Diane, I document everything of importance. This way I can go back and double check myself and after 7 months I STILL miss things or forget to do stuff. Now I know why they say NEVER make any decisions within our first year of grieving. I had to hire an attorney because I have no children to leave anything too. I have an older brother with whom I was never close and my husband's family have just about stopped talking to me.(I'm still trying to figure that one out.) So I am alone and I have assets that will need to be distributed when I die. To protect those I have listed in my will I added a statement that if anyone contests my will all will be for-fitted and all proceeds will be donated to the humane society! I want no fighting over anything when I die. My brother is too passive, I need to protect him from vultures if they should swarm.
We moved to DE for employment reasons over 23 years ago so I have no family here but I have no intentions of moving back home because I have no one there either. People moved on with their lives so I am stuck in limbo. Until I can make sense of all of this I am staying put! I love our home, our neighbors and my gardens. I feel close to Dan here, we built this house one brick at a time and it is ours!
I don't know Tx laws but the hospital here told me that when a patient becomes deceased the bills are labeled differently and I am no longer responsible for payment. I just need to notify them when a bill is received.
I have sobbed on the phone with so many office workers, they must think I'm crazy. Most are understanding and as always, some are not and can be down right rude in their statements to me. I don't know why when I start to talk to them the tears flow but they just come.
Hang in there Diane, this is really a great web site where you will find you are not alone, some of the things you are experiencing is normal and someone has already encountered what you are going through. We truly understand and NO ONE will tell you to 'get over it'.
Diane I am so sorry for your loss and even sorrier you had to join this group.My husband passed 6/4/11 of lung cancer too so I know the agony you and your family have gone through and currently experiencing. I had my husband for 17 months after his diagnosis and I was so convinced we were going to beat this I could not let him go. But there was a higher power than I and he went anyway!
You have come to a good group. You will find we are all grieving and in different stages of grief. The emotions you are experiencing are normal and all part of grieving. This road they call grief is very long and lonely and some days you will take one step forward and 2 steps back. Come here often even if it is to read posts or to vent. Hugs, Jane