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Permalink Reply by Nina on December 16, 2010 at 9:37pm

Hi Heather, I'm very sorry for your lose. God called my husband home on March 1st, 2010. Our 17th Wedding anniversary was March 19th. It has not been easy being with out my husband. I hear his voice calling out to me alot & I answer him. Your husband is another Rose in Gods Garden, & you will be reunited with him when God calls you home. Keep your Faith in Jesus Christ & he will help you through this lose. He is helping me. God Bless you. My prayers are with you. Please take care.

Permalink Reply by heather on December 16, 2010 at 9:46pm

Yes I know he was a good man I loved him so much life without him is very hard I talk to him every day if someone heard me they would think I was crazy.  God is my strength and he hears my sobs and He knows of my lonliness thank you for your kind words my prayers are with you too Merry Christmas

Nina said:

Hi Heather, I'm very sorry for your lose. God called my husband home on March 1st, 2010. Our 17th was March 19th. It has not been easy being with out my husband. I hear his voice calling out to me alot & I answer him. Your husband is another Rose in Gods Garden, & you will be reunited with him when God calls you home. Keep your Faith in Jesus Christ & he will help you through this lose. He is helping me. God Bless you. My prayers are with you. Please take care.

Permalink Reply by Carol Kayser on December 17, 2010 at 3:33am

Oh Heather and Nina, I truly and sorry and I feel your pain.  This past few days I have had nothing but tears and sobs.  I lost my beloved husband John on August 31st this year.    2 weeks later it was his 58th birthday.  Our 39th wedding anniversary is December 31st.  I have been so upset and with my younger daughter who has been insisting I spend Christmas Day with her in-laws whom I hardly know. She doesn't understand that perhaps my choice would be to be alone with my thoughts of my husband and God if I choose to.  This is very difficult because she is pregnant.  I talk to my husband too, asking for advice because I am no where near as good with my daughters as he was.  I feel rather helpless.

The only things that help are finding peace in church and reading, so much reading.  It is here on the website that you find others who are sharing their grief and lonliness and know you are not alone.

 

God bless to both of you, may you find some solace and love during the Christmas season.

Carol

 

 

Permalink Reply by Carol Kayser on December 17, 2010 at 3:33am

Oh Heather and Nina, I truly and sorry and I feel your pain.  This past few days I have had nothing but tears and sobs.  I lost my beloved husband John on August 31st this year.    2 weeks later it was his 58th birthday.  Our 39th wedding anniversary is December 31st.  I have been so upset and with my younger daughter who has been insisting I spend Christmas Day with her in-laws whom I hardly know. She doesn't understand that perhaps my choice would be to be alone with my thoughts of my husband and God if I choose to.  This is very difficult because she is pregnant.  I talk to my husband too, asking for advice because I am no where near as good with my daughters as he was.  I feel rather helpless.

The only things that help are finding peace in church and reading, so much reading.  It is here on the website that you find others who are sharing their grief and lonliness and know you are not alone.

 

God bless to both of you, may you find some solace and love during the Christmas season.

Carol

 

 

Permalink Reply by Donna Halacy on December 17, 2010 at 11:26am

I am so sorry, and I know those words do not help at all.  I too am alone, lost my other half of myself 2 years,7 months and 9 days ago.  My children are in the Northeast and most of my Grandchildren are there also and I am in the South.  I do have in-laws close by and I actually would still prefer to be by myself on that day, but everyone says you should not be alone.  We had been together since I was 16 and he passed just before our 42nd anniversary.  They say it gets easier with time, but I have not found it to be that much better yet.....I know he is in Heaven and healthy and happy,waiting for me, but sometimes that doesn't make it any better.  God Bless  you and hope things  get better for you soon.

Permalink Reply by heather on December 17, 2010 at 12:30pm

thank you Donna I know you have had a rough time of it too you were together a lot longer than I I knew Jim only 15 years he was the love of my life.  Some days it feels like a bad dream,than I realize it's reality and I have to deal with the loss the pain and the loneliness, it's not easy I am disabled on oxygen 24/7 so I can't work.  My whole world is my tiny apartment and what I can do to keep busy.  Some nights I can't sleep and just think memories of him.  His laugh, talking to each other and cuddling I miss his smell and his sweet southern accent.  He was born and raised in Arkansas and never lost his drawl I loved it.  Take care my friend, God will see us through he never gives us anymore than we can handle and I know Jim is in heaven in Gods arms safe and warm and happy. Merry Christmas

Donna Halacy said:

I am so sorry, and I know those words do not help at all.  I too am alone, lost my other half of myself 2 years,7 months and 9 days ago.  My children are in the Northeast and most of my Grandchildren are there also and I am in the South.  I do have in-laws close by and I actually would still prefer to be by myself on that day, but everyone says you should not be alone.  We had been together since I was 16 and he passed just before our 42nd anniversary.  They say it gets easier with time, but I have not found it to be that much better yet.....I know he is in Heaven and healthy and happy,waiting for me, but sometimes that doesn't make it any better.  God Bless  you and hope things  get better for you soon.

Permalink Reply by heather on December 17, 2010 at 12:37pm

Nina I'm so sorry for you loss it seems we have a lot in common and the only way to deal with issues is do what you feel is right for you.  I will be alone on Christmas but I am making myself make a nice dinner for one just me everyone is doing other things.  I feel I need to go on Jim would want it for me too not just sit and cry all day.  His birthday 57th is December 20th I will wish him a Happy Birthday on that day too. God does have his arms around me and Jim watches over me we have to wait until God calls us home he has a plan for everyone, God Bless and have a very wonderful Christmas, Jesus's Birthday to be celebrated by all.

Carol Kayser said:

Oh Heather and Nina, I truly and sorry and I feel your pain.  This past few days I have had nothing but tears and sobs.  I lost my beloved husband John on August 31st this year.    2 weeks later it was his 58th birthday.  Our 39th wedding anniversary is December 31st.  I have been so upset and with my younger daughter who has been insisting I spend Christmas Day with her in-laws whom I hardly know. She doesn't understand that perhaps my choice would be to be alone with my thoughts of my husband and God if I choose to.  This is very difficult because she is pregnant.  I talk to my husband too, asking for advice because I am no where near as good with my daughters as he was.  I feel rather helpless.

The only things that help are finding peace in church and reading, so much reading.  It is here on the website that you find others who are sharing their grief and lonliness and know you are not alone.

 

God bless to both of you, may you find some solace and love during the Christmas season.

Carol

 

 

Permalink Reply by Nina on December 17, 2010 at 10:52pm

Hi Carol,  I am very sorry for you loss. Another Rose for Gods Garden. Your husband will always be with you & so will God. On our anniversary, I did what we would have done together, ordered a large pizza with pepperoni, double sausage & onions. Then I found a movie that I knew that we both would like, watched it & cried alot. I felt my husband right there by my side. My husbands name was also John. You do what you want to for the Holidays, don't let any one pressure you in to doing any thing that would make you uncomfortable. Your husband & God will understand. My prayers are with you. Please take care. God Bless.

heather said:

Nina I'm so sorry for you loss it seems we have a lot in common and the only way to deal with issues is do what you feel is right for you.  I will be alone on Christmas but I am making myself make a nice dinner for one just me everyone is doing other things.  I feel I need to go on Jim would want it for me too not just sit and cry all day.  His birthday 57th is December 20th I will wish him a Happy Birthday on that day too. God does have his arms around me and Jim watches over me we have to wait until God calls us home he has a plan for everyone, God Bless and have a very wonderful Christmas, Jesus's Birthday to be celebrated by all.

Carol Kayser said:

Oh Heather and Nina, I truly and sorry and I feel your pain.  This past few days I have had nothing but tears and sobs.  I lost my beloved husband John on August 31st this year.    2 weeks later it was his 58th birthday.  Our 39th wedding anniversary is December 31st.  I have been so upset and with my younger daughter who has been insisting I spend Christmas Day with her in-laws whom I hardly know. She doesn't understand that perhaps my choice would be to be alone with my thoughts of my husband and God if I choose to.  This is very difficult because she is pregnant.  I talk to my husband too, asking for advice because I am no where near as good with my daughters as he was.  I feel rather helpless.

The only things that help are finding peace in church and reading, so much reading.  It is here on the website that you find others who are sharing their grief and lonliness and know you are not alone.

 

God bless to both of you, may you find some solace and love during the Christmas season.

Carol