thank you for understanding where i'm coming from. i live in illinois. i heard a story where a girl let a balloon go with a letter attached. i dont remember what that girls name was but the person that found the balloon had the exact same name as the girl who let it go. the got in contact with each other and became very close friends. its weird, being friends with a girl that has the same first and last name as you. i wont force my sister to tell me what my grandpa said to her. i will let it go. god and her are the only ones that will know what he said to her. it must have been deep because when i asked what he had told her all she did was stared in the distance and got teary eyed. i hugged her and told her Aleisha, you dont have to tell me what he said. the last thing i said to my grandpa was...i love you. goodnight...at his wake the last thing i said to him before i walked away for the last time was...i love you..goodnight grandpa...see you soon. i feel like i keep reliving the past and not letting it go. i wish i could but its so hard. its easier to hold onto things than let them go. thats my goal. i wish i could manage it. i will most deffinately email you. my email is firstname.lastname@example.org
I found my daughter in my apartment on thanksgiving night. She died of a drug overdose. She was
24yrs old. How do I tell her 4 yr old daughter that her mommy is gone and not coming back?
1) Don't hold back your tears (John 11:35)
2) Address any feelings of guilt
3) Communicate feelings (Proverbs 12:25)
4) Talk to God ( Psalms 62:8)
Grieving is not an overnight process. However, the scriptures can provide comfort at the right time..
I also have found that every child responds to grief and grieves differently. Sometimes it's the ones that you least expect to have the difficulty that really struggle or vice versa. Being as honest as what is age appropriate and being available to help and answer questions is key. I also suggest a counselor - whether independent or from school. I am sorry for what you are going through.
I am wondering how best to help my son. We haven't lost any relatives, but it sure feels that way to him. He's five years old. A couple months ago, we lost one of our dogs to old age. Last month, my husband deployed to Bahrain. Last week, we lost a second dog to a brain tumor. To my son, the dogs are family. I also have to keep reassuring him that while Daddy is gone for a very long time, he's not gone like the dogs are.
Unfortunately, all the worry, sadness and anger are causing my son to lash out at school, and he's started being much more aggressive. He's hit his friends on several occasions. I know he needs to work through his feelings in his own time and way, and all I can do is be supportive and reassuring with whatever he feels, but how do I help him stop hitting people? He needs to be safe at school. His teacher is trying to be as helpful as she can, but she does have a classroom full of kindergartners. Are there any resources or books that might be helpful? Most things I've found so far simply say that anger and aggression are normal reactions, but not how to help a child deal with it.