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Permalink Reply by Virginia on June 24, 2011 at 4:26am

All you can do is take it slow and don't expect to much to fast. Only you will know when you are ready to do what you need to do. Sometime you might have to push yourself to do everyday things that need your attention learn to ask for and accept help when you need it.Many people ask what they can do to help but don't know what or how too help so we all should learn to let them know.We just we can't assume they know what we could use and sometime it is the simplest things that help the most.Hugs 

Permalink Reply by Kathy King Kates on June 24, 2011 at 9:54am

Listen to what Virginia said. Letting others help is the most important thing you can do for yourself right now. You need to take care of yourself to keep moving. Baby steps, one day at a time. It's a difficult road but we will be right here beside you to keep you strong.

Permalink Reply by Kim on June 25, 2011 at 9:40pm

That's a good question, one which all of us here have probably asked ourselves at one point. My husband of 18 years passed away at 40 years of age and I never felt so lost and lonely in all my life. I honestly didn't think I could go on, but I did some how and continue to do so with the help of friends and family. Virginia is absolutely correct, take it slow and don't expect too much too fast. I must say some days are going to be harder than others, but you have to continue to put one foot in front of the other and keep going.

Permalink Reply by MaggieP on June 26, 2011 at 7:34pm

One thing I discovered in the beginning was that I was sleepwalking through life. I had to remind myself to pay attention when I was driving. After two months of trying to figure things out,i stumbled on to this site. The first thing I discovered was that what I was feeling, every one was feeling. I realized that it was normal. I purchased a book on daily devotions that had been recommended to me. I read it ev very morning, and some days it seems to have just the right message for me. It takes time. hugs!

Permalink Reply by Basia on June 26, 2011 at 11:30pm

You just deal with this moment. Try not to go to far into the future. That is just to difficult to deal with. Just breathe and let the pins fall where they fall. Grieving reminds me of labour and giving birth. The more I fought it , the worse it got. Hang in there, you can do this.

Permalink Reply by MaggieP on June 27, 2011 at 6:54am

Basia, my reading this morning was that out of grief comes the birth of a new life. Right after reading, I saw your post! I
feel like my life has changed so much since my husband died, that if I fight it,i will be left behind.

Permalink Reply by janeo on August 12, 2011 at 7:21pm

I am so sorry for your lost. I know talking to people and saying it out is a help. I was 48 when my husband passed I had no family. That's why this group is so great you can talk without any judgement we know how it feels. Stay with this group we are always here for you.