My son Jeremy was killed on June 7, 2008 by a big rig truck driver. Jeremy was on a motorcycle. He had just been at a big motorcycle stunt show and was on his way home for his oldest daughters 13th birthday party. He had called me 10 minutes before the accident so excited because he had just won me and his dad tickets to the Nascar races the next weekend (he knew we watched them every weekend and had gone a couple times) His last words to me were "Mom I gotta go, we're getting ready to leave, I… Continue
Honored to be your friend. My son also left young girls behind. At the time they were 16, 14, and 13. Gosh we miss him so bad. The oldest one is now having a baby in Sept. We all wish he was here to be a new grand father of a baby girl.
First I am sorry for the loss of your son Jeremy.....I too lost a son. A little older but a son so loved. These holidays are brutal for all of us....I figure 2 more weeks and all this "pressure of the holidays" has passed. Nothing will change but the pressure should lesson on putting on happy faces.
I love your tattoo....and if it makes you feel good then that is why we are all getting them. We will never ever forget our wonderful kids.....
I am so sorry to read your story.Those were nice pics you have,he is beautiful, the skateboard shot was perfect.Jeremy seems like a very caring father.
My son Jim lost his life at 19, on a motorcycle. July 5 2006. I tortured myself just thinking about the horror, pain, last thoughts, did anyone comfort him those last moments, etc.being a mom we want to have our children bypass all the pains in the world. it took a long time to get.. I guess to the next level of the grief cycle..if that is what it is called...I only go to another chapter of this hell..grief..but I am moving on..I guess when I die the grief will end !
May you find comfort, at least writing with other parents who suffer the same fate.
Hi Debbie...thank you for leaving me a comment. I appreciate your thinking of me. I do believe that both of our sons are skating in the heavens. Ian so loved skateboarding! It was his life when he wasn't working. It will be 5 years soon...(sigh). Sometimes it seems like it was just yesterday & then others it seems so distant. It's been so long since I've seen his smiling face or heard his wonderful laugh. Hugs for you...Marcy
Debbie...thank you so much for reading about my son, Ian, and for sharing Jeremy's story with me. The photo of him skateboarding is a great shot! I am so sorry for your loss. Ian loved riding motorcycles, too. In fact, he owned one....funny thing, he always wore a helmet when he rode his bike. I tell myself all the time..at least Ian died doing something he loved. Helps sometimes, others not so much. I am almost 5 years into this journey and it is a very hard one. Ian's death has changed me and my life forever. Thank you again for writing to me & please keep in touch....Marcy (Ian's Mom)
debbie, i am so glad that you, and your son are in a good place now...he loves you, and it will be better for the two of you in time..i think when a tragedy happens families sometimes stop communicating with each other , and try to hold the pain in, and it just makes the pain, and heartache the much worse.. i am still not in a very good place, but i continue to talk to robby, and he will help me get through this..there is a song i would like for you to listen to "your not alone" by melissa andrews", and a slng by steven curtis chapman "with hope" they are very strong, and spiritual..there are so many others, but maybe these will touch your heart, which i am sure they will..debbie, talk to jeremy, and he will listen....take care, and bless you every day..tammy e
DEBBIE, I HAVE HAD SOME BAD DAYS LATELY TOO.. I THINK THAT THIS PAIN WILL NEVER STOP. WE HAVE TO JUST KEEP GOING ON, AND BELIEVING THAT IT WILL EASE SOME IN TIME...I DO KNOW THAT I WILL NEVER BE THE PERSON I WAS BEFORE THIS TRAGEDY, IT REALLY CHANGES WHO WE ARE OR WERE...I CONTINUE TO PRAY THAT YOU, AND YOUR SON WILL BECOME CLOSER FROM THIS LOSS, AND I KNOW IN MY HEART THAT WILL HAPPEN...YOU TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF, YOU ARE SO IMPORTANT, AND JEREMY WOULD WANT YOU TO..HE IS WATCHING OVER YOU DEBBIE THAT I TRULY BELIEVE..I KNOW ROBBY IS LOOKING OVER ME TOO...TAKE CARE, AND BLESS YOU EVERY DAY.. TAMMY E
debbie,i am sorry to hear that your son is upset with you..i feel like i have been a litle more needy with my other son too, but that is to be expected under the circumstances..we have lost a huge piece of ourselves, and we are lost right now. hopefully our other children will be able to withstand us needing to be close to them, and understand our desire to be near them..maybe they think that we are so much into our grieving that we don not see what they need. they lost their brothers, and they are grieving too, maybe just in a different way than us as the mother...i wanted to release balloons on robby's birthday, but everyone was too sad to do anything so i prayed, and lit a candle, and cried all day...please know i am here for you, and i hope you can talk to your son, and he can be there for you, and you for him...i think my son has been the strong one for all of us, and he hasn't had a chance to relly grieve for the loss of his brother, although he has told me that sometimes he takes time, and just thinks about robby, and how much he misses him..i guess i am just rambling on, and i don't know if i even help you, but i am here if you need to talk...take care, and god bless you, your friend tammy E