Bereaved Spouses

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This might be a rough time for many of you. Do what you feel you need to do to get through it. Remember, someone is here almost all the time to talk to you.


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Comment by Marsha H on April 1, 2020 at 3:28am

Sara ...  so relieved you are OK.  I don't blame you one bit for being angry at Spring Breakers.  Some just don't get it.  We have our beaches open (to cold anyway) and 6 feet distance and most parks and of course sports fields closed off and no sports at all.  All theaters; pubs and most restaurants are closed, but we have food drive-throughs.  Grocery stores have plexi glass; girls have gloves on and all items are on your side of the counter and you can only pay by debit card or credit card.  Hand  are right to your left.  I put it on going to the store and coming out of the store and then wash my hands with very warm water and soap.  I just find it quite lonely as I live alone with my 2 dogs.  I have a few friends who keep in touch and my sister-in-law.  Isolation is the worst part and I pray this virus is soon over.

Keep well my dear friend and prayers coming everyone's way.



Comment by Diamond on March 31, 2020 at 3:10pm

The loving thing to do is to limit ones interaction among people.  If you do so you will not only protect yourself but perhaps your love ones as well.  Take advantage of this time to reflect.  Yes, reflect on your life.  Where are you headed?  What do you need to do in order to set the path in the direction you really want to go.  Do you feel a need to reach out to someone who you may have been reluctant to in the past?  Take this time to be creative at home.  Do you need to declutter?   Life is still beautiful!

Take advantage of this time to look at all of God's creations - the plants, trees, sky, sun, moon and rivers.  Listen to all that he created -- do you hear the birds singing, the wind whistling, or perhaps the trees leaves blowing in the wind.  How beautiful the sound.  The air is cleaner - the waters are clearer - there is so much peace in the sky and in the ocean,  Our earth is enjoying the break from the pollutants and the water is rejuvenating itself to a clearer state.  So amazing to see the transformation before our very eyes.  What a beautiful earth we have and how long has it been crying out to breath naturally - free of bad toxins.  

Yes, take advantage of this time to appreciate all creations!

Comment by Sara Murphy on March 30, 2020 at 7:51pm

Thanks for the tip about the shoes Deb.  I hadn't thought about my shoes

Comment by deborah peck on March 30, 2020 at 12:09pm

Sarah stay safe out there, my daughter is being released Wednsday to go back to work, she never received her test results but it is 2 weeks so she is good, Chuck I went to an early morning grocery run and I too was surprised by the workers not wearing gloves, seems very risky to me, we can get groceries delivered but not getting what I ordered so decided to try this and got everything, although it was really scary being out and came home and washed all my clothes and disinfected everything, this all seems like a end of the world movie, I have been getting out and going for walk by myself and not even sitting on benches or even touching a stick, you just don't know. everyone that has to go out stay safe and Sarah take your shoes off outside and carry to closet, it can live on shoes for 5 days

Comment by Sara Murphy on March 30, 2020 at 10:40am
Thanks Marsha. I'm actually not that concerned. It's been 9 or 10 days since we were both in the office on the same day. A trip to the grocery store is more concerning than the office. I haven't been in the physical presence of family or friends for about 2 weeks. I stay in touch by text or phone call. Work meetings are video calls which helps to not feel isolated.
I wish everyone would start doing the right things so we can end this sooner than later. My blood was boiling watching spring breakers.

Steve...I'm glad you and Chuck seem to be holding up. I feel the same way about workers not wearing gloves and masks. I went grocery shopping Friday and disinfected my refrigerator and frozen foods but non perishables are still sitting untouched in the bags.
Again, stay safe everyone and please check in every now and then so we know you're ok
Comment by Steve G. on March 30, 2020 at 7:50am

Chuck and I are in self isolation, and have been since the end of Feb.  We order our groceries online and then drive to the store to pick them up.  They have special parking spaces and a specific phone number to call.  then someone  brings them out and loads them in the back.  the last time we ordered the wait for pick up was 4 days out.  some of the items we ordered were not available.  we sat there watching shoppers  going in without protection and it looked like there were a lot of shoppers.

I had to make a trip to CVS pharmacy yester day, wearing gloves and mask for my allergy meds and my prescription.  wanted to get some rubbing alcohol, and found none, was astonished to see none of the workers and the 3 others shopping were not wearing any protection.

We are still doing fine, staying indoors except to get mail and of course Chuck still feeds the birds.

we watch a lot of movies, talk to each other a lot, and chuck is making more masks from the cotton fabric he has and from a pattern he found online.  we intend to send some to his friend in upper state NY.  

there is an app you can download to your phone called zoom.  it allows you to set up a video conference call.  Chuck and his friend in NY talk once a week via this app it helps to see faces of whom you are talking to.

Stay safe is our message to all and sending hugs to all, we can all get through this together.

Comment by Marsha H on March 30, 2020 at 6:11am

Dear Sara ...  So sorry to hear about this, but try not to worry.  I have 3 girlfriends working; 1 in Costco, 2 in large companies and there was one person in each place that had the corona virus.  All my friends are just fine and are staying home; working from home.  For now please stay away from relatives, the elderly and friends for a bit to be sure.  You can also call your doctor to test you if you are worried and they take a nasal swab from you.  I'm praying everything is going to be fine for you and I really think you are A-OK.  The link Mary gave you is very informative and should calm your fears.



Comment by Mary. Jane on March 29, 2020 at 9:17pm

I dunno if this link will work..but this gave me hope.

Comment by Mary. Jane on March 29, 2020 at 9:12pm

Oh Sara..stay safe.Prayers coming for you.

Comment by Sara Murphy on March 29, 2020 at 8:14pm

Just found out today there's a confirmed case in my office.  We weren't told who the person is but HR has contacted those that have been in contact with that person and I'm happy to say HR hasn't contacted me.  I've been bouncing between working from home and going into the office but i guess I'll be staying home now.

Hope all of you and your families are still doing well. 


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