I understand - I lost my Dad in 2007 and I still miss him so much - yet the pain is not as tramatizing as it was when he first passed. It is a reality that is just hard to deal with. I know, my Dad is at rest (Ecclesiastes 9:5) He is no longer suffering and he is no longer in pain, That in itself is a relief - he suffered SO MUCH before passing, I felt helpless. He looked to me for safe keeping - yet I could not take away the pain, Most of all - he felt a big part of his dignity was taken away with old age.
That is why - I seek comfort from the scriptures (Romans 15:4), God has promised a better future for all mankind (Reveleation 21:3,4; Daniel 2:44) We have to trust and believe what is written in the Bible as it brings so much comfort and re-assurance to us - especially during the time of those grieving their lost ones.
The Bible speaks of truth and it mention those in the memorial tombs (John 5:28) and how they will hear God, So, we must embrace the promise that God has made to us and our love ones for a new future.
Thank you Michelle....somehow when I hear others like yourself have the same feelings like I do ...it eases the hurt just alittle bit so thank you for writing me. I am trying to move forward and not get stuck in the pain and remember my Mother would not want me to be sad. She really and truly would be telling me to stop moping about (which I do somedays) and get off my duff and do something for myself. haha I can hear her telling me to do the things I've always wanted to do but I never took the time due to raising a family or my job or taking care of her the last 2 yrs. So now I am.....