Bereaved Spouses

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Comment by Trina Mamoon on September 21, 2020 at 1:32pm

Thank you, Steve, for honoring the memory of your friend Julio who died of COVID and for sharing with us here. It's very sad.

My cousin, who was 58 years old, died of COVID in May. He left behind his loving wife and two teenage daughters. My cousin's story is similar to your friend's.

200,000 people have now perished by the virus. Can you imagine the grief and desperation of all the family members that these deaths have caused? We are living in a time of great sorrow and loss. These are harsh times and could get even worse by December as the scientific and medical projections note.

Praying for you and Chuck and everyone else on this forum to be safe and well.

Hugs, Trina

Comment by Steve G. on September 21, 2020 at 7:38am

Today I am posting a link to a story I found online about grief, specifically the Covid-19 survivors from the 200,000 souls lost to the pandemic.

I see facebook posts about it being a hoax, or folks saying that they do not anyone who has it or who has died.

In honor of my friend and former co-worker in South Florida.

He was 58, Mark and I met him while working in a call center in Tamarac, FL.  He eventually left the call center and got a new job elsewhere.  We remained friends all these years and was quite moved by Mark's passing in 2014; this past week I found out that he died from the virus.  He was 52 and left behind his wife and teen age daughter besides his large extended family.  Julio arrived in America as a 10 year old boy, placed into a raft by his parents to get him out of Cuba.  He did not know how to speak English and all he had was a note with his nearest relatives phone number in his pocket.   Quite a story on it's own, but he made it, learned English, went to school and the US his home by becoming a citizen.  

I will miss his humor and his artwork, (he posted his sketches on FB, very talented).  RIP my friend, I am sure you and Mark will have a grand time catching up.

Comment by Mary. Jane on September 11, 2020 at 10:59pm

WOW...I have no words..awesome

Comment by Chicago Beard on September 11, 2020 at 2:00pm


Went to you tube and checked out "Where Is The Love." She has a very contemporary sound. She does have a nice voice though her music is not what I like to listen to. I gave the video a like.

Comment by deborah peck on September 11, 2020 at 12:35pm

So my daughter had her first single record come out today, Im so excited for her, her voice is amazing and she finally found the right producer, she is on all the music apps on the internet and you tube. her name is Soulkatt and the song is ' Where is the love" , hope you all check it out

Comment by deborah peck on September 11, 2020 at 12:30pm

Chuck, made me chuckle to think of the people at the restaurant when you proposed, people are so critical of others lives.  August is a hot spot for me too with the anniversary of my first husbands death on the 14th to the anniversary of Greg and my wedding on the 31st, I just try to keep busy but someone that really loves us can see us change when those dates approach. I too am wondering how our friends are doing in California during all this chaos that now includes fire, prayers and love to everyone

Comment by Charles E. Nelson on September 10, 2020 at 9:54pm

Dear Deborah,

I apologize for not acknowledging your and Greg's anniversary - what a lovely picture of you two!

The end of August and beginning of September are "loaded" calendar days for me - I proposed to Larry on Aug. 27th in 1983 (in a public restaurant - caused more than a few raised eyebrows I tell you!) - then just a few days later my mother passed away on Sept. 1st. I always get a little buggy around these dates, and I am so grateful and fortunate that Steve gets it and is very patient and comforting through my mood swings and somewhat erratic behavior. Of course, this is me we're talking about, so it would be fair if someone asked how such behavior differs from "everyday" Chuck.

I'm smiling thinking of you grilling for your family and playing games - Labor Day was always such a fun weekend for me with Larry - he had the long weekend and took the Friday off so we could get an early start driving to Hancock, Mass. to go antiquing, visiting a country fair, and just enjoy the beautiful Berkshire Mountain scenery during walks in woods and fields. These are some of my most pleasant memories  - thinking of them is so bittersweet that I don't even know how to describe the feelings. If I were a character in an episode of The Twilight Zone I would be the old man trying to go back in time...

I'm happy to know you are well, and really hope that everyone else is too. I especially worry about Mary Janr with the terrible fires, and send prayers to all who have friends or family out west. I'm waiting to hear about my cousin's family who moved to Portland 5 years ago.

Deborah you are indeed blessed to have your family near you - I pray they will always be so and that you have many more fun times ahead!

Love, Chuck - and love and hugs to all and be well and safe.

Comment by deborah peck on September 7, 2020 at 11:40am

Happy Labor day everyone, hope this day finds everyone healthy and happy. My kids and grandkids came over Saturday and I grilled for them and we all had fun playing games, including hide n seek for my youngest grandchild, was so nice, nothing makes me happier then when we are all together, I am truly blessed they all live near by, love to you all and stay safe

Comment by Trina Mamoon on September 1, 2020 at 11:49am

Dear Deborah,

Thinking of you today and sending you big hugs. The markers days the most painful, but as Marsha says, our beloved spouses are close to us even though they are no longer here physically. 

Let the wonderful memories of Greg and of your wedding day bring a smile to your face today.

Love, Trina 

Comment by Marsha H on September 1, 2020 at 7:10am

Dear Deborah ...  I am a little late responding (time change) and what a beautiful photo of you and Greg's wedding day.  I know it's difficult to believe our spouses are no longer with us.  I am sure he is close to you now.  Thanks for sharing the beautiful picture of both of you.  What a beautiful bride you are.

Love & Hugs



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