Hi Erica, my name is Cheryl and I was very moved by your story and I loved your webpage.....
The loss of a child leaves a permanent gap in the life of the parents, particularly the mother. Some may say that God took him, however It would be a selfish God who would take little children from their parents.
Many have come to learn the Bibles teaching about the state of the dead and the hope of the resurrection this hasbrought them real comfort in time of loss. If you would like to know more, I will be glad to assist you with learning more from the Bible.
Erica...............nothing can take the place of the loss of a child. I was totally lost. I felt if I could just sit down at my computer and write everything I wanted to, maybe it would help. I ended up setting up a website in memory of my son. It was so easy!!
And it's something I can add to anytime I want or need to. Just go to bravehost.net.............it's totally free. And if you'd like to visit the site I set up, t6he address is http:/rncordova.bravehost.com. That is r n,not m! LOL
Erica......my baby was 30 when he died.............I can only imagine the excruciating pain of losing a baby. This is something my Mom wrote when one of my older brothers died at 45, and I love it.
"I carried you under my heart for 9 months, but I will carry you in my heart forever."
Erica, I am so sorry for the lose of your precious child! I lost my daughter, Brandy, 18 yrs. ago when she was only one day old. I want you to know your not alone. I know the days seem long and it seems as if the sadness will never go away, but please know that time does heal it. You will NEVER forget your little one and you will never forget the pain you felt when he left to be with God; but you will see brighter days. It will get easier.
I'm sure right now you have lots of people around you trying to tell you how you should feel and what you should be doing. Please keep in mind that it's hard for other people to understand what you're going through...especially if they have never lost a child. Be gentle in your response to them, they are just trying to help. Even with your husband, know that deep down inside I'm sure he feels the pain too, but he is probably trying to be strong for you.
I think it's wonderful that this website has given people like you and me an avenue to feel what you need to feel. I wish I had had something like this when I lost my daughter. It took me many, many years to let go of my sorrow and anger for losing my daughter. I learned to pray about my pain and asked God to heal it and help me understand that I couldn't change what happened. I had to accept it.
Every year during the week of my daughters birthday...I would cry for days and feel the ache in my heart...missing her little body in my arms. Last September Brandy would have turned 18yrs. old. It was the first birthday that I didn't cry. I believe that since I put my trust in the Lord and asked him to heal my pain, he listened. Don't get me wrong, I miss my baby girl dearly! But now, I have a sense of calm. I let the anger go and my heart isn't heavy anymore. I smile now at the thought of knowing that my child rests in the hands of God and someday I will...we all will hold our precious children again!
I will keep you and your family in my prayers! God Bless you!
Erica, I'm very sorry for the loss of your son. I lost my 3rd son, Noah, to SIDS 28yrs ago.He was 7wks old. Even though it has been that long, I still remember the agony and the isolation I felt. At first everyone said the stupid things that only a bereaved parent would consider to be stupid and then they all stayed away from us like losing a child was a disease. I was especially torn up by all the special deals that kept coming in the mail for the new baby. It cut like a knife. I lost my oldest son,Jon, in June of 09. The pain is the same. One never had a future and the other I built many memories with but they were both my children. I'll be praying for you. Hugs of Hope,Kathy
It helps to know I am not alone. I feel so pressured to be happy and feel better but I don't. I go to work and come home exhausted of having to pretend I am ok and continuously having to tell people I am ok. It is so easy for me to pretend he is still here. So many people have suggestions and advice and I know they all mean well but they just don't know. I always used to tell people 'I can't even imagine...' but now I can. I hate living in this nightmare. I've started a blog - www.myzavierlives.blogspot.com - I'm almost desperate to find something that will help. thank you all for your understanding.
I know the hole in your world. My grandson was 14 months old when he left us. I am so sorry for the raw wound in your heart. I know the ache your arms feel to hold that precious baby. I wish I had magic words to make it better but all I can offer is - I feel and understand your pain.
Hi Erica. My son was a newborn (17 days old) when we lost him. My prayers are with you and your family. For me, everyday was tough...but I had to be strong for my husband and my son, too. The doctor had told me that we will find in time of tragedy the mother is the rock. I didn't believe this at first, as I was devastated and destroyed at the time. But now, I see it. But I actually believe my son gave me strength to carry on. Prayers always.