Help, my family thinks I should be taking some kind of drugs to help me relax & sleep better and say I should try seeing a therapist. I don't want to do either. I'm curious how the majority of grieving spouses recover? I am having a difficult time concentrating & I lose it several times a day but I'm afraid if I start taking drugs I may never quit. This pain will always be with me- I am only half a person now. It has been 3 months since Larry died suddenly from a work related accident- he was 38 yrs. old. This is still unreal.