Suzanne, thank you for your thoughtful message.Being in a small town, surrounded by small towns, groups for grief support are scarce. I did go to one for spouse loss that was unknown to me but recommended by the organ/tissue people after I filled out a questionaire and said that I died when LouAnn died. I did not like it one bit.I was so out of place and had many strikes against me compared to the other people, there were 5 of us.Plus they had been together longer and I was the "new" person. I felt worse afterwards and realized how alone I was. Its terrible to always get stomped down with the "lonely" and how we remember more of our loss. A "major" city to me means it might as well be on the moon. Thank God for this site and Steve Cain who created it. You are all my friends and I hope I am your friend. Hugs to you and to all. Hugs are good.