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Permalink Reply by CaliforniaDreamer on February 26, 2012 at 7:50pm

30 days is barely starting this ride you're on. I think there will be more bad ones in the short term, you may still be in shock. Just remember to hold on to the good days to store up for the bad days.

Permalink Reply by B. Walker on February 26, 2012 at 7:55pm

Store up ?? wish I wish I could.. His family business and his family is tearing me down.. SHOCK.. yeah I'm there.  I don't sleep, eat or really function right now.. I just pray God gets me thru another day. 

 

Permalink Reply by CaliforniaDreamer on February 26, 2012 at 8:23pm

You will have better days, or at least less worse days. Use those days to recharge your batteries. I'm 3.5 months in and barely function. I just hope and pray I get through another day at times. I can tell somewhat when a real bad day is approaching, not that I can do anything about it. You have to find someone you can talk to either IRL or online. 

Permalink Reply by nancy on February 26, 2012 at 8:29pm

I'm so sorry for you. It is over 5 months since my husband died suddenly from a heart attack at 55 years old. I think I'm still in shock. Can't believe he's not coming back. I truly believe the only thing that has gotten me to this point is prayer. I have cried myself to sleep more often than not but I do go to sleep. I also take Tylenol pm very frequently.  I can't tell you it gets easier. I guess it's just adjusting and knowing that everything is so very different now. I know how you feel about getting a hug. I get hugs from mine and John's family and they are all so supportive but know one can ever hug me like John and I think I'm the one that stiffens up because I don't want anyone to hug me like him.

I will keep you in my prayers. Keep posting it really helps to post and read other posts. Unfortunately, we're all in this together.

Hugs and prayers.

Permalink Reply by B. Walker on February 26, 2012 at 11:17pm

Thanks Nancy..  I pray all the time... I just wish I had a family member or are a blood relative I could talk to..  So scared to get out and do something else than what I'm doing.... We were always together and he shared all of them with me but now they too are all fading away..  I don't trust anyone..  Not to hug me or talk to me..  

please !!!! keep me in your prayer's...

Permalink Reply by B. Walker on February 27, 2012 at 9:41am

Jane,

What a awful place for any us.

Thanks for sharing your experience. 

Got 3 Lawyers lined uo to do a consult with.

Jane Policcio said:

B, I am in my 8th month and I cannot believe how time passed because I am still in limbo. I too am going through stuff that hurts to think these are the same people I opened our home to and celebrated so many holidays. They can now place me in an entirely different category and treat me as an outsider.

I do not know the circumstances surrounding your husband's family but I do know where there is money involved, no matter the amount, the greed in others shines brightly. I strongly suggest you hire an attorney and if you cannot afford one make the fees part of the settlement. You get something the atty. gets paid all of this is negotiable. You are not in the correct frame of mind to even be thinking of legal ramifications.  You truly do not need this added to what you are going through but here you are smack in the middle of it.  

It is so new for you but please stay strong. Since you are not in the right frame of mind try and secure an attorney who can and will have your best interest at hand.  

I know the lonely feeling and the hatred expressed by the same people you thought cared about you but with one dieing breath changed. I have no children and my immediate family passed within months of my husband so I am alone. But with a good attorney and a good financial advisor I am getting things settled one day at a time.  Tomorrow seems to always come regardless if I am ready or not.  So stay strong, keep your head up and smile.  People always wonder what is hiding behind a smiling face!  Hugs Jane P.