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Permalink Reply by Kay Arcuni on November 23, 2010 at 11:22am

What perfect sense this makes.

Permalink Reply by CINDY POWELL on November 23, 2010 at 8:03pm

i really like what that says.it will be 9 months on the 26th of nov. that my husband passed away and everyone around me acts like i should be over it.i am talking about co-workers, friends and family.believe it or not a few of these people are even widows their self. i feel very bitter and angry and wish that everyone could abide by what you posted.sorry to vent but i am just so sick of being treated like their is something wrong with me.i thought for sure that people who had been through this would understand.

Permalink Reply by Ellen Brant on November 23, 2010 at 10:59pm

Cindy I hear you and feel your pain. I agree. HUGS to you . Hugs help us grow spiritually. Ellen~
CINDY POWELL said:

i really like what that says.it will be 9 months on the 26th of nov. that my husband passed away and everyone around me acts like i should be over it.i am talking about co-workers, friends and family.believe it or not a few of these people are even widows their self. i feel very bitter and angry and wish that everyone could abide by what you posted.sorry to vent but i am just so sick of being treated like their is something wrong with me.i thought for sure that people who had been through this would understand.

Permalink Reply by Renee Semo on November 24, 2010 at 10:05am

Cindy...it has been 5 months for me since my husband died and I cant agree with you more. I no longer speak to people I thought were my best friends becasue I dont act how they think I should act. One so called friend told me to get over it that everyone has tragedies in their life. She sleeps next to her husband at night so she has no clue. I thank god for caller ID because most days I cant deal with the crap people say to me and now with the holidays coming I know the stupidity will get worse. My own mother in law thinks Im ready to go over the edge because I havent moved on. Its only 5 months...Im still waiting for him to come home. Thanks Renee CINDY POWELL said:

i really like what that says.it will be 9 months on the 26th of nov. that my husband passed away and everyone around me acts like i should be over it.i am talking about co-workers, friends and family.believe it or not a few of these people are even widows their self. i feel very bitter and angry and wish that everyone could abide by what you posted.sorry to vent but i am just so sick of being treated like their is something wrong with me.i thought for sure that people who had been through this would understand.

Permalink Reply by Renee Semo on November 24, 2010 at 10:05am

Cindy...it has been 5 months for me since my husband died and I cant agree with you more. I no longer speak to people I thought were my best friends becasue I dont act how they think I should act. One so called friend told me to get over it that everyone has tragedies in their life. She sleeps next to her husband at night so she has no clue. I thank god for caller ID because most days I cant deal with the crap people say to me and now with the holidays coming I know the stupidity will get worse. My own mother in law thinks Im ready to go over the edge because I havent moved on. Its only 5 months...Im still waiting for him to come home. Thanks Renee CINDY POWELL said:

i really like what that says.it will be 9 months on the 26th of nov. that my husband passed away and everyone around me acts like i should be over it.i am talking about co-workers, friends and family.believe it or not a few of these people are even widows their self. i feel very bitter and angry and wish that everyone could abide by what you posted.sorry to vent but i am just so sick of being treated like their is something wrong with me.i thought for sure that people who had been through this would understand.

Permalink Reply by Ellen Brant on November 24, 2010 at 1:27pm

Margarita, I hear you loud and clear. Guess some people just haven't been in our places by the Grace of God YET and truly don't know what to say that is the most soothing thing. Just isn't what they told you or any of the above. I am grateful for you and your support and so sorry you have to be in this pain too though. I am glad to hear you are able to celebrate the holiday with your oldest son and grandkids. I am grateful for all my friends on this site. HUGS. Ellen~

margarita chacon said:

hi ellen hugs for you and i know i had a so call friend about a year ago she told me your husband is dead so moved on your alive go head go dacing date new people lets go out and have fun oh i felt so bad she was in my car i had taken her to the store i drop her home and i cry so bad all thye way to my house how can she tell me something like that wen i got home call the my cell company and change my number thats the kind of person i never ever want see in my life i dont need friends like that its been a year now since that day. i know i have to moved on but my way i miss my husband so much he was my best friend. well i want to wish you the best ellen iam going to my oldest son for thanksgiving. iam happy going to be with the grandkids. my prayers goes out to you.

Permalink Reply by Ellen Brant on November 24, 2010 at 1:27pm

Margarita, I hear you loud and clear. Guess some people just haven't been in our places by the Grace of God YET and truly don't know what to say that is the most soothing thing. Just isn't what they told you or any of the above. I am grateful for you and your support and so sorry you have to be in this pain too though. I am glad to hear you are able to celebrate the holiday with your oldest son and grandkids. I am grateful for all my friends on this site. HUGS. Ellen~

margarita chacon said:

hi ellen hugs for you and i know i had a so call friend about a year ago she told me your husband is dead so moved on your alive go head go dacing date new people lets go out and have fun oh i felt so bad she was in my car i had taken her to the store i drop her home and i cry so bad all thye way to my house how can she tell me something like that wen i got home call the my cell company and change my number thats the kind of person i never ever want see in my life i dont need friends like that its been a year now since that day. i know i have to moved on but my way i miss my husband so much he was my best friend. well i want to wish you the best ellen iam going to my oldest son for thanksgiving. iam happy going to be with the grandkids. my prayers goes out to you.

Permalink Reply by Jerry on November 24, 2010 at 2:47pm

I like this.

Permalink Reply by Barbara Roth on November 24, 2010 at 5:47pm

Until people have walked in our shoes, they don't have a clue what we are going through. I have lost a brother, father, mother-in-law etc. I knew I was going to lose Jim, just thought I had more time. All these experiences still did not prepare me for this emotional rollercoaster. If I hear one more person say " You know he's in a better place ", I'll scream. One lady came up to me this morning at work and said " Oh Barb, your first Thanksgiving without Jim. It'll get better". I'd like to think I haven't been this insensitive to people in the past. This is rough. I'm glad I have all of you to talk to. Thanks and hugs.