 31and and married but had no children yet. He would have been such a good daddy - I saw that in how he made time for his dog and took care of him. My son's dog missed him too and actually died 4 months later so unexpectedly - he was only 2 years old and healthy but his stomach flipped the day after Christmas. All I could think about is if that had happened 4 months earlier, my son would still be alive. I guess God had a purpose for the dog and he served that purpose. We felt like we lost another little piece of our son when that happened though. Thinking of them being reunited is a pleasant thought and I have to think that way to get through this. Please know that I pray for everyone in this group and will be praying for you and your family too. Without hope and God's promise, we couldn't make it. My son had returned from a mission trip to Ecuador about a month before his accident and he filmed the work his church did there - his video is on his website: http://www.333technologies.com He has several pictures of him and family there to. I hope you will visit and share it for I feel that every time someone visits his website, our loss is not in vain as his blogs may touch someone else and help them to find God.

Hugs,

Cathy - Charlie's Mom

At 5:08pm on March 29, 2011, valerie moore said…: dear anita, i have a book called "90 minutes in heaven" i found it to be very helpful for those who are lingering or questioning heaven... it is written by don piper....hugs, valerie moore

At 7:32pm on March 27, 2011, shannon churchill said…: Anita, I am still here. I have spent the day looking for NDE's... I have never in my life needed to know so badly what people experience .....If there is any justice or meaning for this life WE BETTER GET TO SEE OUR CHILDREN AGAIN.

At 11:58am on March 25, 2011, shannon churchill said…: Thank you Anita :)

At 9:31pm on March 23, 2011, Linda said…: Anita.....I am so sorry about your son....as we all know there are no words to say....I would hug you I could.....I am going to watch your youtube you have...I also have one that a good friend of Jennie's did. If you would like to see and hear the song she put to it this is the address for it Jennifer Johnston www.youtube.com I think the first pic of her is when she had crutches and has quite a few dogs around her. It also has her friends name that did it. It's marshabranch202.......thanks for the request and hopefully we can help each other......take care...Linda, Jennifer's mom

At 8:32pm on March 21, 2011, Debra Dawson said…: Hi Anita. I was your message to Colleen, and wanted to check in with you. How are you doing? One minute at a time, one hour at a time, day by day? Know you are in my prayers.

At 4:14pm on March 19, 2011, Pam Brooks said…: I wanted to tell you I went to youtube and watched your son grow up. It was wonderful and sad at the same time. I felt like I knew him the way it was set up. I would love to do something like that for my daughter but I don't know how. God bless and keep you, Anita.

At 3:27pm on March 17, 2011, Amelia R Chavez said…: Anita so sorry for you loss,as I also loss a son he was my oldest he was 36 we loss him to liver failure do to drinking beer,he drank only on weekends?maybe there was more to it I will never know. I tried so hard to make him quit but i didn't try hard enough and will have to live with it the rest of my life.Everyone says he was old enough to make is on choices but if he was why did he want to leave me? still having it hard even through it been 18 months the pain is very fresh.take care and God Bless You and Your Family

At 5:44pm on February 27, 2011, shannon churchill said…: We say his all the time.... and truly believe you are right.... . ."Our children are too good for this earth" We have said the exact same thing about Tommy.... He was truly TOO GOOD FOR THIS EARTH! Sometimes when I hear other people say the some thing I just want to shout Praise God!!!!!! Praise God!!!! Because they did not have to remain here to have their hearts and spirits broken.... They were ready for heaven.... and Our Father knew it and by his Grace they were allowed to go and be with him. He has a higher purpose for their life!!!!!!!! To bring all of us closer to Christ.... closer to being the mature loving souls we need to be in order to be worthy of the gift he as given our children.... a life eternal... free of stress and hurt, loss and struggle. Give thanks instead of sorrow for the time we had with them and have peace in you soul that we will soon see them again.

At 9:20pm on February 25, 2011, Debra Dawson said…: Anita how have you been this week?

At 11:40am on January 31, 2011, Susan - Donny's Mom said…: Morning Anita!

It does seem that the main posting page has gotten a lot better. In fact some of the people that were so sad seem to seeing a tiny light at the end of the tunnel (per say). I tried Hospice Group once and did not feel that was the place for me. I think it might have been too soon but haven't felt the need to try that again.

This website really gives me comfort and looking at your "friends list" I see a lot of the Moms/Dads that I post to most of the time. When I first joined this site

I would sit in tears the whole time posting my feelings but most of the time now I can post in a better emotional place. Like I have said before I have pictures all around my laptop of Donny smiling down on me. The "why" is always gonna be there and I know now there are no answers. All I can do is try and be strong and supporting for his 3 girls and his sister who was so close to him. They were 18 months apart growing up and always had combinations of friends that all hung out all the way through their lives. My daughter really never bonded to girls much but her and her brother always were the best of buddies. I know really I am fortunate to have had Donny 39 years and am blessed with grandkids from him but no matter what I will miss my big guy everyday forever.

Davey is so young and handsome, I am sorry for your loss.

Honored to be one of your friends on this life journey

Susan Donny's Mom