Since you have all experienced loosing a spouse, please help me. My father passed away 12/17/09 from a stroke, he was 52. Christmas was terrible because it had only been a week since his passing. I don't even remember it, I was in a daze. Ofcourse New Years Eve, Valentines Day were terrible. Now I am coming up on my parents wedding anniversary May 16th, this would be 28 years. How do I be there for my Mother? I have no idea what to say or do? I am still trying to come to terms with being 25 and loosing my Father. I have no idea how to support her on that day, maybe she feels the same way on how to support me on Fathers Day. I can't imagine the first Fathers day without him. My Dad was our tree trunk, we were just the branches hanging off to the side. When he passed, everyone told me that I was just like him and needed to step in and be the strong one. I don't know how to be the strong one. Any advice?