Dearest Katharine, I'm so very sorry for the loss of your son, Oct. 3rd was my son's birthday, he just turned 32 and on Oct. 26, 2010 my son was found in his hotel room in Siagon Vietnam. They don't know what happened and we probably will never find out. He was to start a new manager job there and when he didn't show up for work they went in and found him and we got the dreaded phone call from the American embassy at 5:30AM. All they said was "we have found your son. He passed away. Do you want an autopsy?" That was it...I was in shock and they're asking if I want an autopsy????!!!! We just finally got his cremains home. I miss him so much and I too don't know how to get through the day, but i think we have come to the right place here and to be able to talk with others who are feeling the same pain is a good way to start the healing. It may take a very time but I do believe some day we not hurt as much as we do now. Talking about him and keeping his memory alive does help. If you'd like to talk about your son, I'm ready to listen. God bless you and a big hug sent your way. Macs