I don't like hearing that my mother is in a better place either. It is an improper thing for people to say but they don't know any better so I would just try to ignore it or ask them not to say that anymore. Take your time. I was starting to think that I must go on, forget it (my mom died November 2, 2010) and act as if nothing has happened. It looks like everyone else is doing so. Well, I can't. You can't. We all grieve differently and don't ever let anyone tell you your time is up. Maybe you may need some grief counseling. That is my next goal. I have an appointment. God bless- Wendy

Laurenelyse, Thank you so much for your kind words. Some days are better than others, I guess Saturday was just one of the rough days. Today was a little better. I prayed last night that God would help me be the kind of stepmom and grandma that would do justice to example my mom left for me. Hope you have a nice day and thanks again. Lisa

Hi Laurenelyse,

I am truly sorry for your loss. I lost my father last christmas eve at the young age of 57. The police found him on a beach in CT. Autopsy ruled out homicide, suicide, heart attack etc. It's been so difficult for me because we may never know how he died. I was so close to him. I understand how you feel about the holidays. I am so sad and filled with grief since Christmas is approaching. I am not looking forward to it. I also have a one year old daughter that my dad never got to meet. I try to smile and act like I am having fun around her but it is so hard. he wanted to meet her so much, and was planning on coming out in january. Now he will never meet his only grandchild. How do you find ways of coping? I am glad I found this online forum. I don't feel like I am the only one any more. I am sorry you have to suffer through your loss a well. I wish none of us had to feel this way! I will keep your family in my prayers this holiday season. Feel free to leave me a comment. I would really like to meet people on here. Take care, and remember your mom still watches over you:)

Hello,Laurenelyses

My name is Angela and when i read your paragraph it really touched me. Because that is exactly what my friends said to me when my daddy died of lung cancer . Is that he is a better place well I am sure he is but that is not whay you are Iwant to hear. It doesnt make it any easier for us. I will keep you in my prayers. My heart goes out to you . I am hear to listen if you need to talk.

Thank you for your beautful comments. I know your Mother must have been very proud of you. It is so hard to lose someone so close to you. It's ok to cry and remember all the times you spent with your Mom...good or bad. It helps to put things into perspective. We might have a bad day, but we also have wonderful memories to cherish and help us to feel even closer to those we have lost. I pray that God will give you strength to help you through every day. Hugs!

I am sitting here wondering how you are doing and wondering also how I am doing, My mom, who means the world to me, just died on Monday the 21st of September. We have not had the visitation at the funeral home yet, so it feels unreal that she is gone and I am having a hard time dealing with it. I don't know why I am here or what I am looking for. Someone who understands and I can talk to? I am unsure. I know I feel a profound loss and just can't believe it. My mom had a terminal liver disease but I wasn't ready for her to go yet and truly didn't think it would happen so soon. Also I am sincerely sad for the loss that everyone on this forum has suffered, whether you are signed in or just privately viewing.

I know the feeling. I lost my dad last November and it still feels like it happened this morning. While I am very religious, I still get so tired of the "he's in a better place" comments. Another one I get tired of is, "Oh, It will get easier with time." For me it gets harder every day. I'm with Amber. I'll never be able to move on from losing my dad. I was closer to him than anyone. You are definitely not alone in this. Don't let anyone tell you how to feel or how to grieve.