Lost Husband to MRCC 2 months ago

Hello everyone, I lost my husband of 28 years of marriage and together 32 so I am so very lost. he is the only man I ever dated and was 15 when I met him we have been together since. He was the proudest, kindest man you have ever met, he would give you the shirt off of his back and ask noting in return, When he was in the hospital deteriorating he asked me to take the pastor out to dinner...I said I would but not at that moment as he was to sick to leave. I only left his side for about 1 hr a day and lived at the hospital with him for the 5 wks. I was told I had two years and I was given 9 weeks and my heart just is empty...you see I also lost my son 5.5 years ago so now it is just me and my daugher and life just sucks...I don't wanna live this life of pain and emptiness any longer

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Permalink Reply by Shannon on January 18, 2012 at 3:52pm

So today I hear from one of the doctors I work with " shannon there is nothing you can do he's gone with god and you need to rejoin the living " REALLY !!! It's been 17 days what after 23 years together I'm just suppose to forget him and join the living. I went back to work I'm dealing with my sons anxiety over this and trying to figure out how to survive. I call that living, I cant help that I'm sad I miss him. Anyone else go through this?

Permalink Reply by Shannon on January 18, 2012 at 4:28pm

Jane, I liked that made me smile thank you. Your right if you have not experienced this type of trauma then you can't relate. Unfortunately everyone on here has :(

Jane Policcio said:

Shannon, those who have not walked in our shoes DO NOT know the journey. I had to go for a physical the other day and the DR told me my BP was up and I told him it was because of the lack of his bed side manner! The point being, some Dr.'s are educated idiots! Hugs, Jane P.

Permalink Reply by Diane Marante McDonough on January 18, 2012 at 7:12pm

I cannot believe a doctor had the nerve to say that to you. I would punch someone if they told me that now and my lose is not yet 7 months. He is out of his mind. I am so sorry you had to hear that, he is wrong and you must grieve as long as you want to. When I went for my first physical after loosing Laurence the doctor and I both cried. He was his doctor as well and we always went together for our appointments. Maybe you need a new job!

Shannon said:

So today I hear from one of the doctors I work with " shannon there is nothing you can do he's gone with god and you need to rejoin the living " REALLY !!! It's been 17 days what after 23 years together I'm just suppose to forget him and join the living. I went back to work I'm dealing with my sons anxiety over this and trying to figure out how to survive. I call that living, I cant help that I'm sad I miss him. Anyone else go through this?

Permalink Reply by Shannon on January 18, 2012 at 9:39pm

Diane, your probley right but now I have to suck it up since I need my job more now than ever. Mike would tell me just leave if your not happy will be fine now I'm the sole provider I can't just leave like he would have told me to do. I feel so much better after a really hard cry fest I'm not sure why does it help anyone else? I have been looking at his pictures and I smile then cry then smile again. The emotions are crazy you don't know if your coming or going. Maybe I should have took more time off but I couldn't afford to we didn't have life ins. We never thought there would be a day until we were older that we wouldn't be together it's just stinks how 90 seconds can change so many lives forever.

Diane Marante McDonough said:

I cannot believe a doctor had the nerve to say that to you. I would punch someone if they told me that now and my lose is not yet 7 months. He is out of his mind. I am so sorry you had to hear that, he is wrong and you must grieve as long as you want to. When I went for my first physical after loosing Laurence the doctor and I both cried. He was his doctor as well and we always went together for our appointments. Maybe you need a new job!

Shannon said:

So today I hear from one of the doctors I work with " shannon there is nothing you can do he's gone with god and you need to rejoin the living " REALLY !!! It's been 17 days what after 23 years together I'm just suppose to forget him and join the living. I went back to work I'm dealing with my sons anxiety over this and trying to figure out how to survive. I call that living, I cant help that I'm sad I miss him. Anyone else go through this?