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Permalink Reply by Kevin McDermott on September 22, 2012 at 5:29am

"Clothing ... you gotta be kidding!  I have no butt" you should do stairs. whenever you can avoid elevators and escalators. ;)

Permalink Reply by Marsha H on September 22, 2012 at 6:02am

Hey Kevin ... I never take elevators or escalators and always walk stairs!  I'm starting resistent training with my trainer Matt next month (muscle weighs more than fat!)  LOL

Permalink Reply by Mac on September 22, 2012 at 11:09am

Marcy you did make me laugh. this weight loss thing is the pitts. when my Husband died I just stopped eating and I told my grandson I am going to have to put rocks in my pocket to hold me down. Thanks for the pick me up. Jean

Permalink Reply by Janice F. on September 22, 2012 at 2:40pm

Thank you for the smiles.  Sounds much like me.  I've also lost 40 lbs...in a 5 yr period..2007 Don massive heart attack - 10 lbs gone.  2009, Don bypass surgery - 10 lbs gone.  July 2011, my beloved mom died - 10 lbs gone.  Losing Don June 26, 2012, 10+ lbs gone.  Funny thing, I never gained any of it back in the 5 yrs. But I had that much to lose anyway, now if I could just stop losing, how do you do that?  I'm afraid of getting sick.  I'm only 4' 11"...used to be 5'1".

I don't want to "pick on you", but thanks for the offer, lol.  And thanks for the smiles...

Permalink Reply by Marsha H on September 22, 2012 at 4:17pm

Jane, glad you got a giggle or two. I'm 5' 6" and weigh 91 lbs.  I do eat, but can't seem to pack on the weight no matter how much I try. You sure don't look old to me!  I had a laugh at 'an old prune in a new sack!'  I can't believe you actually gained weight when Dan passed.  I was about 140 lbs. when Ernie and I were waiting for his surgery; then running up and down to the hospital twice a day for well over two weeks; the shock he was not going to make it and then his death.  When I had his 'Celebration of Life' at the Chapel where we got married I was in a size 8 (Canadian size) and now I'm into a size 2.  I worry I won't stop losing weight.  Having big time stomach trouble from all the stress and the doctors sit there looking like deers caught in headlights.  I feel alone and fearful of what is to become of me and can't imagine any type of future for myself.  At this point in time I just don't have the confidence or the energy to volunteer or get right out into society to do something to take my mind off things.  I do out for dinners with friends or go to movies and I do entertain some of my girlfriends in my home.  I keep busy as I've told you before, but nothing seems to fill the hole in my heart.  I agree that beauty is only skin deep and it's what is inside of us.  Thanks for the lovely compliment, but too bad others in our lives don't realize it.  We live in a society of physical attraction first.  I have never felt so old in my life. 

Good idea about putting weights in my shoes so I don't blow away.  Ha,ha.  I'm trying to enjoy life, but in a fog since Ernie has passed.  I keep chugging away though.

Thanks my friend and hope you are having a wonderful day.

Hugs

Marcy  
 
Jane Policcio said:

Marcy, you have me laughing and crying!  Yes, I too went down to 90 lbs at 5'7" I was thin and know exactly how purchasing clothes was a huge problem.  I am old so even though the junior clothes fit a little better then most I looked like an old prune in a new sack! Then when Dan passed I was so concerned on loosing more weight I gained it instead!  Now my size 2/4 are replaced with 6/8!  Mostly 8! Then I think, are we ever happy with our outer appearance with ourselves? Then I realize beauty is only skin deep and it is what is inside that makes a wonderful person and you my friend have the inner beauty.  You can make people laugh and cry, you can bring smiles to so many teary eyes and you have a gift of expression.  So my friend put some weights in your shoes, so not to be blown away, and enjoy what you have! Life!!  Hugs, Jane P

Permalink Reply by Marsha H on September 22, 2012 at 4:19pm

Jean .... glad I got a giggle out of you.  I find that it is difficult to get create and just cook for me so I only eat to survive.  I laughed about 'rocks in your pocket.'  How long did it take you to put the weight back on Jean?

 

Marcy
 
Jean McClintock said:

Marcy you did make me laugh. this weight loss thing is the pitts. when my Husband died I just stopped eating and I told my grandson I am going to have to put rocks in my pocket to hold me down. Thanks for the pick me up. Jean

Permalink Reply by Marsha H on September 22, 2012 at 4:25pm

Hi Jan ...

Glad you got some smiles.  It is so easy for the weight to sneakily just slip off.  You have been through so much so I can well imagine the weight loss for you. I was a good weight until Ernie went into hospital; visited him twice a day and ate on the run; then his death; then my pets death and two friends who also passed away.  I wasn't paying attention to me and suddenly I realized how much weight I'd lost.  I was 140 lbs. and now down to 91 lbs.  As I say I eat, but the stress seems to burn it off.  I wouldn't worry about shrinking an inch or two because that is expected when we get older.  I am almost an inch shorter than I use to be. 

I don't mind some funny sayings towards me; if I don't laugh I'll cry.  I hesitated to put the post up, but thought if it gone a smile or two from some of you it may brighten your days ahead.  Glad I squeaked a smile or two out of you.    
 
Jan Fridrich said:

Thank you for the smiles.  Sounds much like me.  I've also lost 40 lbs...in a 5 yr period..2007 Don massive heart attack - 10 lbs gone.  2009, Don bypass surgery - 10 lbs gone.  July 2011, my beloved mom died - 10 lbs gone.  Losing Don June 26, 2012, 10+ lbs gone.  Funny thing, I never gained any of it back in the 5 yrs. But I had that much to lose anyway, now if I could just stop losing, how do you do that?  I'm afraid of getting sick.  I'm only 4' 11"...used to be 5'1".

I don't want to "pick on you", but thanks for the offer, lol.  And thanks for the smiles...

Permalink Reply by Mac on September 22, 2012 at 5:13pm

Marcy I never did gain the weight back my chlorestlor went out of sight when I stroked the nurses told me they had never seen chlorestor (ms) so high and  I  was 4'll but the last time I went to the Dr. I was 4'10 if i shrink anymore I will have to use a stool to go to the bathroom. and my weight was always 98 when my babe died it went down to the 70's and I guess that is where it will stay. but I won't need those rocks because now I can't walk anyway. Oh well I do feel alittle better when I read everyones comments at least I know I am not really losing my mind its just my heart. Jean

Permalink Reply by Marsha H on September 23, 2012 at 2:56pm

I am so sorry Jean that you have had so many health issues.  At least you have a good sense of humor about shrinking and using a stool to go to the bathroom.  I think past 55 years of age we all shrink to a degree.  From hearing what is happening to you and others on this forum I wish I could be more thankful and feel blessed for what I do have, but this grieving takes so much out of a person and I'm not young anymore where I can go back to work and feel productive.  I have been the caregiver in both families for a very long time and gave up a lot of my own life so now it's really difficult to pick myself up and figure out a direction to go in.  When my Ernie went my heart went with him.  I agree that it's nice to come to forum and realize we aren't losing our minds, but like you it's my heart and I doubt that will ever be complete again.

I appreciate you being so candid about your weight loss.  I was beginning to think I was the only one that was having difficulties.  Most people during grief put weight on, but oh no, I just have to be different.  Ha, ha.

Hope you are having a better day Jean.  I'm praying I can get through this day.

Marcy
 
Jean McClintock said:

Marcy I never did gain the weight back my chlorestlor went out of sight when I stroked the nurses told me they had never seen chlorestor (ms) so high and  I  was 4'll but the last time I went to the Dr. I was 4'10 if i shrink anymore I will have to use a stool to go to the bathroom. and my weight was always 98 when my babe died it went down to the 70's and I guess that is where it will stay. but I won't need those rocks because now I can't walk anyway. Oh well I do feel alittle better when I read everyones comments at least I know I am not really losing my mind its just my heart. Jean