It's so hard knowing that she's finally gone. My rock, my safety net is gone. No more phone calls, no more shopping, no more smiles, telling me everything is going to be all right. No more reminders to count 'to 10' when life gets complicated. It's so hard to know she's gone. She died this past Saturday. I know it will take time, the tears just keep coming. I feel so lost at this moment.

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Judy said:
Tina, thank you for your kind words. We had the memorial service on the 6th. It was a very special day, Mom would have been proud! It was great to see all the old friends and family, we even went to a restaurant that had some of her favorite foods. Thank God I was surrounded by family, the aftermath left such a huge whole, wishing that it was under different circumstances. My sister's 50th birthday was a day later. No one wanted to celebrate.
judy, i undersatnd what you are going through..take 1 day at a time, hold those memories, and thank god that you had such a wonderful person in your life, it doesnt get any easier, talk to yur friends and family dont hold any of it it in god bless.
I know what you mean. Went to church on Easter Sunday, the front of the church had a lot of Easter lilies. Couldn't get through some of the songs, every Easter my sister would give Mom an Easter lily, and she'd plant it in her garden. The back yard had a whole row of lilies. Now the house was sold a few years ago, the lilies are gone, and so is Mom.....
I am so sorry for your loss Judy. My dad passed away 3/6/10. It's hard to believe it has been a month. I would like to say that it gets easier but...it is a struggle everyday to work and not cry. I miss him so much and your comments about no more phone calls, no more.... That is exactly how I feel. I will say a prayer for you today.
Hi judy , I lost my mom this jan 5th 2010 at 2.30am. she was fine she was talking to me over phone even at 10.00pm. she died due to hypoxia because of her asthma. I miss her so much . I'm not able to cope. It hurts a lot.
You know she is in the hands of God right now. I'm sure she would tell you not to cry and worry about her. She would want you to go on and make your life an living example of hers! I lost my Dad now 1 1/yrs (August 2008) and it still seems like yesterday. I was Daddy's little girl! I called him everyone morning on the way to work. I sometimes catch myself in thinking I need to call dad and say good morning! When he became ill with lung cancer in 2006 I took time off from work and helped him and my mother take care of him. I would not ever trade that precious time I had with them each and every day! I miss him soooo much it hurts but I have to come to grips that I will not see him in this ilfe anymore but for the one to come! Let our heavenly father help you as he has helped me.
He is there for you, just reach out and take his hand, he is there. He will be beside you all the way, if it hadn't been for God's love I would not have made it through. I still struggle each day and I don't cry everyday now but still I cry several times a week. It seems the tears don't ever stop but God does seem to dry them at times for me! He will do the same for you! I will pray for you and your family!

May God continue to bless you during this time of your loss.
Donna Fogleman said:
You know she is in the hands of God right now. I'm sure she would tell you not to cry and worry about her. She would want you to go on and make your life an living example of hers! I lost my Dad now 1 1/yrs (August 2008) and it still seems like yesterday. I was Daddy's little girl! I called him everyone morning on the way to work. I sometimes catch myself in thinking I need to call dad and say good morning! When he became ill with lung cancer in 2006 I took time off from work and helped him and my mother take care of him. I would not ever trade that precious time I had with them each and every day! I miss him soooo much it hurts but I have to come to grips that I will not see him in this ilfe anymore but for the one to come! Let our heavenly father help you as he has helped me.
He is there for you, just reach out and take his hand, he is there. He will be beside you all the way, if it hadn't been for God's love I would not have made it through. I still struggle each day and I don't cry everyday now but still I cry several times a week. It seems the tears don't ever stop but God does seem to dry them at times for me! He will do the same for you! I will pray for you and your family!

May God continue to bless you during this time of your loss.
That great news is you are reaching out to others that have been through or are going through the same sort of pain and loss you are !! I know no matter what anyone says or does is going to make this sad sad pain go away. Like everyone I lost mom, today its three months gone from us. I can tell you that others have gone through this same sort of pain and they made it which makes me know you and I can both do the same !! Keep talking about it. Share with anyone that wants to listen the joy they brought to your life !! It wont get easy but nothing in life that is as great as your mom was could be easy right...??
Judy,
It is a feeling that you cannot imagine, I am so very sorry for your loss and right now nothing makes you feel better. Just hold on to your love and find solace in prayer and the love you and your mom shared.
Hi Jim, thanks for your kind words. In a couple of weeks, it will be 3 months too. Yesterday the heart surgeon's office called regarding a follow up appt for today for the pacemaker replacement. That's what started this whole mess, after the surgery, she died 12 days later. How ironic.....Had to call them to let them know she's gone. The pain seems to be worse at night, not always, but reaching out definitely helps. I'm very sorry for your loss too. Thank God we can write and share our thoughts!
my dearest judy,i'm so sorry to hear about you'r mother's passing. i live in washigton state,my mother lived in indiana,so i didn't get to do alot of everyday thing's you did.but i called my mom everyday for the last 6yrs,sometimes 2 or 3x a day just to share some exiting news with her. she was the first one i alway's called.adn i don't have that anymore either.and when she was still in the hospital,i got fired from my job in a nursing home of all places!my mom's been gone not quite1.5mo's.i've got 9 other siblings,and when mom died,it was like,although we're adult's,there was strong sense of abandonment.we went so far as to say we felt like orphans.all alone.and then i come home here to wa.state,i cry all the time and i really can't talk to my husband,so i was glad to have stumbled across this site.god blessyou.becky
rebecca schoelkopf said:
my dearest judy,i'm so sorry to hear about you'r mother's passing. i live in washigton state,my mother lived in indiana,so i didn't get to do alot of everyday thing's you did.but i called my mom everyday for the last 6yrs,sometimes 2 or 3x a day just to share some exiting news with her. she was the first one i alway's called.adn i don't have that anymore either.and when she was still in the hospital,i got fired from my job in a nursing home of all places!my mom's been gone not quite1.5mo's.i've got 9 other siblings,and when mom died,it was like,although we're adult's,there was strong sense of abandonment.we went so far as to say we felt like orphans.all alone.and then i come home here to wa.state,i cry all the time and i really can't talk to my husband,so i was glad to have stumbled across this site.god blessyou.becky

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