Memorial Day!!!

Memorial Day is coming up....Most people are having barbecues with family and friends...I don't feel like going or having a good time...Does anyone else feel the same way....Denise MacCallum

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Permalink Reply by Bernie on May 8, 2010 at 9:30am

I, too, have a very large piece of property to maintain and love where I live. Where would I go? A condo is not an option. Taxes are exorbitant, but, the savings by moving to a cheaper area would be negated by the cost of buying/selling & the actual move. So, I let the grass grow longer than my husband would have done & do what I can. I'm learning to become independent and am getting to be better about business dealings since I was taken advantage of in the early stages of my grieving. Lessons are always being learned & God is giving me the strength to live a day at a time.

Sage said:

You are right Connie - people are strange but people are human too and when your life changed theirs kind of did too.. I don't think you should ignore your female neighbor/friend or her husband.. Don't treat her the way she has ignored/treated you because this only builds bitterness, resentment and hatred in you. This is not want you need or want for yourself as a person. (Widow or not) You need to be the friend and neighbor you always have been. Two wrongs will not make anything right again if you know what I mean.. If your male neighbor is kind enough to take your can to the street - then let him do this.. It's his way of saying he is sorry for your loss - its his way of helping you and this is a good thing.. If you take his kind deed away from him then I think it may make him feel rejected or that you don't care for him and his kind act.. As for his wife - she will eventually see for herself that you have no interest in her husband other than being the same neighbor and friend that you have been over the years.. Actions will always speak louder than words.. Do you see what I mean Connie? I would love for a kind neighbor to help me with little things but I don't have that.. It's all on me and its a LOT.. I have 3 acres of lawn to mow and to weed wack.. This is very hard for me but I love where I live and I don't want to leave here.. I know i'll have to get a neighbor boy to do some of this physical work for me but of course i'll have to pay him too.. Money is less around here too thats why i've tried to keep up with these physical things alone.. My garbage man is doing a VERY kind act for me and that is, he drives all the way up my driveway and takes my can right from the garage.. This is a GREAT help to me and I sure appreciate it.. So Connie - let your neighbor take your can to the street. It blesses him for doing it :)

Permalink Reply by Sage on May 8, 2010 at 10:45am

Hi Bernie -

Thank you very much for your words of encouragement concerning keeping up with the mountain of yard work.. This is my 3rd year doing the weed wacking because my husband was so sick with cancer for the last 2 and a half years.. (He passed just before this past Christmas) I noticed last year that my knees have been bothering me and I really think it's from doing that type of work.. I couldn't believe just by riding on the garden tractor to mow it has caused even more of a problem with both knees.. I never realized how darn bumpy a lawn is.. My word! I'm not a heavy person either so I don't understand the problem with my knees just by mowing and using a battery operated weed wacker.. You have the right attitude tho Bernie and this is what I will do too :) I was sorry to hear that you were taken advantage of tho but i'm happier to see that you have wisdom because of what you went through.. Good for you Bernie :) God bless you Bernie and have a nice day..

Bernie said:

I, too, have a very large piece of property to maintain and love where I live. Where would I go? A condo is not an option. Taxes are exorbitant, but, the savings by moving to a cheaper area would be negated by the cost of buying/selling & the actual move. So, I let the grass grow longer than my husband would have done & do what I can. I'm learning to become independent and am getting to be better about business dealings since I was taken advantage of in the early stages of my grieving. Lessons are always being learned & God is giving me the strength to live a day at a time.

Sage said:
You are right Connie - people are strange but people are human too and when your life changed theirs kind of did too.. I don't think you should ignore your female neighbor/friend or her husband.. Don't treat her the way she has ignored/treated you because this only builds bitterness, resentment and hatred in you. This is not want you need or want for yourself as a person. (Widow or not) You need to be the friend and neighbor you always have been. Two wrongs will not make anything right again if you know what I mean.. If your male neighbor is kind enough to take your can to the street - then let him do this.. It's his way of saying he is sorry for your loss - its his way of helping you and this is a good thing.. If you take his kind deed away from him then I think it may make him feel rejected or that you don't care for him and his kind act.. As for his wife - she will eventually see for herself that you have no interest in her husband other than being the same neighbor and friend that you have been over the years.. Actions will always speak louder than words.. Do you see what I mean Connie? I would love for a kind neighbor to help me with little things but I don't have that.. It's all on me and its a LOT.. I have 3 acres of lawn to mow and to weed wack.. This is very hard for me but I love where I live and I don't want to leave here.. I know i'll have to get a neighbor boy to do some of this physical work for me but of course i'll have to pay him too.. Money is less around here too thats why i've tried to keep up with these physical things alone.. My garbage man is doing a VERY kind act for me and that is, he drives all the way up my driveway and takes my can right from the garage.. This is a GREAT help to me and I sure appreciate it.. So Connie - let your neighbor take your can to the street. It blesses him for doing it :)

Permalink Reply by kathleen caylor on May 9, 2010 at 10:54am

Everyday is Memorial Day for us!!!No different than any other day.Hope I have to work so for 12 hours my mind will be occupied elsewhere.Those seem to be less painful days.