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An Un-Birthday

Posted on March 4, 2010 at 11:30am 0 Comments

The third anniversary of loosing my oldest daughter...and I still don't know if I am doing things right. Just thought I would share a poem I wrote for anyone dealing with the same...



Today is an un-birthday

It is not a day of joy

Full of gifts and toys

It is not full of smiles

Or cards sent over the miles

It’s not a day of dreams

Birthday cards or ice cream



Today is an un-birthday

It’s a day full of tears

Full of pain and mascara… Continue

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At 10:24am on January 1, 2011, Kathy Mook said…
Praying for you and your family Amy!
At 9:33am on January 1, 2011, Janice said…

Hello Amy, my heart goes out to you and your family. I will most certainly keep you in my prayers..praying for a favorable outcome. Stay strong.

Love Janice,

At 9:57am on December 31, 2010, Susan - Donny's Mom said…

Just read your post this morning.  I too had breast cancer and will help walk you through the next few months.   I am a year and a half cancer free so there is huge hope for good treatments and a long and healthy life.  It is just terrifying at the moment to have this diagnosis.  Try to rest, and read up on everything you can on breast cancer.   Nowadays this can be cured and you will be fine.   My hugs to you today.

Donny's Mom

At 9:10am on March 7, 2010, Lisa Hobrook said…
I mean I will NOT say "fine" or "Okay" when asked how I am doing because that is just not the truth.
At 9:08am on March 7, 2010, Lisa Hobrook said…
I am so very sorry for the loss of your daughter. As a mom who just lost her son, Chad, six months ago, I echo everything you have said. My handsome boy, on the inside and the outside, my son, my friend, my hero, and so much more. Loving brother to my other three precious children: Holly, Travis and Hannah who are lost without him. Chad was 18 years old and he loved life as well. At the time my four lights of my life were 19, 18, 17 and 13. I would always say girl boy boy girl. My husband and I are close but so devastated. People don't understand. They make me angry when the say "I know". I always correct them gently because I feel to do differently is a disservice to my son. I also will say "fine" or "okay" when asked how I am doing. I love my four kids with all my heart and soul. Chad's and my relationship was so very special; maybe it went one step further one step deeper, but I would die for any of them. I lost Chad in an unexplained car accident as well. One minute here one minute gone.

I work on my faith. I have seen signs, but nothing matters anymore until I get to be with my son again. He got so cheated in this life. I know he wanted to marry someday and be a day.

Now everyday is the same. Waiting to go to bed to do it all over again. No happiness or joy. I feel any future joy will always be tained and bittersweet. I will spend the rest of my life trying to do my best to "live" as Chad would want us all to do. His smile was brilliant and he smiled often. His athletic ability was special but it did not define him. His heart did that.

I am sure it is the same with your oh so special Brandi. I understand and I wish I could do more than say I know the heartache is relentless. And I am scared because when I see people like yourself three years down the road, I don't want to walk that road. But I have no choice. My son was so worth any pain I have to endure. He was so worth it. I love him today and always, and I carry him with me wherever I go. I just want him back and my old family back. I know that's not possible, but that's where I am at six months from the last time I was graced with my son smiling, sharing his day, asking for advice, and just being a kid with the whole world ahead of him.

Thanks for listening.
Lisa (Chad's Mom)
 
 
 

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