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I am so sorry for your pain. Do you feel a mistake was made in the hospital with regard to your Mom’s care?
I have so many nightmares about Mom’s final days and what triggered her decline. She passed away Jan 2 of this year and Dec 7 we had gone for what turned out to be our last 2 hour walk! How did everything happen so fast? I blame myself for ‘triggering’ her passing often. I took her to a new specialist who changed her medication. He had an excellent reputation. But what if I hadn’t done that? Would she still be here with me today?
Then when she was in the hospital she got changed to an isolation room. The other woman there it turned out had pneumonia although they didn’t know for sure. I told the hospital staff I was very unhappy with this as I was worried about Mom. They said they would look into it but nothing was done and we were discharged the next day instead. Within a couple of days Mom was back in the hospital again where she passed away. Did she get pneumonia on top of everything else? Or did they just think because she was dying anyway that it didn’t matter? I am heart-broken worrying I didn’t do enough for Mom.
People mean well and tell me I did my very best but the end result is that Mom is not here and when she looked so good before that I have to ask myself what happened in between. Could I have prevented it?
I know what you mean when one minute someone seems fine or stable and then they are gone. I have nightmares too! But mostly they are during the day when I am awake, if that makes any sense at all.