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Permalink Reply by Marge Babenko on December 30, 2012 at 11:03am

Brenda, I am so sorry for your loss, and I really understand your pain. I also lost the love of my life 4 months ago. We went to the E.R early in the morning of aug. 22, with severe abdominal pain. He went from the ER to intensive care to a hospice room all in less than 24 hrs. He passed away from a bowel obstruction, I actually felt him leave, it was though he slammed thru me, I will never forget that feeling. Most of my family who were very supportive at first, have 1 by 1 have disappeared, they feel I should be over my grief by now and moving on with my life. We were married 52 years, we married as teens I just turned 18 and he 19, we grew up together, life was hard for a long time, but we always had each other. We raised 3 children together. He opened a business , and I went back to school and became a nurse. We were both finally retired, and now here I am alone, I would give up all that I have, to have him back. So I really do understand. And I wish you well.

Permalink Reply by Janice F. on December 30, 2012 at 2:19pm

Brenda, it took me a while to find your post, it isn't in the main forum where everyone posts.  I am so very sorry for your loss and I and everyone on this site know exactly what you're going thru.  I am 6 months into this awful grief journey, and it hurts so bad.  I was lucky to have  my other half, Don for almost 40 years, but that isn't helping much now.  Only time will help a little.  He had congestive heart failure, he went peacefully in his sleep, I'm thankful for that.  I also lost my mom a year ago from a stroke, very similar to what you describe.  I truly feel your pain.  Thoughts and prayers are with you, my wish for you is to be able to find peace in your heart.

Permalink Reply by Brenda Matthews on December 30, 2012 at 9:42pm

Marge, I too, am sorry for your loss.  There is nothing that can prepare one for this pain and longing.  My husband and I were together for 37 years.  We met when I was 16 and he was 27.  We had a business together and worked from our home.  We raised one son and now have two grandchildren.  I am lucky to have a supportive family, but have learned not to talk about him too much with certain people.  I keep myself busy, probably too busy, but sometimes the grief just overwhelms me.  My friend tagged me in a poem on facebook this morning that brought some comfort because it is how I feel with him gone.  I have felt his arms around me, and sometimes feel his presence with me.  I would give anything to have him back.  I am sorry you are alone.

Marge Babenko said:

Brenda, I am so sorry for your loss, and I really understand your pain. I also lost the love of my life 4 months ago. We went to the E.R early in the morning of aug. 22, with severe abdominal pain. He went from the ER to intensive care to a hospice room all in less than 24 hrs. He passed away from a bowel obstruction, I actually felt him leave, it was though he slammed thru me, I will never forget that feeling. Most of my family who were very supportive at first, have 1 by 1 have disappeared, they feel I should be over my grief by now and moving on with my life. We were married 52 years, we married as teens I just turned 18 and he 19, we grew up together, life was hard for a long time, but we always had each other. We raised 3 children together. He opened a business , and I went back to school and became a nurse. We were both finally retired, and now here I am alone, I would give up all that I have, to have him back. So I really do understand. And I wish you well.

Permalink Reply by Brenda Matthews on December 30, 2012 at 9:48pm

Thank you Jan.  When I read the posts of other people, I realize I am not the only one going through this.  Things that are written are exactly what I am feeling.  It helps to know that I am not alone.  I am sorry for your loss as well and hope as time goes by the feelings of pain will lessen for both of us.

 
Jan F. said:

Brenda, it took me a while to find your post, it isn't in the main forum where everyone posts.  I am so very sorry for your loss and I and everyone on this site know exactly what you're going thru.  I am 6 months into this awful grief journey, and it hurts so bad.  I was lucky to have  my other half, Don for almost 40 years, but that isn't helping much now.  Only time will help a little.  He had congestive heart failure, he went peacefully in his sleep, I'm thankful for that.  I also lost my mom a year ago from a stroke, very similar to what you describe.  I truly feel your pain.  Thoughts and prayers are with you, my wish for you is to be able to find peace in your heart.