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Comment by Leslie Davis-Thompson on December 11, 2012 at 10:56pm

My Dear Members/Parents...I posted this on my organization social site. needless to say I was met with opposition by the non-angel parents. Would like to share, feel free to share as well. God Bless

Will never be the same, tired of being called a Grinch, you don't know my pain. ~ Leslie Thompson

Most of you are overjoyed at this holiday season but for some of us its bittersweet. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH RELIGION, OR HOW STRONG FAITH IS.Just because some of us do not have the same amount of "upbeat" behavior as you, calling someone a Grinch is out of line. ESPECIALLY when you have NEVER had to endure what that person has had to deal with. All you do is make what little joy that they can find for the holidays less with your labeling, and name calling. For some, its their first Christmas without their child (or close loved one), for others they may have lost their child (or loved one) during the holidays, and now the holidays will forever have a painful memory. SO KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT try to share a smile ,but keep your name calling to yourself.

Remembering all of my angel parents this holiday season... you are loved, and I will continue to post as the Director of Angels In Flight, Inc. Some of you may not like or understand what I have to say, but as parents of angels only we know that SOME WOUNDS NEVER HEAL.

Comment by Leslie Davis-Thompson on August 7, 2011 at 8:30pm

20 things parents of Angels wish you would remember

(this is great for a child lost of any age...this will be on my site soon:) 

 

1. I wish you would not be afraid to mention my baby. The truth is just because you never saw my baby doesn't mean he doesn't deserve your recognition.

 

2. I wish that if we did talk about my baby and I cried you didn't think it was because you have hurt me by mentioning my baby. The truth is I need to cry and talk about my baby with you. Crying and emotional outbursts help me heal.

 

3. I wish that you could talk about my baby more than once. The truth is if you do, it reassures me that you haven't forgotten him and that you do care and understand

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4. I wish you wouldn't think that I don't want to talk about my baby. The truth is I love my baby and need to talk about him.

 

5. I wish you could tell me you are sorry my baby has died and that you are thinking of me. The truth is that it tells me you care.

 

6. I wish you wouldn't think what has happened is one big bad memory for me. The truth is the memory of my baby, the love I feel for my baby, the dreams I had and the memories I have created for my baby are all loving memories. Yes there are bad memories too but please understand that it's not all like that.

 

7. I wish you wouldn't pretend that my baby never existed. The truth is we both know I had a baby growing inside me.

 

8. I wish you wouldn't judge me because I am not acting the way you think I should be. The truth is grief is a very personal thing and we are all different people who deal with things differently.

 

9. I wish you wouldn't think if I have a good day I'm "over it" or if I have a bad day I am being unreasonable because you think I should be over it. The truth is there is no "normal" way for me to act.

 

10. I wish you wouldn't stay away from me. The truth is loosing my baby doesn't mean I'm contagious. By staying away you make me feel isolated, confused and like it is my fault.

 

 

11. I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be "over and done with" in a few weeks, months, or years for that matter. The truth is it may get easier with time but I will never be "over" this.

 

12. I wish you wouldn't think that my baby wasn't really a baby and it was blood and tissue or a fetus. The truth is my baby was a human life. He had a soul, heart, body, legs, arms and a face. I have seen my baby's body and face. My baby was a real person.

 

13. My babies due date, Mothers Day, celebration times, the day my baby died and the day I lost my baby are all important and sad days for me. The truth is I wish you could tell me by words or by letter you are thinking of me on these days.

 

14. I wish you understood that losing my baby has changed me. The truth is I am not the same person I was before and will never be that person again. If you keep waiting for me to get back to ""normal" you will stay frustrated. I am a new person with new thoughts, dreams, beliefs, and values. Please try to get to know the real me-maybe you'll still like me.

 

15. I wish you wouldn't tell me I could have another baby. The truth is I want the baby I lost and no other baby can replace Sterling. Babies aren't interchangeable. Besides, you may not know that we have fertility problems too.

 

16. I wish you wouldn't feel awkward or uncomfortable talking about my baby or being near me. When you do, I can see it. The truth is it's not fair to make me feel uncomfortable just because you are.

 

17. I wish you wouldn't think that you'll keep away because all my friends and family will be there for me. The truth is, everyone thinks the same thing and I am often left with no one.

 

18. I wish you would understand that being around pregnant women is uncomfortable for me. The truth is I feel jealous.

 

19. I wish you wouldn't say that it's natures way of telling me something was wrong with my baby. The truth is my baby was perfect to me no matter what you think nature is saying.

 

20. I wish you would understand what you are really saying when you say "next time things will be okay". The truth is how do you know? Did you forget that we cannot get pregnant? What will you say if it happens to me again?

Comment by Leslie Davis-Thompson on July 14, 2011 at 11:59pm

I am still in the process of working on the shirts so for all those still interested feel free to contact me. I will have to make a bulk order so that is partially the issue with the hold up....i was trying to have it set up where families could just order independently  i will keep you all posted....peace and blessings to all of you

 

Comment by Tim's Mom, Vickie on June 20, 2011 at 8:22pm

Hi All, I'm new here, and in need of your company.  My son Tim left us on April 5th, 2009. he was 25. We had all just moved into our first home, a fresh start for all of us, on April1st. We found Tim in his room the morning of April5th, Palm Sunday. He had plans for the following day, to wash his new car, (he hadn't made his first payment yet) pick up his girlfriend and drive down to South Jersey to see some friends. He came home the night before, brought his laundry downstairs to the utility room, went upstairs, heated up his dinner, ate dinner, and went to bed. The medical examiner says it was an overdose of heroin, we still can't make sense of it.  He was fine when he got home, but 5 hours later, he was gone. 

  Anyways, I'm sorry we all have to meet in this way, but I hope to be able to lend as much support as I take from here.

 

Comment by Linda on April 16, 2011 at 2:46pm

Leslie...I agree with Tammy, that is a wonderful idea and would love to see my daughter's name on the shirt.  Jennifer Lynn Johnston   If you need anything else please let me know. I really appreciate everything you do here, it has helped me a lot even if I don't comment much, but just coming here and reading all the posts does help.  Many hugs to you....Linda, Jennifer's mom

Comment by Tammy Egberts on April 16, 2011 at 10:37am

HI Leslie, yes that is a wonderful idea, i would love to have my son's name on the shirt. Robert David Egberts...thank you so much. let me know if i can help in any way....Tammy E

Comment by judy taylor on April 4, 2011 at 11:29pm

HI MYNAME IS JUDY

I LOST BOTH OF MY SONS 28/32 5 WEEKS APART NO ONE UNDERSTAND Y IAM SO CRAZY ITS BEEN AL MOST 4 YEARS 07/04/2007-08/10/2007 I ASK GOD TO TAKE ME EVERY DAY BUT I GUESS HE'S NOT READY FOR ME

 

Comment by myra delgado on March 27, 2011 at 3:34pm

THANK U LESLIE 4 THE NOTE..AM VERY SAD...I MISS MY BOY EVERYDAY OF THE YEAR. MY BOY WOULD HAVE BEEN 20YRS OLD ON MAR 10.. I WANT 2 B SELFISH AND B WITH HIM..I HAVE AN 11 YR OLD BOY AND FRANKIE'S DAUGHTER WHO WAS BORN A MONTH AFTER HE DIED, HE NEVER GOT 2 HOLD HER I TAKE CARE OF HER SHE LIVES WITH ME, IF NOT 4 THEM I CAN HONESTLY SAY THAT ME AND MY BOY WILL B DANCING ON TOP OF A CLOUD...AM SO SAD THAT HE IS GONE...

Comment by Leslie Davis-Thompson on March 27, 2011 at 2:05pm

Ramble as much as you want Linda, what ever it takes to express your feelings. I'm in going on year  4 and I still hit brick walls too. Tis would have been a milestone birthday for Robynn this May 1 she would have turned 10...it is already bothering me. as bereaved parents this will always happen off and on

Comment by Linda on March 24, 2011 at 12:05am

I hit the 3 year mark on News Eve and I hit a brick wall.  Thrown back so many steps that I had moved forward on and this week has been a really rough one, actually worse than the last two. Jennie's birthday is Friday, 25th, and this one is really getting to me.  The pain that is left in the side of my heart that was ripped out that night hasn't gone away and I know it never will, it can't be replaced.  That lost, confused feeling is back and the anger is really back.  Just rambling, sorry.......hugs to all...Linda, Jennifer's mom

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