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Permalink Reply by Cynthia Clements on August 28, 2012 at 7:30am

Maria,  I lost my husband in an 18 wheeler accident 22 months ago.  Getting by one day at a time is all we can do.  I still cry and miss him so much.  I have more good days now than bad.  I wont say it gets better , we just learn how to deal with it better.  Hugs and prayer to you.

Permalink Reply by Abby boerner on August 28, 2012 at 11:53am

Maria -

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My husband died from cancer on April 20, 2012. I am also taking it one day at the time. My pain has not eased. People keep saying it will. One day....

Hang in there.

Abby

Permalink Reply by Brigitte on August 28, 2012 at 9:30pm

Dear Maria, It has been 3 years since my husband died and I want to tell you that it will and does get easier.  The pain and grief of losing your best friend, husband and partner will seem to linger forever.  But with each passing day you will find strength to go on and find your new normal.  The first year is the most difficult -- all of the "firsts" without Keith.  Just know he is with you in spirit and remember the great times you shared plus the memories you made together.  Those will never go away and that is what got me through the rough patches.  I miss my husband every day and I admit that there are moments that I feel like I did on the day he died.  But the pain doesn't last as long, I am able to continue to breath, and the crying actually feels good and healthy.  Yes, I still cry and I don't have to apologize or explain.  I have discovered that the tears are actually healing and cleansing.  I feel your pain and feeling that you are lost.  You will discover your strength and continue to grow and experience many of the things you and Keith talked about -- I am doing just that with the many ideas and plans Douglas and I had made.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.  Own your grief and sadness and believe that you will be okay!  The rest of us on this site have been where you are and are here to help you identify the rough spots and support your feelings.  Believe in yourself and know that you will be okay!!

In peace,

Brigitte

Permalink Reply by 2ty947rweqfc2 on August 29, 2012 at 8:21pm

Maria,

Sorry for your loss, my husband died 15 weeks ago, one day at a time, but it feels like a eternity. I have more bad days then good, just existing if that is what you can call it.  People say it will get better but its hard to believe. I understand your pain. 

Permalink Reply by brenda ortiz on September 12, 2012 at 1:12pm

I lost my husband 11 months ago i am still going crazy! this life sucks! yes getting through each day i do but doing  it feeling like you would rather just die, because every first time ,second time, I just feel the same way! I hurt ,, every bone in my body hurts, i cant breath, i dont want to breath! I understand how hard it is! :( :(