After 9 months of the loss of my wife, I am NOT coping well without her. Sorry, I did it wrong the first time Irene.

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kathleen caylor said:
Irene, what you said about what other people are going through rang so true.At my husbands funeral,I looked into the crowd and realized how many had lost their spouses.I realized at that moment how painful it was for them,too.That what I was feeling at that moment they had already been through .How sorry I was that I wasn't more empathetic toward them.What a terrble learning experience.I guess we do learn from our mistakes.Have a good day.
Randolph,
Every word you spoke, every feeling you describe you will find that others here feel the same.We are not alone.
So many beautiful people here have lost that soul mate, that love of their life.I was holding my love in my arms as she took her last breath.I wish that I had took my last breath with her.
Read what the beautuful words of Irene, Sue, Linda,Yvonne and Kathleen say to you.
When I first started here I felt like no one could have loved like I did, no one could hurt like I was, no one could have lost that one true love like I had.
I was so wrong..So many people here hurt just like we do, Loved just as we did.
Listen to others here,, Believe me it will help.
Irene, that IS very true what you noticed. How sad that sadness shows up later about the other peoples grief. Wow,its amazing that we can't get past our sorrow,but when we do,we see their sorrow and say what you had thought.
Charles said:
Randolph,
Every word you spoke, every feeling you describe you will find that others here feel the same.We are not alone.
So many beautiful people here have lost that soul mate, that love of their life.I was holding my love in my arms as she took her last breath.I wish that I had took my last breath with her.
Read what the beautuful words of Irene, Sue, Linda,Yvonne and Kathleen say to you.
When I first started here I felt like no one could have loved like I did, no one could hurt like I was, no one could have lost that one true love like I had.
I was so wrong..So many people here hurt just like we do, Loved just as we did.
Listen to others here,, Believe me it will help.
My dear Irene,
I want to ask you,,,Do you dread March 22 and July 6 coming up?Thats is the one year mark for you.It will be here soon my dear.
Thank you for the post on my page.
You are one lady I would love to meet and talk to.Im sure Terry was so happy having you by his side in the good as well as the bad.
Charles, thank you for your kind words and thoughts. My wife never regained life when she had her heart attack except that her heart was sustained for 6 hours till her birthday. We were so "caught up current" that there was no regrets when she passed. We were together 24/7 and had been pals. The only "side affect" from a death that I will never have, is ANGER. There is no anger about her passing.
I guess I am greedy though. I wanted more time with her. Forty-four plus years wasn't enough. I am so glad I had that but wanted more. Am crying now..
Irene Parker said:
Ranlolph, Don't EVER think you are not needed. There is one person out there who ALWAYS needs you. He will always be there for you, even when everyone else seems to have disappeared. I was thinking the other day, I can't even remember how I found this website. I know that I was having one of those DARK days and just killing time on the computer. It's like this was a gift to me to help me cope with the grief. After finding all these wonderful and insightful people here, I can finally feel my heart slowly starting to heal. I know you don't realize it now, but you will be helping us, your new family, also. In my prayers, Irene
Irene, thank you. I hope I can help in some way. I will be proud to be part of this family.
Irene,
How well you put it.The beginning of married life and the end of married life on this earth.We know that soon we will be back together with Terry and Doris.
I to have no anger at all with Doris.That lady fought and did everything possible to stay with me.My mother- in law told me yesterday that not long before Doris passed away she told her to be sure and take care of Charles.Just like your Terry, so much love that even in the end thay were thinking about us.We were so lucky.Just more time,, One more day as the song says.
Yvonne said:
Hi Randolph,
I am sorry for you loss. I lost my Larry August 9 2009. You have come to the right place. I think all of us find it hard to cope and some days are worse than others. Please know that you have friends here that are willing to listen.
Take care Yvonne
Ann and Yvonne, thank you for your support. I hope I can add to our family for coping with the grief and all that goes with it.
Irene Parker said:
Charles, Yes I am already dreading March 22 and July 6. Those days mark both the beginning and end of our married life on earth. Beautiful memories of one, horrible memories of another. Like Randolph, I never felt anger for Terry leaving me behind. He had no control getting cancer, and he fought more than I thoght humanly possible, more for me than for himself. Like everyone else here, I just didn't have enough time, but then again, would we EVER have had enough time with them? I think we all know the answer to that. LOL to all, Irene

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