I'm sorry, I'm new at this and  I guess I didn't understand how to post to this site.  I have teenage boys and my son is schizophrenic and so his grief comes out sometimes as crying attacks and sometimes as rage.  I guess we all have to remember that our children are the only living reminders of our spouses and our time together. Sometimes I have only to look at them to remember their father and it reminds me of the patience that I should feel when I do not.