Not good at words Jerica, but wanted to say hello and God is with us even though it doesn't seem like it . My son commted suicide Dec.22,2010 and I have good days and bad days. I am trying to get some friends and family together for Chuck's b/d which is June 8 . We did this last yr. and let off balloons. Most don't want to do it but that is okay. I talk to God every day and thank him for the time we had with Chuck, he was 37.
Jerica, just wanted to let you know, today I said a little prayer especially for you and your brother. I know how hard these birthday's can be. I'm sorry you can't spend it with him or say "Happy Birthday" over the phone. I'm sure you have said it out loud many times today. All of us here in this group know exactly what you are going through today. We may grieve differently from each other, but that's ok......the hurt is known universal. Please be strong.
Praise the Lord my new friend. Hope this finds you well. It will soon be Christmas and I pray that alll is well with you.It will be 1 yrl. Dec. 22 that my son Chuck died. Not a day goes by that I don't think about him. I believe that he is in heaven with his father and our heavenly Father. We plan to go to his gravesite on the day and put yellow roses on, his favorite color. Blessings to everyone, Love Jackie Rowles
Hi Jerica I got your message and I've been doing well, leaving on a cruise next week and the Anniversary of my Andy's death is slowly approching 12/10 and I just can't get in the holiday spirit it will be hard but I will have a lot of family around us and I hope your doing well..................Stay in touch
Hi Jerica, There is definitely nothing wrong with not thinking of him every day!! This is Gods way of helping us begin to live out our own lives. It hurts like hell to lose our loved ones. Our bodies cannot handle the grief on a daily basis. If we are to get back to a somewhat normal life , we must move on! I think what happens is that we begin to remember the good times more, and the pain lessens as time goes on!!
No problem!! We need to stick together so we have someone to talk to that understands. If I let myself I can remember everything, but I don't dare. Gunshots are so messy and I need to remember her beautiful face!!! I would give anything not to be the one who found her!!!
It's good that you are remembering the good times!! They help you get by the rough periods. I was lucky to have people around me to help me, and remind me of how funny and mischievous she could be. I hang on to those moments as though my life depends on it!!!!
Thank you for the response and please right again!!
I cry everyday for Andy and it does get a little easier and sometimes I can laugh at the silly things he would say and do, but at times it hurts like hell so try to stay strong and together maybe we can get better..............:)
My son also had a wife and six children three of his and three of hers , we have so much in common and it's been nine months and it still hurts as bad as it did the day it happened and the sad thing is when they called me I was 700 miles away, my husband drove all night to get me back home to Michigan..................
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Not good at words Jerica, but wanted to say hello and God is with us even though it doesn't seem like it . My son commted suicide Dec.22,2010 and I have good days and bad days. I am trying to get some friends and family together for Chuck's b/d which is June 8 . We did this last yr. and let off balloons. Most don't want to do it but that is okay. I talk to God every day and thank him for the time we had with Chuck, he was 37.
Jerica, just wanted to let you know, today I said a little prayer especially for you and your brother. I know how hard these birthday's can be. I'm sorry you can't spend it with him or say "Happy Birthday" over the phone. I'm sure you have said it out loud many times today. All of us here in this group know exactly what you are going through today. We may grieve differently from each other, but that's ok......the hurt is known universal. Please be strong.
I don't know about you, Jerica, but I am having a hard time getting past his suicide in order to actually grieve over his death.
So how many times a day do you want to scream at the top of your lungs?!?
Praise the Lord my new friend. Hope this finds you well. It will soon be Christmas and I pray that alll is well with you.It will be 1 yrl. Dec. 22 that my son Chuck died. Not a day goes by that I don't think about him. I believe that he is in heaven with his father and our heavenly Father. We plan to go to his gravesite on the day and put yellow roses on, his favorite color. Blessings to everyone, Love Jackie Rowles
Hi Jerica, There is definitely nothing wrong with not thinking of him every day!! This is Gods way of helping us begin to live out our own lives. It hurts like hell to lose our loved ones. Our bodies cannot handle the grief on a daily basis. If we are to get back to a somewhat normal life , we must move on! I think what happens is that we begin to remember the good times more, and the pain lessens as time goes on!!
No problem!! We need to stick together so we have someone to talk to that understands. If I let myself I can remember everything, but I don't dare. Gunshots are so messy and I need to remember her beautiful face!!! I would give anything not to be the one who found her!!!
It's good that you are remembering the good times!! They help you get by the rough periods. I was lucky to have people around me to help me, and remind me of how funny and mischievous she could be. I hang on to those moments as though my life depends on it!!!!
Thank you for the response and please right again!!
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