Why do people say those things?

It's bad enough when I have people come up to me and say things like, "well this is the second Christmas without Brad, so it should be easier", stupid things, but when so many have said to me today at work, about my mom whom I just lost last week..."how old was she, then I reply 86, they say, oh well then she lived a long life". I know that, I don't care if she would have been 100, it still hurts to lose my mom! Don't these people think before they speak? At any rate, I'm going to have a lonely Christmas without Dad, Mom and Brad even though I have other family. I hope I can ignore these remarks from people and try to go on and get through the holidays. I wish you all some peace this holiday and better tomorrows.....Barb

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Permalink Reply by Barbara Roth on December 23, 2010 at 11:30pm

Barb, unfortunately, I won't be able to spend one more Christmas with Mom. She passed away yesterday. Losing the two key people in my life just 8 wks apart is kinda hard to handle. I'm sure you know all the comments I am now receiving now. If I hear "It's gonna get better" one more time, I think I'll deck that person. I truly do understand your pain, Barb, cause now it's mine also. Please take care of yourself, give yourself a hug from me.

Permalink Reply by bc on December 24, 2010 at 6:44am

Barb, I was so sorry to hear about your Mom. I'm not going to say any comments except for I am so sorry, I am thinking and praying for youl I do know what you are going through. Give up your feelings to God, he is the one who can handle your pain for you when you can't handle any more. I have a quote that says, "If God brings you to it, God will see you through it". I am thinking and praying for you, Big hugs to you! If you need to talk, call me at 414-852-3422. Love you my friend.

Barbara Roth said:

Barb, unfortunately, I won't be able to spend one more Christmas with Mom. She passed away yesterday. Losing the two key people in my life just 8 wks apart is kinda hard to handle. I'm sure you know all the comments I am now receiving now. If I hear "It's gonna get better" one more time, I think I'll deck that person. I truly do understand your pain, Barb, cause now it's mine also. Please take care of yourself, give yourself a hug from me.

Permalink Reply by Jerry on December 24, 2010 at 9:52am

Hi, I think when people say things like this, it is just something that comes out, they dont mean to offend,and belive they are consoling us.Time as far how long someone has been gone or how old a person was does not matter to the ones who really loved them, it still hurts us.Peace be with you,Jerry