I feel like I have had the double whammy....My sweetheart of 20 years died April 22, 2009. On Nov. 5, my son Robert died very suddenly, he was only 45. I feel like my grief for my husband and the grief for my son are turning into just one big black hole. I am sure time will help, but for now I can't believe what all has happened this year. I have a very profound faith in God, and I know he will take this burden I have, and I know there is a reason for this happening. But some days, I can't seem to figure out what I am supposed to do with the pieces of my life that I am left with.