Anita Chavez-Daveys mom's Comments

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At 7:24am on January 30, 2011, Carrie L said…
Hi Daveys mom. I am sad also. I haven't been able to say he is in a better place. this place was just fine. He was so handsome. So ornery. He made me happy and smile. I love him. I don't like this one bit. Why and How my mind keeeps churning and churning. Mornings are really bad. Life is not the same. You are not alone. Neither am I but I feel very alone. The sadness and thoughts I doubt anyone but a mother would have. I will keep his memory alive somehow. It will always be in my head. They should project what is in our heads. I hope we both find some peace somehow. carrie L
At 4:09pm on January 28, 2011, Lauree Lage said…
Hi Anita, My name is Lauree.  It kills me to look at my son's picture and see him smiling and to realize how much he enjoyed living.  You are completely normal.  I understand that in time we will be able to look at their pictures and remember the joy that they brought without feeling the pain.  You are not alone in this feeling.
At 12:56pm on January 26, 2011, Terri - Autumn's Mom said…

Hi Anita,

I watched Davey's You Tube memorial and read his memorial, it sure is apparent that he was surrounded with love his whole life.

I have a 17 year old son that rides dirt bikes.  Young people all seem to think they're invincible. 

My personal belief though is, when it's your time, it's your time.  Autumn would have still passed away at the same time no matter where she was or what she was doing, that's just my opinion.  To me, there are just too many freak accidents and miracles for it to be otherwise. Maybe I just tell myself that to console myself.  But that is the way I've always looked at life.

From the time Autumn was born, I felt she wasn't long for the world.  I knew down deep she would not live to be an old age.  Of course I hoped I was wrong and it still didn't prepare me for her death.  But like you, I knew.

I really didn't know if it was just me, I'm glad you had mentioned others on here bringing you down.  I had to quit reading this site for awhile because it was depressing me even more than I already was.

I do think I have found some positive people that are encouraging and helpful.  I know this is going to be a hard walk for the rest of my life and will never go away.  It's not even been two months since I lost Autumn and some days I get in such deep despair I worry I won't get out of it.  That's why I come here.  It has helped to hear from others that have already been where I am in my grief.  It's very sad to me that there are so many parents that have lost their children and this is how we met.  But I'm also thankful for this site that has brought us together. 

Thank you for responding to me earlier, I really appreciate it.


At 1:12pm on November 30, 2010, Susan - Donny's Mom said…
Anita, I just viewed your beautiful video of your son Davey. As I watched it so many pictures are the same as my son's video we had at his memorial service. I haven't been able to watch it since but at least I enjoyed yours with so many similar
It seems like motorcycle accidents are one of the main causes for losing so many young men on this website. But they are such an attraction of young people it is nearly impossible to keep them away from riding them. In fact in my younger days my husband and I rode Harley's and had the time of our lives. No helmets, just riding off into the wind. Many good memories for us.
I am sad you had to join this website but you will find great comfort in the postings and often you will get good advice back from other grieving moms/dads.
You have a beautiful family along with a very handsome angel son.
At 11:00am on November 30, 2010, valerie moore said…
grief is individual to each unique person. i tried everything i could to help him... i knew if he passed, i would be left here alone and i am a total emotional mess, some days i feel i can hardly breath. thanks for sharing... hugs...valerie
At 10:59am on November 30, 2010, valerie moore said…
dear anita, i saw the memorial of davey. he was a beautiful young man. you did a great job raising him, i could tell immediately he was a good you man. i lost my only child, dusty 1 yr 3 months ago. he was 25 and also a beautiful young man, except he had a dreadful disease called DRUG ADDICTION. he just could not get off the horrible drugs. but he was a very good ,loving young man with so much potential. he had a great sense of humor and was just awsome. i am missing him and hurting for him so much. time hasnt healed too much as of yet. its just going to take time, and grief is ind
At 9:25pm on November 29, 2010, donna smith said…
Dear Anita, I am so sorry for the lost of your son I lost my daughter on june 25th, I want to tell you that your video was beautiful, I can not stop crying. The music brought back so many memories for me. I wish you the best. Huggs to you and your family. Donna/ deanna Mom
At 10:24am on November 4, 2010, Julie Patton said…
Here is a picture that was taken at Christmas last year of me and my daughter and husband. We took a family picture every year and even now it's hard to think that this was the last.

At 10:21am on November 4, 2010, Julie Patton said…
Well, obviously I don't have this figured out becuase I just posted a long comment to you and deleted it by accident. So I'll try it again and hopefully it will work.

Thank you so much for getting in touch with me. I'm so sorry to hear about Davey and the fact that they both entered into heaven at almost the exact time. Cindy passed away at 8:38 AM just a few minutes after Davey. I wish more than anything that we didn't have this common bond but we do and after reading your message, it helps to think that maybe they are together up there.

It is so hard to face the truth and that she isn't coming home. We were blessed to have our kids for as long as we did. Davey was a year older than Cindy but I can see them being friends. I also think that wold want us to help each other through this. I can see them both smiling down on us.

I would love to keep in touch with you and learn more about Davey if you want to talk. My private email is I don't know alot about the message board here as far as posting. I've already deleted the first post to you accidentally. Please feel free to email me at any time I would love to hear from you.

Take Care. Julie

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