Sudden death caused by ruptured abdominal aortic aneurysm

I just lost my husband from a Ruptured Abdominal Aortic Aneurysm. If anyone lost a loved one due to this serious condition, I would to like to hear your story.

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Permalink Reply by cesar on April 2, 2010 at 8:03am

I also lost my sister on December 13 2009 from an aneurysm what a terrible thing o god Iam in a lot of pain while Iam writting my story I feel so empty believe Iam never goig to recovery from this ,as time passes my grief gets deeper god only knows how I feel at the time of her dea she was with my sister cristina and my mother decorating the chistmast tree sudden she feel a pain on one side of her head it took only no more than 15 seconds whem she was no loger with us God help us all who experienced something like this.

Permalink Reply by Julia on April 9, 2010 at 5:23pm

Dear Julie,
It is great news to hear that your scan is clear. My other sister and I had an echocardiogram done and will soon get a CT scan with contrast. My sister's GP told her she should have an MRA. Our cardiologist didn't suggest it as of yet. I am happy for you. But we must be vigilant. I wouldn't want ANYONE to experience this shock and pain. I know there are worse things in life that can happen, but I look at it this way...if our loved ones who passed from this weren't such wonderful, loving people we would not feel this way. I do not bring up my sister's passing unless someone else does so first. Even then, I do not go on about it. I know it will upset me. But I have had people ask me how I am doing and ask other direct questions. And I cannot help it. If I talk about what happened or about her, I get choked up. Then people feel they have to tell me stories about other people who had a child pass, or had someone else die tragically. And they always end it with "See, there is always someone else who has it worse off". Like I don't know that!!! But guess what, I feel for those who do have it worse off, but don't tell me not to grieve for my sister because someone else has it worse! If you don't want to see me grieve then don't ask for my sister!
Sorry, I am ranting. But I'd like to tell those who take what people say to heart about ending their grieving and making them feel like they are doing something wrong or are "unstable" for grieving longer than some other person feels is acceptable...tell them what I said..."If they weren't such wonderful people then I wouldn't be grieving. And if my grief upsets you, then perhaps we should change the subject"! Now I am really ranting! Sorry. Must go but best to you all! And be vigilant with your testing!
Julia

Permalink Reply by cesar on April 9, 2010 at 7:47pm

Julia said:

Dear Julie,
It is great news to hear that your scan is clear. My other sister and I had an echocardiogram done and will soon get a CT scan with contrast. My sister's GP told her she should have an MRA. Our cardiologist didn't suggest it as of yet. I am happy for you. But we must be vigilant. I wouldn't want ANYONE to experience this shock and pain. I know there are worse things in life that can happen, but I look at it this way...if our loved ones who passed from this weren't such wonderful, loving people we would not feel this way. I do not bring up my sister's passing unless someone else does so first. Even then, I do not go on about it. I know it will upset me. But I have had people ask me how I am doing and ask other direct questions. And I cannot help it. If I talk about what happened or about her, I get choked up. Then people feel they have to tell me stories about other people who had a child pass, or had someone else die tragically. And they always end it with "See, there is always someone else who has it worse off". Like I don't know that!!! But guess what, I feel for those who do have it worse off, but don't tell me not to grieve for my sister because someone else has it worse! If you don't want to see me grieve then don't ask for my sister!
Sorry, I am ranting. But I'd like to tell those who take what people say to heart about ending their grieving and making them feel like they are doing something wrong or are "unstable" for grieving longer than some other person feels is acceptable...tell them what I said..."If they weren't such wonderful people then I wouldn't be grieving. And if my grief upsets you, then perhaps we should change the subject"! Now I am really ranting! Sorry. Must go but best to you all! And be vigilant with your testing!
Julia

Permalink Reply by cesar on April 9, 2010 at 8:02pm

like I said before is not that we want to force it to be in pain for the lost of a love one ,it is just that is so hard to let it go ,I do feel much better to keep her on my memory is a tribute that she is alive inside my hart, believe or not it comforts me, will grieve my sister untill my time cames that we will together eternally as we all should be. four month allready her memories still light up my life even if this world to me never be the same.

Permalink Reply by Karen on April 13, 2010 at 9:27am

Until three weeks ago I hadn't even heard of this condition. I'd been to the theatre to see Les Mis with my sister-in-law and Mum. We'd had a fantastic night out - later that evening Mum said she had pains in her side like trapped wind - but when I went to bed her lights were out in the annexe. We were woken in the night (1.50am) by the phone ringing, a message was left on the answer machine, all we could understand was 'Valerie Palmer' and 'goodbye'. It was a foreign accent, impossible to understand and came up as an out of area call - we assumed it was a call centre. At the weekend my 7 year old son always runs round to Grannys for a chat and a cuddle first thing in the morning, this time he found her downstairs, dead on the floor. We listened, as did our families to this message, time and time again, eventually we diciphered that the message was left by an 'out of hours' doctor. Mum had called for help. If I'd have known at 1.50am I would have ran to her side - I assume she was already dead. At least I could have saved by small son finding her. Was she in pain? Could I have saved her? She was the last remaining member of my family, my Dad (age 40) died when I was 7 (1978) and my only sibling died aged 31 in 2001. She was all I had left and now I feel so alone and afraid that I could have made a difference if only I'd understood the telephone message. Now at 39, I'm the oldest person in my family and I hurt so much inside, every minute of every day is a painful ordeal.

Permalink Reply by DEB G on May 22, 2010 at 11:59pm

MY HUSBAND HAD Abdominal Aortic Aneurysm AND IT IS MONITERED ONCE IN A WHILE. TODAY HE WAS PLAYING GOLF AND HEARD A POP SOUND AND IT FELT LIKE SOMEONE SHOT HIM AND HE WENT TO THE GROUND IN PAIN. DO YOU THINK THIS MIGHT BE A RUPTURE OR HIS Abdominal Aortic Aneurysm
DHX DEB

Permalink Reply by DEB G on May 23, 2010 at 12:00am

YOU SHOULD NOT FEEL GUILTY BECAUSE YOU SOUND REAL CARING AND SOMEONE WHO REALLY CARED ABOUT THIS PERSON , THEY WOULD HAVE TOLD YOU IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT.

Permalink Reply by DEB G on May 24, 2010 at 9:05am

my husband has one and recently has had severe pain in his hip. he was golfinf and swung and fell to the ground and heard a popping sound. i have read that this could be because of his abdominal aortic aneurism. did your husbands have any signs before he passed.

deb

Permalink Reply by Julia on June 15, 2010 at 9:53pm

Flowerpot said:

Hi there

A quick update - I went and had a scan done yesterday and am clear!

Love

Julie

Permalink Reply by Julia on June 15, 2010 at 9:54pm

Julia said:

Flowerpot said:
Hi there

A quick update - I went and had a scan done yesterday and am clear!

Love

Julie

Permalink Reply by Jan on August 7, 2010 at 2:28pm

Hello

I came across this site as I have been researching AAA. My beloved dad died from this just over three weeks ago and I am absolutely devastated. We did not know he had it but it had leaked and he was taken into hospital and finally given a CT scan which revealed this aneurysm. It was too large to operate on him and we were told he had hours to live. In fact it was three days later and he died in hospital with me holding his hand and telling him what a wonderful dad he was. It was so sudden and so quick when it came, I still can't believe it and I am total shock. I really don't think I will ever get over it.

Permalink Reply by cesar on August 7, 2010 at 5:28pm

no dear friend what can I say will lie to you if i do,I have not get over it, the pain still remain I believe will stay untill that day that we all be together again,I own that to my sister and dad to remenber them ,I just do not want to let it go this sudden even changed my life for good in a very positive way ,not only I did lost a sister and a father knowing them believe the whole world had lost a wonderfull people those needed by the present time ,do not understand till this day why they have to go .if we do not see them again them I can truly say what am I doing here life got a be worth living it ,sorry this is just the way I am feeling .

Jan said:

Hello

I came across this site as I have been researching AAA. My beloved dad died from this just over three weeks ago and I am absolutely devastated. We did not know he had it but it had leaked and he was taken into hospital and finally given a CT scan which revealed this aneurysm. It was too large to operate on him and we were told he had hours to live. In fact it was three days later and he died in hospital with me holding his hand and telling him what a wonderful dad he was. It was so sudden and so quick when it came, I still can't believe it and I am total shock. I really don't think I will ever get over it.