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My beautiful Mom.

My brother Darin.

This is My Blue Eyes, Robert. He was my Life-Partner for 22 years, from 1985 until 2007. He is The Love Of My Life and I miss Him more than life itself.

Robert and Barry
The following is taken directly from my tribute website to Robert.

Our Story: Robert Wilson Kopler and Barry Wade Harnamji got together in 1985 and remained together until 2007. When we met, Robert was working two full time jobs. He had always been independent from very young, generous to a fault and stubborn as the proverbial mule. He's always known what he wanted and would not let anything get in his way. As time passed I realized that Robert was the best person for me and pretty amazing as well. We lived our lives as best we could for the next several years until life intervened, as it normally does, with something painfully unexpected.
At the end of February 1996, Robert experienced a massive stroke that left the right side of his body partially paralyzed and he became disabled at the age of 34.
The following years meant a lot of rehabilitation, going in and out of hospitals and battling additional complications.
Robert endured more complications than any one body should ever have to handle but his strong spirit pulled him through every time. I saw him at the brink of death on so many occasions, only to be snatched back to me at the very last moment. I very seldom use the word “awesome” to describe anyone but it’s the most befitting of words to describe Robert Kopler and all of the adversities he overcame.
I have never felt more helpless and hopeless, however, as I did while Robert was in the hospital and then when he came home to recuperate.
I watched helplessly as the body and spirit of this most vibrant and beautiful person began to slowly decline as the years continued.
On May 08, 2007, I was with Robert when he took his last breath. His body could take no more pain or suffering.

Robert Kopler took his last breath in my arms. It was the most painful experience I have ever known and one for which I will never overcome. We were both 45 years old. Robert was My Life's Love and I love him with everything I possess.

My biggest regret is keeping this beautiful person, who I loved for over half my life, and our lives a secret for so long.

I Love You Forever, My Blue Eyes.


My Mom:

My Brother Darin:

Feel free to sign the Guest Book or Memory Book. Your comments and feedback are appreciated. Thank you. Barry

View the Moving Tribute dedicated to Robert.
View the Moving Tribute dedicated to my Mom.

Please visit my tribute website to Robert and the Legacy memorial websites to Robert Kopler, my Mother, Vilma Harnamji and my younger brother, Darin.

I hope that visitors will take away that Love IS Love. I made the website to show the love I have for the these important people in my life. It is too late for me to change things so I want to celebrate and share a little bit of their lives with family, friends and new friends.

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At 3:05am on July 21, 2009, annalise samuel lapira said…
thank you barry
At 5:27pm on December 13, 2008, Daisy M said…
Hey Barry , how is it goin? well first thanks for the kind words... and i hope all has been easier for you...
At 7:47pm on August 3, 2008, Daisy M said…
At 10:20pm on July 5, 2008, Daisy M said…
Hey Barry, good to hear from you so soon. I went to your Mother's site... WOW its so beautiful , she was a very beautiful lady. The family looked so happy. From looking at her I see she kept the knit close... May a beautiful be at rest as she has done a well job yes her time her on earth with us is done, She was needed else where... I will tell you this, you are so very talented the page is well for me wordless just AWESOME!!!!!!
At 8:49pm on July 5, 2008, Daisy M said…
hey its me daisy, how are things for you... I had to restart a profile because i dont remember my initial info... so i sent a request for friendship....
hope things are a little easier, by the way nice photo of Robert
At 8:25pm on June 26, 2008, ingrid Mapson said…
There is nothing more painful than a broken heart. Don't worry, he's in God's hands, and the most beautiful part is he is smiling down on you and you don't even really know it. Your Partner is not a victim here. Please understand that... God just wanted him sooner. :). So mentally celebrate that he is in no pain, and always, remember....... he is with you, and if you life is so in doubt, he is watching you. So you pay attention and count the blessing that you had with Him and the more blessings that he is making sure you will receive. take care... :)
At 11:18pm on May 31, 2008, Daisy said…
yes i am the one that signed this book, and as i said earlier it dont matter what anyone think as long as you know what you felt and feel about your beloved lost one.... We owe no one nothing and its time for us to stop trying to prove anything to all... we must start with ourselves and those that want to accept what we as indiviuals choose is okay and if one choose to not accept then so be it... because in life i have learned you can not please everyone, and guess what we were not put here to please all, we only owe it to the almighty

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