Hi Marsha - Just wanted to check in, say hi, and see how you're doing. I haven't heard from you in a while, although I've been dividing my time between this site and the bereaved spouses group on Facebook. If you're on Facebook, or want to join (it's free), once you're set up, search for "bereaved spouses" in the search box, and you'll find the group. It's small, but you'll see some familiar names.
I hope you got through Christmas okay and that the New Year brings you some comfort and peace. Hugs - Susan
Hi Marsha, Haven't heard from you in awhile. Hope you are doing as well as can be expected. Winter has started, got 4 inches of snow yesterday. I hate snow. Let me know how you are, I'm worried. Take care.
Hi Marsha, checking up on you. How was your Thanksgiving? Mine went by better than I expected. Today was another story. A very lonely day. Jim has been gone 5 wks, and the pain is getting worse. At first I couldn't cry, now that's all I do. People seem to think I should be getting better, don't think so. Let me know how you're doing. Take care.
I'm so sorry you have to lose your house along with everything else. I probably will put mine on the market in the spring as I have a disability, and the house has more space (and stairs) than I can easily navigate. Financially it will be a strain down the road as well, with just one income, so I hope I can sell it, take the equity, and get a condo - in an elevator building! But Steve and I loved this house, were married here, so selling it will break my heart, even if it is the wisest course. I try not to think too much about it; I tell myself when it's time to put it on the market, maybe the pain will be just a little bit less. But I know I'll cry when I have to leave, as you're doing now. My heart goes out to you. Too many losses too soon. I'm sending a hug; take care of yourself.
Thanks Marsha, but I'm not doing so well. My mom who has Alzheimer's has turned another corner and is in the late stage now. When Brad was here he was my rock, he taught me to be strong and was right there beside me when things went wrong. When I lost my father 4 years ago, Brad was by my side always and when I'd go and visit my mom when she wasn't this bad, Brad went with me every time and even wanted to bring her to our house to live and take care of her. Now I'm close to losing her and I want Brad here to hold my hand. I hope you are doing okay and I will be in touch. Love you and thanks again for thinking of me.
Hi Marsha, Just checking on you. Today was a quiet day for me, means I only broke down a few times. This is definitly the worst time of my life. I have lost my brother, my father, mother-in-law, but this is the hardest pain I have ever dealt with. That's because Jim was always there with a hug. Wish I had that hug now.
Marsha, I'm so sorry for your loss. You have come to the right place, you will get the support you need here. I know what you mean about the in-laws. I lost Brad 14 months ago and except for one phone call 2 days after the funeral demanding I give them our cars (why??). I said no and haven't heard from them since. We were always close and I dont know why they are being like this. They didn't even talk to me the day of the funeral but the days leadng up to it they were all over me! It hurts but I've come to the realization that there is nothing I can do about it and I have my memories of a great life with Brad. If they don't want me, I'll have to settle for that. All I have left of Brad's family is my step-son who comes to see me and he feels the same way about my inlaws and how they are treating me. I'm here for you if you need anything. Hugs to you
So sorry for your loss Marsha. It is a sad time and we know how it feels. We have all been there and wish you didn't have to be here anymore than we are but know that we are here for support, questions, and just plain venting. Theres lots of helpful articles to answer alot of questions also. Take care of yourself. Hugs
Marsha, I am very sorry for your loss. I lost my Steve in September, and I, too, am very sad. Thinking about how to live without the love of my life is the hardest part, I think. But there's a lot of support on this site, and I hope you will find it helpful. I joined just a couple of days ago, and have received a number of very supportive messages - it doesn't erase the pain (nothing could - or should), but it helps. Hugs to you.